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    Default What are men like in the clubs now?

    Ladies,

    I left dancing about 8 years ago, but I remember it being with men paying plenty of money to see me naked, plenty of money to sit and talk, etc. I'm curious what men are like in clubs now because it seems men have gotten so cheap in the dating world and I think that's partly women's fault. It seems like women are thinking they should be offering to pay for dates or at least the second date and my thoughts are as ex-stripper, NO!!! The man pays. Am I outdated here and just spoiled as an ex-stripper?
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    Default Re: What are men like in the clubs now?

    It's not the same as it was 8 years ago. You can still make decent money, but guys were wayyy spendier back then. That said, I did have a great regular for the last 2 years and because of him they were my best 2 years since say 2005 or 06.

    I'm with you...a guy should pay for the date.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveyDovey View Post
    It's not the same as it was 8 years ago. You can still make decent money, but guys were wayyy spendier back then. That said, I did have a great regular for the last 2 years and because of him they were my best 2 years since say 2005 or 06.

    I'm with you...a guy should pay for the date.
    What do you think has caused the change? Girls giving it up too easily? Girls offering to pay? Or internet porn that's free? That's what I think.
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    Default Re: What are men like in the clubs now?

    Prob depends on your area.

    Overall I think the industry is not the same as it was several years ago. Lots of places are becoming more restrictive (i.e. Multiple Threads on being required to wear pasties, full bottoms, no alcohol, increase min dancer age, etc). Men aren't spending as much because they aren't able to see and do what they used to. Many dancers are moonlighting as escorts and have other adult or vanilla careers.

    Despite all this there is still potential to make lots of money just have to be skilled at hustling and be willing to adapt or take on other streams of income if dancing doesn't pan out how you want.
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    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876 View Post
    What do you think has caused the change? Girls giving it up too easily? Girls offering to pay? Or internet porn that's free? That's what I think.
    Guys have a tendency to guilt girls from what I have seen. They'll pull bullshit like "Oh, If girls want gender equality they have to pay their own way or they are hypocrites." Therefore, my hypothesis is a lot of girls pay for their own stuff to not appear a hypocrite. Men love control. They love to be dominant and the minute something doesn't work to their advantage, they whine and bitch at "how unfair it is to be a man and have to pay everything" bullshit. My 2 cents.

    And free internet porn sites? I detest them with every bone in my body. It fucks up the whole sex industry.

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    I dunno... I started dancing 7 years ago, and I don't recall it being all that different. Maybe my area has stayed afloat because we're a tourist destination? But men still spend, still get dances, still do the CR... Some are well-behaved but most are pervy assholes....

    Dating, I agree, is out of control. Aziz Ansari has a really great nonfiction book called Modern Romance that talks about the reasons why dating has become this way. It's part technology and part cultural shifts... But to be honest, I've had some pretty good luck finding chivalrous guys who will open the car door for me, pay for dinner, etc... It just takes some digging to find them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    Guys have a tendency to guilt girls from what I have seen. They'll pull bullshit like "Oh, If girls want gender equality they have to pay their own way or they are hypocrites." Therefore, my hypothesis is a lot of girls pay for their own stuff to not appear a hypocrite. Men love control. They love to be dominant and the minute something doesn't work to their advantage, they whine and bitch at "how unfair it is to be a man and have to pay everything" bullshit. My 2 cents.

    And free internet porn sites? I detest them with every bone in my body. It fucks up the whole sex industry.
    Yes! That's for sure. Men love calling women gold diggers. I'm so tired of hearing that. Seriously, a woman is not a gold digger because she expects the man to pay for the first few dates. I'm so jaded with men, from being a former dancer and now dating. Actually, I think I liked men a lot more when I was dancing versus since I've tried online dating.

    And I detest internet porn also! The men that watch internet porn seem to have a distorted view of reality. Internet porn has hurt ALL women everywhere!
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    I've been dancing since 2001 with several breaks including a retirement break for 3 years. IMO I see more of the perverted basement dwelling sex addicts coming in (they often spend well but dealing with them is taxing) I think these guys get gassed up on hours of Internet porn & then come to a club to pick a fave girl to project their fantasies on.

    Lucky for me I work in a lot of working class clubs so I get to see guys coming in with friends or guys just wanting to relax after a hard day's work. These customers don't have the nastiness & social maladjustment of Mom's Basement Dwelling Failure Of Manhood customer.

    Harsh but just my 2 cents.

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    Dating and dancing are two totally different animals. We are getting paid for doing our jobs at the club we earn that money through work, so confused as to how those intersect. (When a guy tries to pull the "I care about women's rights but only when it affects my wallet!" Bullshit I remind them that they get paid 30% more for the same job as I would and that usually shuts them up). But if customers have gotten cheap I believe it has to do with the economy as all professions are suffering right now.

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    I don't think you're outdated at all! Yes, lots of dumb chics out there ruining shit.

    Like in my club, there's lots dumb ass girls sucking raw dick and on top of that they do it by you and for a fkn low ball price. They don't realize they can make the same or more without doing all of that shit. Yeah, some good clients have been ruined.

    I've seen guys demand shit to girls like slaves itc. Fkn put your foot down. Ugh. I can smell that type of customer now and know who to avoid.

    And for dating??? Ha! Why should a guy put in an effort to get to "know someone" & pay for dates, when all he has to do is go on these apps like Tinder or whatever the fuck else there is now a days, for an easy free cheap lay? It's just way too easy. Then you have these "instagram models" lol... just showing a lot for?? FREE??

    Men are spoiled! They're getting a lot for very little to free these days. There's barely any mystery or challenge out there anymore. Guys rather catch Pokeman than getting to know/spend on girls. Men are like dogs. You reward them with bad behavior and they won't learn.
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    Vyanka has hit the nail on the head. When Inwas dancing there were still the girls out there giving it away for vodka and attention but increased pornification of society has made it ten times worse.

    Free internet porn has diminished the thrill of a lapdance and lowered inhibitions of girls who will perform acts that previously people would pay is to simulate. Who wants some soft core girl on girl simulation in the CR room when every other pair of chicks in the bar will these days go home and give it you for real for bragging rights? Porn aesthetics abound and where ordinary girls never used to bother with nails, lashes, proper makeup etc now it is the norm because every girl thinks they are a model just beciase they're posting pics of themselves in their underwear on Instagram for nothing more than likes.
    The art of tease and seduction has been drowned out by an abundance of free sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by We had a rabbit like you View Post
    Dating and dancing are two totally different animals. We are getting paid for doing our jobs at the club we earn that money through work, so confused as to how those intersect. (When a guy tries to pull the "I care about women's rights but only when it affects my wallet!" Bullshit I remind them that they get paid 30% more for the same job as I would and that usually shuts them up). But if customers have gotten cheap I believe it has to do with the economy as all professions are suffering right now.
    I agree dancing and dating are different, I've done both. I was just wondering if guys in the club were willing to pay to see women naked and get attention or if they've gone super cheap. The reason I'm wondering is it's seems men in the dating world have gotten very lazy and cheap and it's like, don't you want female attention or even try to get laid? It's like men think it's crap to buy a woman dinner, really? I remember when a man would pay me $500 an hour or more to just sit and talk with him and now it's hard getting guys to want to do anything. I hate easy ho's on Tinder and hate internet porn for ruining it for all of us!!!
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    It depends on your club and your look, IMO. Your mileage will vary for $$ and respectful-ness in a dive vs. a high-brow place. You can still find decent guys but it may be a bit harder and they will spend less than they did 8 years ago.

    I work in a mid-tier club with a mix of older dudes and younger ones. There's also a mix of girls, from 19-40 in age.
    I make most of my $$ off a select sect of customers, the older guys who like a bit of privacy and appreciate a conversation. I find them to be pretty well-behaved for the most part. It is a blue-collar area and mid-tier club, so they rarely drop more than $200 on a girl, but they're generally respectful, say things like "That was great/you're fantastic/I needed a pretty girl on my lap for a while!" and will tip a $20. You see what I'm getting at? They're still happy to have the 'opportunity' of a club. Most of us 'seasoned' dancers that aren't into bullshit go for these guys.

    The younger dudes... UGH. Yes those are the ones that porn and Tinder have ruined. They are the assholes who sit at the rail and judge with their arms crossed, tipping $1 IF you do a 'trick'. They are entitled time wasters and won't do VIP unless they are drunk as fuck, because "why should I pay for that, I get pussy for free". IME, it takes 15 minutes to crank a damn $10 dance out of them Unfortunately the young dancers who want to drink and party will still entertain these cheap fucks and they keep coming back.

    I think you'll still make money, though doubtful it'll be 2008 money, if you find a club that gets a decent amount of the first category guy, and if you can still present yourself as their type of girl (I'm sure you can )
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    On topic.... the issues with customers these days has honed my "take no prisoners" hustle instinct. When I was young & dumb I was very laid back. Now that I am exposed to some of the nastier things customers are willing to say/do now....I definitely don't let guys jerk me around or waste my time.

    It used to be that strip clubs were "special" or "edgy/unique" but now it's like some of these guys marinade themselves in stupid "Family Guy" jokes & ideas that it's OK to abuse dancers because we're stereotypes......many come in just to abuse us. Being able to identify this kind of guy quickly is really important because you can warn other girls about his shtick, or you can get get away from him before he succeeds in his mission of messing up your day or night.

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    I am curious what clubs will look like in 20 years when the group of decent guys have stopped coming and the younger ones are in their 40s.... *shudder*. That's if clubs even still exist.
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