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    The one thing I wish I knew before I started camming was how many scams there was out there who specifically set out their nets to fish for camgirls. I was pretty naive about everything when I started. Thanks goodness for Stripperweb as I was literally clicks away from signing up for a studio. Not to mention all the Wile E. Coyote plans that guys will use to try to scam free stuff.
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    I do not know how to insert a whole thread...but there is one entitled...'For all newbies...if you wondered what camming is like' hits the nail on the head for me...the ugly and the great. I found the thread when I was researching before actually really diving in. It helped. Wish it was a sticky...valuable info.

    Has been hard to find a guy that has no issue in this for my career path. Camming is more important to me...so I stay single. The greatest feeling is to get the money myself. #mannotneededrightnow

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    Same for the staying single. It just doesn't seem to work with me.

    I wish I would've known how horrible trolling is or even what it was. My first years of cam I was trolled hard. I did not grasp why. I did not understand. I wasted a lot of energy mad at dumbasses I didn't know.
    When someone said "your being trolled" I imagined a bridge with a troll but instead I got humans hiding under screen names.

    I wish I would've known models are quicker to turn their back on you over a number of things. I just dont waste my time anymore trying to figure out who likes me, who does not etc. I figure if we speak, even if its randomI know we are cool but I'm done and have been truly heartbroken how models can act.

    I wish I would've known how addicting the money is and how cam manipulated my mind to be faithful to one site or loose everything.

    I wish I would've known more about marketing myself years ago, so much money I potentially lost.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Erika_Xstacy View Post
    Same for the staying single. It just doesn't seem to work with me.

    I wish I would've known how horrible trolling is or even what it was. My first years of cam I was trolled hard. I did not grasp why. I did not understand. I wasted a lot of energy mad at dumbasses I didn't know.
    When someone said "your being trolled" I imagined a bridge with a troll but instead I got humans hiding under screen names.

    I wish I would've known models are quicker to turn their back on you over a number of things. I just dont waste my time anymore trying to figure out who likes me, who does not etc. I figure if we speak, even if its randomI know we are cool but I'm done and have been truly heartbroken how models can act.

    I wish I would've known how addicting the money is and how cam manipulated my mind to be faithful to one site or loose everything.

    I wish I would've known more about marketing myself years ago, so much money I potentially lost.
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    1. Men can and will objectify you and it’ll jade how you think of them

    They do this no matter where I am whether it's the street, the mall, the store, pumping gas, puking in the hospital waiting room, in class, etc. I'm just glad I can be getting paid for it since we need money to exist as human beings.

    2 . You’ll become addicted to the money

    Nah. I've taken for granted the accessibility and potential availability of it, but the money has not been consistent or come 'easy' in over 7 years.

    3. I should have saved WAY sooner

    All it takes is one emergency during the slow season and this would be a moot point, anyway.

    4. There IS a such thing as a “new” girl income and an “earning ceiling” as a veteran as well.

    I'm a veteran who can join any site and remain 'new' for a year or two at a time, so the new girl status doesn't really do anything for me. It's like changing strip clubs at any time during your career. You can change your stage name, clubs within your city, sites where you cam and you can always essentially be the 'new girl.' Also looking like you don't know what you're doing, asking 'what's that?' and wearing awful outfits can also signal 'new girl' so I don't know how much of that status holds weight.

    5. No matter how secure your relationship is your partner is ALWAYS going to be jealous and not cool with your job entirely

    This might be true for heteronormative relationships where the guy isn't in the industry or hasn't known people in the industry, which has been more of my experience, but even then, sometimes jealousy and insecurity creeps in. For the most part, that's just insecure and jealous or controlling and abusive types anyway, so it doesn't matter what you do, whether it's sex work or wearing a cleavage dress and heels, that behavior will always come out with the wrong person. It's very possible to find healthy relationships where this isn't the case, it's just who you choose to date.

    6. Often you’re going to do things that make you feel morally wrong, dirty or you’re not ok with after you’ve done them.

    Hell no. I've been guilty of this in my past, but I also had to think, well, are these ~my morals~ or how I think other people will be projecting their morals onto me, how they will treat me as a result, etc. I've done things in my past I'm not comfortable with now, but they aren't against my morals, by any means. I won't do anything that goes against my morals. I've been young and didn't know I could say 'no' however... Things I may have done in my past I might not do now, but it isn't due to morals. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with...doesn't matter if it's insertion, taboo fetish, boy/girl...whatever. Don't do it.

    7. There are ALOT of guys who do drugs on webcam and you have to either say NO that’s a limit or accept it and look away because often those guys are the ones who have a shit ton of money.

    I haven't seen guys use drugs on webcam. They ask if I smoke weed, but that's it. I've seen guys do drugs and offer them in the strip club, but haven't seen anything like that on cam. If it triggers you in some way, avoid it if possible... If they have the money to be spending on drugs AND cam? Baby won't you come my way.

    8. Know your limits and stick to them!

    Well, yeah, which was the point of #6, I thought...

    9. You’re gonna eventually develop a crush on a regular.

    Nope. Not on cams. Only happened to be at the club once.

    10. The more a guy spends, often the weirder he gets, don’t lead him on and he’ll either respect you more or show his true colors and save you ALOT of headaches!

    The more he spends, the more I like him. The more I like him, depending on how respectful he is of my boundaries, the more I'm willing to forgive when it comes to weirdness. What is #12 when you think someone who spends more can get 'weirder'...what even is 'weirder' ?? I've had clients turn stalkers, but that is my definition of weird. And disrespectful etc.

    11. You are NOT your fucking cam show!
    Yeah, never thought I was. It's a job.

    12. Your fantasies are not as weird as you think

    My fantasies of having a guy pay me millions per year to not cam aren't that weird is comforting.

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    I'm sure you can't say, but I wonder if you regret ever signing with your horrible studio that takes a percentage of your earnings for absolutely nothing.

    Also, OP, just wondering why you capitalize "me" in your statements. That's D/s stuff, not for talking with your peers.

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    I wish I'd known how this job would completely and utterly destroy my sex drive. I have no desire anymore at all. Touching my vagina is no different than touching my knee. My husband has health issues so it doesn't become a problem but when he does want to be intimate I have to act just like I was in a show and that makes me feel like a rotten person.
    That despite no longer having sexual feelings I'd be hyperfocused on sex and would always be thinking of it.
    That I would now hate most men. Except for my husband they truly disgust me and I don't even want to have basic interaction with them such as talking to a waiter.
    That there are so many pedophiles and just truly awful people in general.

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    Jenn has her points. I disagree with almost all of them but the only reason I am posting is in regard to "this is my job". In my opinion this is not a job this is just what you do. You are running a business. Your business. It is an awesome business too and business is good. If you own a restaurant and service sucks.....you will close. If you own a mobile dog grooming business and you show up late or not at all you will close. This is a great business because you get out of it everything you put in it. Never a job. I think I will try this or that to see what happens. You have to adapt to changing business conditions all the time. If you are a chef and you lose your love for cooking you quit. Same as in camming. If you find yourself feeling burnt out time to bow out. If you are only doing this for the money and don't enjoy it and take care of your customers they will leave. Jenn, to me it sounds like you need to step away for a little while but I am not a psychologist. Sounds like a great practice to start if I were. There will be a lot of cam performers that will need the help I am sure. Hang in there Jenn. Nobody here is picking on you. You are a great performer. You know that.

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    I actually LOVE that doing sex work has tremendously lowered my sex drive. I've been celibate for almost two years and abso-fucking-lutely LOVE it!
    I'm still a hoe, still love dicks. Still get excited when men sex me dick pics while they're at work for PAID, of course!
    Quote Originally Posted by SuperPookie View Post
    I wish I'd known how this job would completely and utterly destroy my sex drive. I have no desire anymore at all. Touching my vagina is no different than touching my knee. My husband has health issues so it doesn't become a problem but when he does want to be intimate I have to act just like I was in a show and that makes me feel like a rotten person.
    That despite no longer having sexual feelings I'd be hyperfocused on sex and would always be thinking of it.
    That I would now hate most men. Except for my husband they truly disgust me and I don't even want to have basic interaction with them such as talking to a waiter.
    That there are so many pedophiles and just truly awful people in general.
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    Also doesn't the money make celibacy feel better? I mean instead looking at dick pics for free...you can get paid stare at the penis. I got to say looking at dick for money is the best feeling in the world. Yay.

    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I actually LOVE that doing sex work has tremendously lowered my sex drive. I've been celibate for almost two years and abso-fucking-lutely LOVE it!
    I'm still a hoe, still love dicks. Still get excited when men sex me dick pics while they're at work for PAID, of course!

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    You are so right! Get paid to look and rate dicks, lol! I just LOVE being a #hoe

    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    Also doesn't the money make celibacy feel better? I mean instead looking at dick pics for free...you can get paid stare at the penis. I got to say looking at dick for money is the best feeling in the world. Yay.
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    Ladies seriously someone else posted this and besides I really think the way you all talk to other performers in general is really rude and had made several GOOD models including me want to delete My profile so thanks

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    What I meant is that I linked this to a friend and it was posted this was originally supposed to be a private journal entry not to be posted to a public forum when I was having a rough day and going through a breakup with the person who I mentioned who yes was EXTREMELY jealous and camming just made it worse because hey some people can't handle what you do no matter what it is. Also I would prefer if I didn't have My name thrown around poorly because we all have rough days and times of burn out, it's not Me being "hypersensitive" I've been in this profession over 14 years and needed an honest break from it and life losing 4 family members in 6 months and going through a divorce will kinda do that to someone it sucks but hey life happens. I simply don't want to come on here anymore to be honest because often I see a lot of other girls cammodels, strippers or otherwise just really tear another apart and well it saddens Me because I want us to be supportive of another, I want to delete My profile for that reason. Also I have and continue to use D/s protocol with My speech because well I have been in the lifestyle 24/7 and it's just naturally how I write so excuse Me if it bothers you then please don't read.

    Also thankyou Erika for being supportive and real, I've always admired you and now even more so, I don't want this thread around anymore to be honest and am trying to find a way to delete the entire thing but haven't seen how to do so, I thought some of the comments on here are downright rude and uncalled for but we work on the internet and we all know trolling happens!

    What I want to say is that we all have shitty days, we all have good days, we all do things on cam regardless that just sucks and I'm so glad that so many of you have the ability to not only look at your clients as basically walking wallets and never develop any feelings what so ever for them it's admirable I Myself just have and continue to enjoy My clientele to the point that I consider a lot of them My friends so it makes it more fun when they are around!

    Let someone have a day where they are burnt out or having a time to vent I'm sorry I shouldn't have linked someone else to a private listing between friends but shit happens and yes I was in a poor mood I don't have to justify it let this thread die please and let's move on.

    In terms of limits and what not I'm sorry if My opinion offended but yes we all have done things we are not proud of for money, we all have had crappy things happen it's part of what the industry is and continues to be and yeah it does jade you somewhat but int he end you get paid and paid well and enjoy it I know I do!

    Right now is what I like to call summer burn out it's SLOW on webcam we all know this and often YES we have to step back I took a month off needed to. Please be nicer to another is all I'm asking for thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XAnastasiaX View Post
    Deleted. Someone posted on My behalf. Don't respond to this or read it thanks.
    How can someone post on your behalf? It's easy to see when you are starting a thread.

    I read the original post. All I'm gonna say is it sounded like (even though it wasn't meant to be) you were generalizing everything into everyone's experience and that it was gonna happen to everyone that steps foot into the industry.

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    Let's just say that you have a favorite product on Amazon. You decide to do a review on said product and it is mostly negative. Pretty soon, there are other reviews, by other people that are positive. You get very upset that there are so many positive reviews and not that many that agree with your negative review. You decide Amazon sucks and that other reviewers who do not agree with you suck and vow never to shop at Amazon.

    If you can't take the debating then why post on a popular forum? You are absolutely allowed to have a bad day and expect empathy but we are not going to coddle you with milk and cookies. I certainly don't need yet another post about how much camming sucks when there are actually several popular threads that show up at the top of this forum eg. general suckage, Streamate suckage, shitty things customers say, etc. In fact, the camming rocks thread is quite possibly the only positive thread and it is significantly less in number of posts. Oh well, since this is a forum I just pick and choose what I feel like reading so no big deal.

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    :-D I wish I would have known I would never be able to allow myself to work for someone again. Instead of being smart and starting my own business and using camming as a catapult, I keep trying to go back to a vanilla job (I am DONE!).

    For the first couple months I'm like, "well ok, this is not so bad".... then by month 3 I am like, "Look I do NOT have to deal with this! I am not a child and you will not tell me where and when I need to be somewhere. Take your bad, unprofessional attitude, office politics and shove them up your ass. I will need an extra $50 for the verbal abuse and instructions I just gave you."

    I am coming back f/t to camming, but this time I am upgrading myself and feel blessed that I have this ability. I wish I would have known how much I would require my freedom before I started camming. I cannot handle not being the boss bitch anymore. :-)

    My resignation letter turned in, people ask me what I am going to be doing instead.... I try not to smirk, "I am going into internet sales and marketing. I will end up making twice as much, in half the time, can work anywhere I have a solid internet connection, make my own hours, entertain clients. Yo you can see why this is a no-brainier decision. It was a really tough decision, but how would anyone pass that up?" I die laughing inside while they look at me gloss eyed with evny :-D
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    Quote Originally Posted by JackAlexander View Post
    :-D I wish I would have known I would never be able to allow myself to work for someone again. Instead of being smart and starting my own business and using camming as a catapult, I keep trying to go back to a vanilla job (I am DONE!).

    For the first couple months I'm like, "well ok, this is not so bad".... then by month 3 I am like, "Look I do NOT have to deal with this! I am not a child and you will not tell me where and when I need to be somewhere. Take your bad, unprofessional attitude, office politics and shove them up your ass. I will need an extra $50 for the verbal abuse and instructions I just gave you."

    I am coming back f/t to camming, but this time I am upgrading myself and feel blessed that I have this ability. I wish I would have known how much I would require my freedom before I started camming. I cannot handle not being the boss bitch anymore. :-)

    My resignation letter turned in, people ask me what I am going to be doing instead.... I try not to smirk, "I am going into internet sales and marketing. I will end up making twice as much, in half the time, can work anywhere I have a solid internet connection, make my own hours, entertain clients. Yo you can see why this is a no-brainier decision. It was a really tough decision, but how would anyone pass that up?" I die laughing inside while they look at me gloss eyed with evny :-D
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    Quote Originally Posted by XAnastasiaX View Post
    I've been in this profession over 14 years and needed an honest break from it and life losing 4 family members in 6 months and going through a divorce will kinda do that to someone it sucks but hey life happens. I simply don't want to come on here anymore to be honest because often I see a lot of other girls cammodels, strippers or otherwise just really tear another apart and well it saddens Me because I want us to be supportive of another, I want to delete My profile for that reason.
    <snip...>
    Let someone have a day where they are burnt out or having a time to vent I'm sorry I shouldn't have linked someone else to a private listing between friends but shit happens and yes I was in a poor mood I don't have to justify it let this thread die please and let's move on.
    <snip...>

    Right now is what I like to call summer burn out it's SLOW on webcam we all know this and often YES we have to step back I took a month off needed to. Please be nicer to another is all I'm asking for thanks.
    A very smart friend once told me that if you are looking for support from people that you have to specifically state that is your need or else other people will naturally default to the understanding that you are asking or offering advice.

    I am very sorry that for all the loss in your life lately. I know that camming is a very hard job as is and it becomes nightmarish hard when you are on the edge of an emotional knife.

    You have asked everyone to be nicer to each other but what you don't seem to understand is that criticism isn't hate. I can't speak for everyone else but I know I rather personally have valid criticism then empty platitudes.

    I do hope you will stay.

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