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    Hi ladies,
    I'm about to turn 25 soon and honestly I feel really bad about it. I never ever in my life thought aging will be issue in my head, but now it doesn't seem like that. I hate that social pressure women have, to be beautiful, to get married, have children, etc. I was never one of those "regular" cases and when I was younger it was easy being me, now it's hard and I feel everything is falling apart. I feel like I'm not supposed to wear certain clothes, go to certain places, behave certain ways because it's inappropriate.. so feeling really bad, but I'm telling myself it's just normal phase of life that everyone will go through. My question is how did u feel when u turned 25? How do you feel now? If you are younger, what do you think about getting older? I really wanna hear what single girls have to say about this, especially in our industry.
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    I felt fine when I was 25. I'm going to turn 43 soon. Feels like they years are flying by. I take good care of myself. I dunno. I feel good!

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    I'm 31. I had a sparkly Victoria secret backpack and felt like I was "too old". That's so stupid. Who cares? Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.

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    I get it. I didn't freak out at 25 but after my 27th birthday, I suddenly did an "oh shit" spiral, even though, like you, I never thought I'd be that person that freaks out over aging - especially before my 40s or something. If anything, it helped spark a fire under my butt to figure out what I wanted to do, at least for the near future. And that may change later on, and I have to be ok with that too - it helps to look up stories about people changing careers and starting new life phases in their late-30s, 40s, 50s.

    Mid-20s really is young still with so much time left to start and change paths a bunch of times. The societal idea that you're "running out of time" is bullshit. You hit adulthood and have to go to college right now at 18, graduate college at 22, now go figure out what career you want to be in right now. And if you haven't figured it out in 3 years because you're adjusting to the fact that you're out of school for literally the first time in 20 years of your life... you're a failure! How ridiculous...

    In this day and age, I guarantee you that almost no one you see "on track" for something that they started right at the cusp of adulthood is going to stay on that track all their life. Nice for them that they used some years to explore something, but haven't you also? Just because you're a dancer, that doesn't mean your life experience isn't a valid way to have spent your time. You'll move on to something else eventually, and those other people probably will too.

    I've started looking at people who are rushing rushing rushing to check off all these items on their "to-do" list for life and feeling sorry for them. This is your life! It's not a scavenger hunt that you're supposed to finish as quickly as possible. It's a journey. Relationships shouldn't be forced because society says you MUST be married by now. Babies shouldn't come into this world just because you feel pressure from everyone else's facebook feed. Careers shouldn't be started just because you feel like you have to mature and go plop down in an office chair somewhere. When you think about the fact that you still have 40+ years in the working world, let alone your years after that, "wasting" the last what? - 3-7 years of your beginning adult life... it's a blip.

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    The same way I do now..like I'm one more year from death LOL! Love hearing people complain or moan when saying "Oh please don't say that, why thank you for calling me old!" However its kinda true given the realization that we are aging and our clear, elastic skin will one day winkle. It makes you want to run out, meet new people, bath in berries, throw out junk food and appreciate your beauty in the time it still lasts. Its scary as crap and hearing others claim there are years ahead of you, makes it feel like time is already running out. The panic that you'll be 27, 28..then 29..and omg 30 is daunting, not having kids, plans or a someone to share life with can be overwhelming. (This was my experience)

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    If it makes you feel any better, I am 33 and never felt more alive. I found the love of my life at 29, almost 30, married him and had our daughter at 32. This was after wasting a whole decade of life with an asshole. Life is waiting for you, and I will say 25 is oh-so-young. Oh, and after I got divorced, I just dressed how I felt, wore shorts and clothing and sexy outfits you'd expect a 20-something to wear. In my opinion, you will be just fine. You shouldn't feel compelled to dress or act a certain way because of your age!!
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    I felt older and sadder and uglier and more ill when I was 25 than I do now at (almost) 45. I was 70 pounds lighter at age 25 and thought I was fucking huge. Now I KNOW I am huge, and don't care/actually embrace it.

    Turning 25, or even 30, is daunting. Turning 40 really DOES liberate you. I am looking forward to 50

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    You are all inspiring... I really hope this phase ends quickly so I can focus on important stuff. Just,, years are passing so fast and so slow at the same time and I feel pressure. Woman has to take care of herself, have appropriate clothes and behavior, care about skin hair etc. ahhh, men are so lucky, they basically don't need maintenance, I mean we won't die if we don't care for our bodies and faces, but you know what I mean. If you want to be normal woman you gotta dedicate to take care of yourself. it's not that I hate it that much but every time when I'm getting ready for something I need more and more time. Women around me are one of the most beautiful in the world and they are all OBSESSED about their looks and clothes, I'm 100% sure it's because of society and "competing" among each other and it's so damn stupid. We are so much more than men... We're not meant to be just pretty.


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    I don't remember. I was probably high off my ass on coke.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CatBBW View Post
    I felt older and sadder and uglier and more ill when I was 25 than I do now at (almost) 45. I was 70 pounds lighter at age 25 and thought I was fucking huge. Now I KNOW I am huge, and don't care/actually embrace it.

    Turning 25, or even 30, is daunting. Turning 40 really DOES liberate you. I am looking forward to 50
    I like being 42! I also enjoyed being 25. And I plan on being a hot old bitch. It's all about what you feel inside.

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    It's not the number that matters, it's how good you look. Start now on wrinkle creams. Keep that collagen, girl!





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    Aging is scary for a woman in his society. The fact a 25 year old is feeling old proves this..girl you are so young and I'm sure beautiful!! This country's absolutely obsessed with feminine youth. While a dude can look hot and distinguished with a few wrinkles and streaks of grey hair,,the same look is haggish on a female? Esp in his industry.
    I was terrified of aging up until a little while ago and I'm still trying to work through it. And I'm 28.
    I did the whole marriage and baby thing early and it doesn't make you feel any better about the years going by, trust me. For awhile I reminded myself that women in my family age great, but that wasn't getting down to,the root of my fear..which was, "wtf is so bad about looking your age or getting older." There a time for everything, why do I want to stagnate myself and stay in one phase of my life?? And why is it that looking under 25 is the only way to be beautiful ? And why do I have to cut my hair and wear GAP clothes and granny panties once my time on this earth has reached a set amount of cycles?? It's stupid.
    It's the only reason I do want to leave this industry at some point. I love dancing but the strange obsession w looking a set age and only that being acceptable and important is getting to me. I wanna find smthg else I love doing where I can age like a normal human and be at peace with it, whenever it is that I start to age.
    Have a lot of feelings on this, sorry for the rant. Right now I'm still finding out who I am, what I wanna do, and living more in the moment instead of worrying about the future and inevitable aging process..and when that comes I'll deal with it how I want in my own way without people telling me what I have to do cause I'm 30/50/100. I honestly can't wait to be an ethereal looking old woman with long snowy white hair, whatever , my age I'll rock it

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    You're going to look back at this and be like "I was 25, why the fuck was I even scared of aging at this point?"

    In the media it seems like everyone only likes girls under 20, but who are running these? Fat old bald men who regret their own youth, so they are obsessed with young girls. Absolutely disgusting. Other men, however, not so much. I think being a stripper has actually made me more okay with aging physically, because there's still hot 40+ year olds that beat the youngins when it comes to hustling and impressing the guys.

    Everyone loves a milf. Young people are like grape juice, sweet and generally amicable to the taste buds, but older people either become sour juice or fine wine. That's where it's up to you. Just take care of yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally. Go to school, live life, become good at something, put yourself in a position where you can help others.


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    Default Re: Turning 25

    I just turned 24 and I feel the same way. I worry about aging all the time, it consumes a lot of my time. It stresses me out.

    I am also transgender, so I feel extra pressure to be the most beautiful, femenine, cute, attractive, etc. woman in the room because I feel I have more to prove because I am transgender.

    Aging is scary as hell, I have seen changes in my face over the past 4 years that seem so dramatic.

    The posts here have made me feel a bit better, also I know older women are hot anyway. My fiance actually has told me many times that he actually prefers the "look" of a woman with some age to her face, like in 30's. I actually prefer men who are in their 30's to men my age.

    I think the best advice I can offer with my current knowledge on aging is cliche but totally valid. Eat healthy, don't smoke, don't drink alcohol (too much ), don't do drugs, EXERCISE ALL MUSCLE GROUPS WEEKLY!!

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    The sooner you start taking care of your skin the better, I recently saw one of my former best friends from highschool. We hadn't seen each other for at least 4 years. She is now 26. She never washed her makeup off before bed, and even when she did she never removed it correctly. As in just used regular face wash with a full face of makeup on. She never wore sunscreen and always made fun of me for taking care of my skin and worrying about aging even when I was in my late teens.

    I am in no way saying I am perfect or have no signs of aging, but I could not believe how much older she looked. She honestly looked like a woman in her mid to late 30's.

    So I first hand have watched the effects of neglecting your skin on someone with over a decade of reference, and it is not pretty or worth it. The extra time it takes to care for your face is so worth the benefits.

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