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    So here's my situation, I have a very small circle of friends. I love them but we are all at very different places in our lives making it hard to hang out with each other regularly. My lifestyle is very different from most girls my age, I'm a stripper/sugar baby and I don't have kids/a boyfriend, or anything holding me back. So I have lots of freedom and free time. The problem is, my friends dont. Most of my friends are civilian women with full time jobs and other commitments (family, kids, etc). They cant just get up and go to travel with me or go clubbing. I have some casual girl friends who I do that with but we aren't all that close (location wise either). I generally try not to get too close to the girls I work with or other dancers in general because a lot of them are hot messes (unfortunately). I only have 2 other dancer friends and they are kind of on the border of being hot messes.

    My question is, what are the best ways/the best places to go about meeting good girl friends? Girls who are fun but not crazy hot messes and don't have things holding them back? I want and need girl friends who's lives are more compatible with mine and are able to do stuff and have fun with me. I already have tons of guy friends who I have fun with, its time for me to have more girl friends! Is there anyone else who can relate to this, not having a lot of girlfriends and the few that you have don't have lifestyles that are compatible with yours?

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    Default Re: How/where to find good friends

    Good ? I think there was a similar thread in Ladies Only.


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    Default Re: How/where to find good friends

    Yes, I can. I don't really have any friends. I know, I'm a loser. I work a whole shit-ton with vanilla and adult writing and adult texting. I don't feel I would fit in with the prim and prissy "mommy groups" out here because I work so much, live life on my own terms, and work out a lot (or try to! This week has been mentally challenging lol). But basically, the people I *should* fit in with, I don't, because this small-town bullshit mentatility doesn't work for me.

    I would say consider your interests? Mine would be gyms, dog parks, reading groups, hippie lifestyle groups, EDM groups. Just think about what you like to do, where you like to go. I will say hot messes are everywhere!
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    Default Re: How/where to find good friends

    too bad we can meet up with each other. quite a few ladies from here seem cool and I wish we could have stripperweb convention.

    Yeah like mentioned above there was a similar thread with some good tips i think by leggings queen I can't remember exactly.

    Im thinking Meetups are a good way. There are tons of different types of meetups you could try. Or maybe explore a hobby and chat up some ladies that way.

    I went to a painting lesson cause Im an artsy creative type and there were some nice women that chatted me up and shared their wine with me lol! Which reminds me I need to do more things like that.
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    Default Re: How/where to find good friends

    I have a friend who is a social butterfly and loves meeting ppl. Anyway, she made friends on meetup.

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    I feel the same way. I'm PM'd you.

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    Ugh me too. I'm a young mom so most girls my age think I'll be boring and I don't have time for partying and hooking up anyways anymore. But I also don't want to hang with a lot of other moms cause they're older than me and all yuppy suburban prissy. being a sex worker just throws another wrench into the mix.
    Do you have any special Interests or hobbies, and can you get involved with people who run in those circles? I'm planning on getting involved with those communities and social circles this fall when I feel better and hopefully make some friends and also enrich my life at the same time. Sick of "friends" who just suck me dry and give nothing back.

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    Default Re: How/where to find good friends

    Here are some ideas to meet other people:

    *Meetup groups
    *Art classes
    *Volunteering at a hospital
    *Exercise classes
    *College classes
    *Improv groups
    *Happy hours
    *Bowling team
    *Photography classes or taking photos around town
    *Acting classes
    *Conventions
    *Coffee shops
    *Poetry readings
    *Single cruises
    *Part time jobs
    *Book stores
    *Painting with social interaction and wine
    *Yoga class
    *Cooking class
    *Going out to see bands
    *Dog walking
    *Psychic classes
    *Beach
    *Learning a new hobby such as jewelry and meeting people by selling your craft
    *Hold a neighborhood barbecue
    *Have a garage sale and meet more people who live around you
    *Join an online community
    *Start your own Meetup group
    *Teach something you know at a community center
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    Lizzy that is an awesome list. I feel like that list should be mad into a sticky or something! Or maybe we could start a thread about where to meet/make friends and sticky Lizzy's info? I know this question has been asked before, and she came up with some great ideas. I feel like many of us experience this either because we are sex workers of some kind and some of us have social issues/confidence issues *raises hand* I think the mix just makes it harder than normal.

    We had a rabbit, I think we must live in the same community. It's a lot of prissy suburban moms out by me too, I'm sure they would harvest my organs for being a sex worker lol. A lot of them have 3-4 kids and are at least five years younger than me. And many can't work (because of so many kids) or don't want to work (I love my $$$$).
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    Thank you for all the suggestions ladies! Is Meetup a website? I'll definitely check it out. I'm a pretty laid back person, I like to have fun and relax on my free time. I have hobbies and interests but nothing in particular that I'm super passionate about. I think my problem is that I don't fit into any particular mold. I'm not a yuppie prissy housewife type, or a hippie dippy artsy type, etc. I'm 26 but I look young for my age and I would describe my style/look as girlie and fun but simple. Some people would call it "basic" lol but I'm really not all that basic. But yeah I will definitely seek out people with similar interests as me and get out and about more to meet new people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JenniferNorth View Post
    Lizzy that is an awesome list. I feel like that list should be mad into a sticky or something! Or maybe we could start a thread about where to meet/make friends and sticky Lizzy's info? I know this question has been asked before, and she came up with some great ideas. I feel like many of us experience this either because we are sex workers of some kind and some of us have social issues/confidence issues *raises hand* I think the mix just makes it harder than normal.

    We had a rabbit, I think we must live in the same community. It's a lot of prissy suburban moms out by me too, I'm sure they would harvest my organs for being a sex worker lol. A lot of them have 3-4 kids and are at least five years younger than me. And many can't work (because of so many kids) or don't want to work (I love my $$$$).
    Thank you Jennifer!

    It is difficult to meet other people sometimes and I am glad this list will help other people be aware that we all do have options no matter what our interests are. I also do not relate to regular housewives and moms who live the so called normal suburban lifestyle!

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Thank you for all the suggestions ladies! Is Meetup a website? I'll definitely check it out. I'm a pretty laid back person, I like to have fun and relax on my free time. I have hobbies and interests but nothing in particular that I'm super passionate about. I think my problem is that I don't fit into any particular mold. I'm not a yuppie prissy housewife type, or a hippie dippy artsy type, etc. I'm 26 but I look young for my age and I would describe my style/look as girlie and fun but simple. Some people would call it "basic" lol but I'm really not all that basic. But yeah I will definitely seek out people with similar interests as me and get out and about more to meet new people.
    Hi EastCoastDancer01,

    Yes, just go the the website www.meetup.com There are a ton of different social and interest groups you can join. Most groups are free to join. Good luck!

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