
Originally Posted by
Magical_Hoohah
I'm a Jack OFF All Trades, bb! XD
I think Sanachan and Bootsie had some great advice. There's a difference between feeling uncomfortable because you have physical, mental, or moral issues with something versus feeling uncomfortable with something because you think you're going to suck at it. In the latter case, there's really no harm in trying it out - preferably with guys that aren't regulars, so if you do suck the first few times, you only lose a custie that you would've turned down anyway. Also, it's okay to let them know you're not an expert. If you indicate that you haven't done a lot of ____ but that you've really been wanting to try it, a lot of guys are cool with that. Many of them are happy with enthusiasm in place of expertise, and those that are looking for someone experienced will thank you for your honesty.
As to domming as a sub, when I started camming, I thought I was entirely a sub, and was sad that there were relatively few Doms that wanted to play with me. There were just tons and tons of subby guys that would come to my room and want me to be their "Mistress." It irritated me. I started to feel like any man who wasn't a Dom was just a worthless nuisance. I found I wanted to slap them all and step on their faces. And then I had a light bulb moment, and realized I could use that sentiment to be a Domme.
I didn't realize it right away, but I was also pretty good at SPH from the start. I have too many real life experiences where a guy flirted well and talked a good game, then his cock was just too small to be worth it, but I didn't feel comfortable stopping the sex because of his small dick. I know it's horrible, but those incidents really irritated me. I honestly wanted to yell at those guys for letting me waste time and energy on a truly disappointing fuck. Especially since afterward, they did the typical male ego thing and wanted to hear all about how awesome it was for me.
So yeah, if you feel some irritation toward the subby guys, you can harness that feeling and mix it with a little bit of research, and voilą!
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