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    I was making small talk with a stripper named Athena at a club when she said something like "there's a lot of new girls here". So I looked around and saw another girl I recognized that had given me a lap dance once before. So I said "Do you know that girl over there? I think her name's Sophie." She said that she knew her but not personally. And then I thoughtlessly added "she masturbated on me" (which was true). Athena didn't really seem amused by that comment. We did carry on talking after that but I felt like I'd made a faux pas.
    Is it rude to mention something like that? I only said it b/c I literally could not think of anything else to say on the spot. I suck at small talk in general.

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    I have no idea why you're asking this rhetorical question......Yes its rude. What you do with a woman in private should stay in private.
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    Sorry, but that was trashy to mention some girl grinding on you to another woman. Whatever happen to talking about something fun like favorite film or cocktail to break the ice? Just try that next time

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    Is this real?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    Is this real?


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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I have no idea why you're asking this rhetorical question......Yes its rude. What you do with a woman in private should stay in private.
    You've gotta be fucking kidding me. This is an environment where sex appeal is sold for money. And what, you think she was talking to me b/c she just loved my personality!? The only reason a stripper talks to you is so that you'll pay for a lap dance. One out of place comment is now suddenly unthinkably rude? I'm sorry, next time I'll be the most perfect gentlemen before I pay her to rub her clit in my face.

    You'd think a girl that strips would be ok with a little sex talk. Didn't know how easy it was to be offensive.

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    NO I completely made this up. This kinda thing never happens in real life so I just thought I'd log onto stripper web and see what kind of story I could come up with that may get me some half assed answers .

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    Duh, dude but you do not have to be a dick about it! Is called sex work for a reason.It just seems like a lot of men do not understand how to behave in around sex workers. Just start off with small talk and then get down to business. Damn, it is like you no charisma or swag about yourself. I guess in this generation; there is a lack of Don Juans and Casanovas. You seem to highlight that as well. You are lacking in many areas but your money can make up for it. Just pretend to be smooth and throw money around. Then you will not have these bitch made problems, right?


    Quote Originally Posted by willywonka90 View Post
    You've gotta be fucking kidding me. This is an environment where sex appeal is sold for money. And what, you think she was talking to me b/c she just loved my personality!? The only reason a stripper talks to you is so that you'll pay for a lap dance. One out of place comment is now suddenly unthinkably rude? I'm sorry, next time I'll be the most perfect gentlemen before I pay her to rub her clit in my face.

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    ^^^^just cause you rolled out from under a rock with no home training does not give you rights to be rude and disrespectful to dancers in the club. Yes it's a sexually charged place but you can be seductive without being trashy and gross.

    Would I want to hear a customer tell me about the extras he performed for another b*tch?!? F*ck no. I'd walk away from you if I were her.

    Obviously you were offensive because not even "Athena" was trying to hear that.
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    How exactly do you know that I'm rude to all the dancers. I'm very polite and respectful to everyone there. It was just this ONE time that I said that ONE thing. Otherwise I've had no problems and the girls always enjoy my company. It seems your confusing me with the types of guys that are disrespectful to the girls working there. Also, it could be that I'm reading too into her reaction. She left and then came back and started talking to me again so clearly she wasn't that offended. I guess I won't mention such things next time.

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    If I were such a bad guy, I would not have bothered to find out whether what I did was wrong. I accept it, I was wrong to say it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
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    Would I want to hear a customer tell me about the extras he performed for another b*tch?!? F*ck no. I'd walk away from you if I were her.
    Fair enough.

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    Ok well my bad. I'm not saying you're a bad guy just that specific action.
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    Don't kiss and tell, or talk about dancers to other dancers. It's none of her business and starts drama.

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    Just have a good time don't talk about other girls. And be respectful, also money talks the most

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    Quote Originally Posted by willywonka90 View Post
    You've gotta be fucking kidding me. This is an environment where sex appeal is sold for money. And what, you think she was talking to me b/c she just loved my personality!? The only reason a stripper talks to you is so that you'll pay for a lap dance. One out of place comment is now suddenly unthinkably rude? I'm sorry, next time I'll be the most perfect gentlemen before I pay her to rub her clit in my face.

    You'd think a girl that strips would be ok with a little sex talk. Didn't know how easy it was to be offensive.
    a little sex talk and talking about what you did with girl standing three feet away is two different things

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    Yeah that's wrong. Just because you are in a high sex appeal environment, doesn't mean you can say inappropriate things. Would you tell a girl you were on a date with that your waitress once gave you a handie? No.


    If a guy said that to me, I would be grossed out. I don't want to hear what random girl did to your penis. Plus hand jobs are so boring.





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    I mean Jesus H. Christ, don't get your nuts in a wringer about it! Of course we're going to give you shit about it, what do think this is here? I mean, damn, go to the club & have fun, talk about your escapes outside the club w/the guys!


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    Quote Originally Posted by willywonka90 View Post
    You've gotta be fucking kidding me. This is an environment where sex appeal is sold for money.
    Yup, it's a sexually charged environment with a solid reputation for very loose morals... which makes it a prime target for vice when they're having a slow day/week/need to get a win/whatever. Sex work or no, it's rude to kiss and tell. With civilian girls because it can hurt their reputation, and with sex workers because it can ruin their lives. It's a turn off largely because it implies you can't keep your experience to yourself, which means anything anyone does that's over the official legal line is apparently liable to be aired to the world by you. Guys airing dirty laundry like that is what draws the attention of vice. Sure, in this case, you only told another stripper, but she doesn't know that, and neither does anyone else. If you're so open to talking about it, who else have you told? Friends? Other customers who might be vice? Randos at a bar? Are there posts online now about this specific dancer at this specific club giving you extras? If other guys hear or see that, they might get the idea that it's okay to do that there, and they might start openly talking about all the little bonus sexy stuff they've recieved because hey, isn't this place so raunchy and great, you can just not even pretend to care? Again, maybe you only told her about it... but she has no way of knowing that, and just to repeat, neither does anyone else. At best, it tells her you're a high mileage customer who probably expects more now because some dancer was dirty for you. I'd walk away for that alone.

    In any case, the end result of gossip like that above ^^ is vice seeing the club as low hanging fruit and potentially coming in and busting the girls. It's a traumatic experience for everyone, whether they've given extras or not. Even if vice *doesn't* come in (though if enough customers start doing what you did, you can just about bet on vice coming in sooner or later) if word gets around to management that Girl XYZ is giving extras, guess who's fired? Perhaps rightly so, but take a moment to think before you speak. It's just a night in the strip club for you. You can walk away and never come back. This is the day-to-day life of everyone else you meet who works there though. Your words hold more weight than you may think. Unless you go to VIP first, it's not just dirty talk.

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    Man comes to stripperweb, asks question, expecting a specific answer.
    Strippers give a different answer
    Man gets butthurt, insults strippers.

    Just another day. Why even ask us questions? Just pretend you did, and pretend we said what you wanted. OR, come to the club, give me money, and ask your question. I'll tell you whatever you want to hear.

    Yawn.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Candycups View Post
    Yup, it's a sexually charged environment with a solid reputation for very loose morals... which makes it a prime target for vice when they're having a slow day/week/need to get a win/whatever. Sex work or no, it's rude to kiss and tell. With civilian girls because it can hurt their reputation, and with sex workers because it can ruin their lives. It's a turn off largely because it implies you can't keep your experience to yourself, which means anything anyone does that's over the official legal line is apparently liable to be aired to the world by you. Guys airing dirty laundry like that is what draws the attention of vice. Sure, in this case, you only told another stripper, but she doesn't know that, and neither does anyone else. If you're so open to talking about it, who else have you told? Friends? Other customers who might be vice? Randos at a bar? Are there posts online now about this specific dancer at this specific club giving you extras? If other guys hear or see that, they might get the idea that it's okay to do that there, and they might start openly talking about all the little bonus sexy stuff they've recieved because hey, isn't this place so raunchy and great, you can just not even pretend to care? Again, maybe you only told her about it... but she has no way of knowing that, and just to repeat, neither does anyone else. At best, it tells her you're a high mileage customer who probably expects more now because some dancer was dirty for you. I'd walk away for that alone.

    In any case, the end result of gossip like that above ^^ is vice seeing the club as low hanging fruit and potentially coming in and busting the girls. It's a traumatic experience for everyone, whether they've given extras or not. Even if vice *doesn't* come in (though if enough customers start doing what you did, you can just about bet on vice coming in sooner or later) if word gets around to management that Girl XYZ is giving extras, guess who's fired? Perhaps rightly so, but take a moment to think before you speak. It's just a night in the strip club for you. You can walk away and never come back. This is the day-to-day life of everyone else you meet who works there though. Your words hold more weight than you may think. Unless you go to VIP first, it's not just dirty talk.
    Excellent post, & great points


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    Eh yeah you're better off not talking about the dancers to other dancers at all but especially not in those terms. You're there to enjoy yourself, not to deal with drama, and the only thing that sort of thing will bring is drama between those two girls AND to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by We had a rabbit like you View Post
    Don't kiss and tell, or talk about dancers to other dancers. It's none of her business and starts drama.
    Quote Originally Posted by Candycups View Post
    Sex work or no, it's rude to kiss and tell. With civilian girls because it can hurt their reputation, and with sex workers because it can ruin their lives.
    This willy. Nobody likes a dude who seems so eager for approval that he gets diarrhea of the mouth about what he did with another dancer. It is not so much "rude" as it is a contemptible personality weakness that could be problematic for any dancer who deals with you. The dancer you were speaking with likely assumed that if you would do that to one girl, then you would do the same to her. So congratulations willy, you just assured that if either of those two girls ever do anything with you ever again, it will be a tame experience at best as neither will likely take a chance with a blabber mouth.

    Now I'm not one to tell any guy how to carry himself, but as an unrepentant dog who does a lot of things in a lot of places with a lot of ladies, I can tell you that discretion has been an important part of that. IMHO and IME if you want to get the most out of your experiences with dancers, then, as the old sports expression goes, act like you've been there before. Unless the girls talk among themselves (and sometimes they do), nobody knows shit about what I do with anyone else. I've sat in small clubs with 10 or less dancers where I have taken 3 of the girls on shift OTC at different points in time and nobody was the wiser. I've even had dancers try to pry information out of me about what I do with favorites, no doubt looking for shit to stir, and they got nothing. I say all of this not to be self-congratulatory, but to point out that zipped lips are appreciated and can bring benefits.

    Anyway, just my

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    i wouldn't call it "rude" exactly.. just kinda gross and off-putting. girls who don't do extras typically don't care to hear about how you got them from so-and-so. you're basically just ratting out the first girl and annoying the second girl

    if a guy starts telling me about things he did with another dancer, and they're things i'm not willing to do, i instantly accept that i won't be making money off him and start trying to figure out how to excuse myself from the conversation (probably what she was doing). he obviously wants something i'm not gonna give him so why stick around

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    Uggg and everyone says women are so sensitive! I don't get these guys that come to this site then freak the fuck out when you don't tell them what they want to hear.

    The OP is the same type of guy that would say women are emotional on their periods...

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