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    I have been going to clubs with my husband for a while now. We have drinks, watch the performances, tip generously and are always respectful and on our best behavior. I have a lot of respect for the dancers and what they do not to mention what they have to deal with.

    Recently, my husband and I decided to have our first private dance. We picked out a beautiful, friendly lady and proceeded. I have a history of bisexual relationships and was not uncomfortable but more that excited nervousness. Our dancer paid much more attention to me than my husband. A reality that both of us were happy about. Then the next day happened....

    I can't get this girl out of my head! I know she makes her money by being nice and complimentary to her customers. To say she does her job well is an understatement. But now, I feel like I'm going through a break up or something.

    So I want to know 3 things: Has this ever happened to any of the other female customers here? What do the dancers think after dancing for (and getting quite close to) a female customer? And, is it completely out of line to want to be this woman's friend (not sexually)?

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    Oh thank God I'm not the only one! I'm curious to see that too.

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    Much like with male customers, 99.99% of the time, you're just another customer to her and she's not interested in you outside the context of you spending money on her. It's great that you had fun, but that's what you paid her for.

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    So I want to know 3 things: Has this ever happened to any of the other female customers here? What do the dancers think after dancing for (and getting quite close to) a female customer? And, is it completely out of line to want to be this woman's friend (not sexually)?[/QUOTE]
    First of all let me thank you for being in the .0001% of female customers. It's a damn shame that there aren't more like you but unfortunately you're a small minority. I have a few female customers that have become friends after a long period of time. So it's not impossible but it takes time. Also she may be leery of you. Don't take it personally.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Okay, I hear what you are saying but follow up question....leery how? Like maybe I'm crazy? Or I want more physical attention from her for free?

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    Sounds like a huge crush, plus a reawakening (let's say) of your bi side. It's made you feel alive and sexual again. On other forums, it's called "c*nt-struck".

    You need to go to another strip club and get a dance from some other lovely lady. Rinse and repeat, until your crush fantasies all just merge into one happy train of thought, without a focus on one particular female.

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    I've been on both sides of this. My first ever lapdance as a customer (long before I became a stripper), I fell pretty hard for the girl who danced for me. So hard, in fact, that I never went back because at 21 I was shy as hell. Did she feel the same way? I'll never know. Probably not, but I think she genuinely enjoyed dancing for me even if she wouldn't have wanted to hang out IRL. It was a great experience. 8 years later, I still enjoy remembering her.

    I've also had female customers who have really liked me. I liked them, but not as much as they liked me. I think the odds of me liking a female customer on a deep level are greater than the odds of me liking a male customer, but honestly, I'm in 'work mode' at work and I usually keep realfeelings very segregated from workfeelings.

    My advice? Take it for what it is. You had an AWESOME dance with a great girl who probably really enjoyed dancing for you. There's a not-zero chance she super likes you as well. There's a much higher chance she sees you as a great customer, but as a customer only. Either way, I think you should go back, get more dances from her, enjoy the hell out of her...and see what happens.

    If you want to test it? Say something like "you seem so cool, I could totally see us being friends" and see what she says. If she says "Definitely!" but doesn't propose a time or place, she's a club friend--someone you enjoy at the level you're enjoying now. You shouldn't be hurt by this: some strippers (myself included) have very strong boundaries about meeting Out-Of-The Club friends in the club. If she proposes actually meeting up for coffee or something? Awesome.

    Either way, you sound like a great customer and I'm glad your first lapdance experience was so good.

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    All wonderful feedback! I will admit I have a strong girl crush on her, but I honestly don't want any kind of romantic relationship from her. It's just hard for me to go from being that physically intimate with someone to nothing at all. I'm really afraid to have another dance with her because I don't want this to go deeper and end up acting crazier than this. (Crazy is not my norm, believe it or not.) But the blending into one happy, sexy high is also a good idea.

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    Quote Originally Posted by TheHuntress79 View Post
    It's just hard for me to go from being that physically intimate with someone to nothing at all.
    You may want to reconsider if going to strip clubs is right for you then because male or female, that is exactly what is supposed to happen.

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    Default Re: Female customer's first lap dance

    It's all about money to me but in back my head, I could get butterfly's or little nervous but I don't often deal with females. But you must remember it's a dangerous industry for us so it's not easy to just meet up

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