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    Default A model in my category was talking sh*t about me and other models, what would you do?

    So I want to start off by saying I am not one to cause or take part in drama. Technically this may seem dramatic to post this, but it is such a unique situation that only you girls will understand and maybe offer some advice.

    So while I was working tonight, I was minding my own business and more than 1 visitor to my room let me know one of the model's who I will not mention in my category was talking shit about me.

    I brushed the first customer off, because I had never encountered that before since I have started camming, nor have I ever talked badly about any other model. I believe we are all in the same boat, and we are all beautiful in our own unique way. I also don't get caught up in, watch, or care about other models honestly. I am there to work and make money, not worry about anyone else.

    So when the 3rd customer came in talking about it, I had to check. Low and behold, right when I entered her room she was mid sentence talking shit, talking about her placement, how she can easliy be the top model, is the hottest. I took a short break and watched for about 5 more minutes.

    She was making fun of other models almost the whole time.

    What adds insult to injury is that we are talking about the transgender / transexual category. Obviously there are going to be varying degrees of the women there in pre, early, mid, and late transition. So not everyone fits a mold, and not everyone is done with their femenization. Whether that means cosmetic surgery, facial hair removal, hormonal femenization, breast growth, makeup application / techniques, etc. ALOT of work goes into almost everyone's transition, emotionally, mentally, physically, financially. It is a tough, long, lonely, sad, stressful, road that leads many into unfortunate situations, abusive relationships, drug use, rejection from family and friends, homelessness, poverty, drug use, "survival sex work", HIV/ AIDS, mental issues, health problems, suicide, not to mention the general "Heir" cisgender usually have around us. Which usually means NEVER fully feeling comfortable in public, being stared at / laughed at/ talked about everywhere we go, enduring being treated differently, unfairly, abused, sexually assaulted, murdered, physically attacked, facing housing discrimination, we even face discrimination in Hospitals and by the medical community during emergency situations.

    The horrors go on and on. I could list things all freaking day.

    So, I have a huge problem with someone making fun of me and other trans women who are obviously going through enough already without the added insults of some nasty girl who feels she is better than others for whatever reason.

    As much as I hate to admit it, it affected my performance for the rest of the night. I felt uncomfortable, in the back of my mind wondering if she was watching me.

    So as I'm sure as most of you feel, once you fuck with my money it's on.

    What would you do ? Have you been in this situation before? What should I do?

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    First off sorry you have to deal with hatin ass people in the same work of line . but if i were u I would go in her room and demolish her raggedy ass with insults with my customer account.I would also send my clients after that ass. I dont take shit.I have thick skin so not a lot shit she or he would say would fuck with my self confidence .I just want a bitch to know if u want to play with fire prepared to get burn.

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    I know it's hurtful when other people bash you. It's 100% not your fault. What she says reflects on her; her words do not reflect you just because she wants them to. I hope you have the inner strength in your heart to get past this.

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    I can only sympathize with you from afar, I have never cammed and was born a woman so I really can't empathize with what you are feeling right now at all but I am sorry. Bitches are bitches and catty bitches are the worst. Usually when a chick does this she has low self-esteem. I do not know if camming customers are different then strip club customers but in my experience guys do not find this type of shit entertaining. That may be why they told you, or maybe they do like it and are looking for a cat fight. If I were you, I would report her to the site where it happened as this is probably a violation of TOS. Take the high road; if customers report this to you do not feed into it or let it get to you. She is just jealous, turn it around and keep telling yourself she is intimidated by you.
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    I say let her talk, this is a free country you can't stop people from talking shit. If she stopped talking, someone else will start talking. It's impossible to be the shit talkers police.

    No one can fuck with your money unless you let it. When people try to bring you down it means you are already above them.
    You told no lies on all the horrors of being Trans. And I'm sure you've been through so much worst than another model who doesn't even matter talking about you. I would pay her no mind and keep making your money!
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    tpa.PNGld ha.PNG

    "People who are intimidated by you talk bad about you with hopes that other's will not find you so appealing."

    Smile suga, having haters means you are doing something right :-) The most successful people have the most haters :-) Think about your favorite celebrity, bet 100% they have some pretty foul haters... you cannot let them stop you at succeeding or they won their petty game.

    I would honestly feel pity for that girl having to show out like that unable to focus-- she brought people to your room so you have heard the saying "Even bad publicity is good publicity" I would have thanked her lol..... Do you think that attitude got her any paid shows? If so maybe it was some sort of angry fetish- who knows........who cares... let it go......

    Also, letting her get under your skin means she now has control over your emotions... she wanted you to be as miserable as her and look it cost you money by logging off. Next time, breath in, breath out and smile. :-D

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    And one more thing, what was those visitors doing to make her so comfortable talking shit about you?

    When someone tells me 'I just want you to know so and so was talking shit about you!'. I always ask 'Why was he/she/it so comfortable telling you?' Not everyone has your best interest behind your back. #foodforthought
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    This has happened to me before except that while I was performing with my boyfriend another model came into the room to trash us. Other people in the room basically demolished her before I even realized what was happening but I wouldn't have addressed her either way. Don't feed into her negativity, she just has poor self esteem and obviously feels threatened by you and others. Besides it not being worth your time or energy to engage with her, I also feel like it sours the tone of your room to get involved.
    The mean, catty models like her do not last because eventually customers get tired of hearing them talk shit. So I guess my advice can best be summed up in the immortal words of Beyonce: "Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper."
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    I am sorry that this has happened to you. I find it weird that people would do this even. I hardly watch other camgirls' feeds oddly though I am on here a lot. I didn't even realize it was a thing that some camgirls single other people out and name and trash talk them in their chatrooms. That is fucked up. I thought this being the internet and not a real strip club there would not be this kind of catty element.. u need some hugs <3

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    I just want a bitch to know if u want to play with fire prepared to get burn.

    GO CHECK THAT HOE
    This. There are people who will say "Well YOU need to be the bigger person, and just ignore it." But I say nah, that may be YOUR way of dealing with things, which is fine. But since it's my life I'm gonna deal with it MY way, meaning I'm gonna ROAST THAT ASS and not apologize for it.
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    That's great they have time to talk about you and worry about what you are doing that is so lovely

    I don't business about which chick is talking shit about me I have tooo many things to do with my life and business they aren't a thought.

    they are definitely a THOT.

    Do you really got time for that ho over there.
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    I mostly found people will talk sh*t whenever they are feeling worried or under stress, which is not in their control. There are many models who I've came across discussing, bragging and bashing other woman..see it as them doing business. They have a choice in how they run things and if being a snarky person gets them there..then so be it! Ignore gossip, focus on yourself and ultimately keep camming. If any customers choose to discuss about it in your chatroom you have the right to send them away or play on it by not responding. Part of doing this type of business work (regardless of what it is) means taking daggers in the back, regardless of who does the talking.
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    Sounds like she was sending you traffic? I would never talk about another cammer in my room. Never. I want them focused on me and spending on ME. I only cross promote on social media. If it were me, I'd keep being fabulous and keep pissing them off. Maybe they'll continue to lose focus and send more traffic to your room? I wish more bitches would talk shit about me in their rooms.


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    I don't give a shit what other models say about me to customers/guys. My guys love me and any who come to my room based off what another girl has said will also fall for me. Not being big headed here, I just know I'm fucking amazing at my job. That's why I would never ever personally feel the need to talk negatively about another model to anyone in my room.

    That model is insecure in her own skills and ability to attract and keep customers. She has also learned that talking shit about others CAN for some guys be entertaining. Perhaps this has resulted in some of those guys tipping/paying her and so established positive reinforcement. Trouble is, there is only a minority of guys that will work on, as the others will be turned off or simply get bored if she continues to use this as her only method of entertaining.

    Her words bear no significance to your money making ability or life outside of camming. While I understand they are hurtful, I don't think it dignified or necessitates any sort of response. Let her run out of steam naturally, and block her on social medua/from your room etc. If guys come in saying she has said x, y, z, just go oh really, I must be really good to have such haters lol. It will only endear you to them.

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    Im sorry you are going through that, it is horrible. I once had some guys come in and tell me a model was talking horrible about me saying how much she hated me and wished id die of cancer but you know what i never even heard of her because i dont have time to view cams of others, when im there i am there to work. I told them that im not feeding into their game of so and so is talking about you. Guys will feed into that crap just for their own entertainment to get to you.And before you know it it turns into this big back and forth battle. I know its hard not to say anything but if you feel like you should say something then please do so. This wont be the first time it will happen unfortunately and i hope it doesnt continue for you but hate will always follow us in this industry there will always be haters and it stems from jealousy which im sure is the case.Hold your head up high and say fuck them and take the input from all these wonderful ladies they always have great advice and each one is different but some handle it one way and others another. I dont waste my energy anymore on negativity from others it will just bring you down any further so just try your best to ignore the hate and be successful that is the best revenge. Hugs to you. Hope things get better.

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    Hey beautiful,

    Ride that shit outttttt, OP. Her transition is no excuse. Us CIS genders go through that time of month every single month and we can still be catty- but there's no excuse for it if it's not warrented. Now I'm not going to lie, I gossip occasionally myself but you will never hear me badmouthing anyone live on cam, especially not over some silly SM pissinggggg contest.

    It's clear the contest had this person on edge and their insecurity of not being 'good enough' in their honest opinion was so overbearing they couldn't conceal their hate. LET THAT BIH SIMMER! If she wants to be 'that, bitch' she needs to put in the work and keep a POSITIVE attitude. Her own bad energy is causing her to fail at life and it will continue to fail until she changes her mindset about others. I'm sorry you're going though such things.

    Life isn't fair, people talk shit- LET THEM. You keep making your coin and projecting success. There's a reason she's talking shit. Because you're 'that bitch' and she's not accepting of HER truth. You can't be anyone else and talking shit about them (unless warranted) shows that you're not grateful of what YOU have. Let 'em stewwwww and keep winning. The best way to get back at a hater is to ignore them and continue to stay 'that bitch!'.
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    ^^^^ what PhatGirl said, 100%. I've watched some really ugly sm wars in the past and believe me, she's just driving traffic to your room. Sometimes cams is like football and guys root for their favorite teams, just convert them, tent your fingers and say "mauhahahahahaha"

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    wc0dfp.jpgBad publicity is better than none. I have seen a lady in my category doing it to others and I just thought it made her look worried, sad, and cheap. She is driving traffic to your room. When they come in just be yourself and refuse to engage back. That will squash it real quick. Otherwise its tit for tat.

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    It's always been my experience that people like this always end up f*cking the!selves over. Just let her do what she does, basically, give her the rope to hang herself with. Most guys don't actually like a person that bad mouths others in a disrespectful way and I can almost guarantee you that the nasty stuff she's saying will be effecting sales in a bad way. No one likes to chat in a room with negative vibes. It's a turn off.

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    I wouldnt care to be honest. In this industry someone is always talking shit about you no matter what. My Twitter timeline is always full of cam performers fighting with each other over stupid shit like stealing idea's, stealing customers, hating each others friends, etc. Stay classy and just ignore her.

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    I would say let her burn herself with her own mouth. Shitting on the competition is usually a good way to put yourself out of business as customers will always see through it.
    BUT if she's at the point of slandering you with lies, report her to admin. I know a woman who had to deal with a 'competitor' in her category who was telling bullshit to potential clients about her prices ("She is charging X dollars") and this is not something anyone should tolerate.
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    I would use this opportunity to raise your rates since she is sending you traffic. Dudes are just as much into drama, of course, they are going to come in and tell you. That's how I know when I hear a model talking shit on me. Always some bird. Sounds to me like you are doing something right.

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    I would have put that ho in check...seriously. As trans girls, I figured we should stick together, as its hard enough in this world to be us, let alone work in a field such as this....we SHOULD be supporting each other and building each other up....its sad when people have to put others down to make themselves feel better....

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    You made some valid points but this is beyond being Trans. People are gonna be people regardless of whether they're trans or cisgender. I know it's a nice thought to expect people who are marginalized, ostracized and discriminated to be nice and supporting each other but often times it's the total opposite.

    Happy/secure/confident/successful people don't put others don't, they have no reason to.
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    I would have put that ho in check...seriously. As trans girls, I figured we should stick together, as its hard enough in this world to be us, let alone work in a field such as this....we SHOULD be supporting each other and building each other up....its sad when people have to put others down to make themselves feel better....
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