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    Made an account on SA and started talking to this guy that apparently lives in my town. We've discussed allowance before, and how I will be compensated on our first date but I'm not sure if I'm doing it wrong.

    I initially asked him to pay my rent and give me an allowance. He asked me my rent and how much of an allowance I wanted so I told him and said I wanted 3k in ADDITION to my rent. He said how about 2k flat, and even clarified after rent I will only have $1450 after. For me, 2k is awesome. It'll pay all my bills but not give me enough leisure. But this is my first time (didn't tell him that and NOT going to) so I didn't mind he offered lower.

    He is "in the medical field". He looks very fit and tan, and is attractive but I don't plan on sleeping with him.

    For our first date I told him I wanted to be taken for a few cocktails so he said he'll look for a place to eat and drink. (I want alcohol, because it helps me ease nerves ALOT) and I reminded him that I will still be paid regardless if he wants to continue seeing me or not. He agreed, and said he will bring $800 to the first meet and divide it between two envelopes. Hell hand me the first envelope when we first meet and the second envelope if he likes me and wants to see me again. I agreed and thought it was fair.

    He takes a long time to reply or respond. It annoys me because there are certain questions I want to ask without it being an interrogation and don't want to come off as needy and ruin the first impression. He also mentioned he was married but not sure if she doesn't care what he does or if he is CHEATING. I don't want to breakup a family etc..

    would you say I'm doing it right? I'm still feeling a bit unsure.


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    Quote Originally Posted by CamBabe View Post
    He also mentioned he was married but not sure if she doesn't care what he does or if he is CHEATING. I don't want to breakup a family etc.
    Good looking guys who make good money don't get SBs because they lack other options. They do so to have fun on the side without complications. I think you can safely assume that a lot of the SDs you come across will be married. I also think you are being a bit naive about how long you are going to be able to collect from him if sex isn't part of the equation. I very strongly suspect that a fit attractive guy with a wife isn't going to shell out thousands per month just to hear another woman talk for hours on end, but I'm sure you'll work that out.

    Beyond this, I am out of my depth and will just say good luck!

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    One rule of sales is to 'just get to the next meeting'. Just set your appointment to meet for cocktails and remember a few key points to discuss then. Get your 800 and a time for the next visit. Worst case you get paid 400 for a two hour cocktail date. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CamBabe View Post
    Made an account on SA and started talking to this guy that apparently lives in my town. We've discussed allowance before, and how I will be compensated on our first date but I'm not sure if I'm doing it wrong.

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    He is "in the medical field". He looks very fit and tan, and is attractive but I don't plan on sleeping with him.

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    I don't want to breakup a family etc..
    Gonna tell you a little secret ... most of these men lie.
    My theory is since you just created a new SA account, every time waster on SA is now looking at you as someone to fuck with.
    And as for him giving you 2k for no sex, well hopefully you're skilled at manipulating men. I highly doubt some single, handsome doctor or
    whatever this guy will allow you to manipulate him into giving him 2k though. My advice? If it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. Don't get your hopes up.

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    Be prepared for a lot of "next sales". They'll keep emailing until they find out you expect no sex, then they'll stop responding once they realize you actually believe that, or find someone who is more realistic. About 1 out of 100 SDs is non-sexual, and you won't find them on the web.
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    I agree with what the other members have said. I have never had a s/d but I am not naive enough to think anyone would so so without the expectation of sex. That is kind of the whole point. I would not expect someone to pay me as a chef and not make them any meals. If you are not comfortable having sex with the s/d you should likely look for something else. $2,000 is not chump change but it is not that much money that you wouldn't be able to earn it some other way. And also, as fbsmgirl said; a lot of guys on these sites are liars (from what I hear from friends and on here).
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    Agree with Rick that you are being a little naive about never having sex with him. At the very best, you can get through as many dates as possible w/o doing so, but eventually he'll be onto the next. Especially since it does sound too good to be true: good looking, fit, wealthy medical professional... He has his pick. This is what turns me off from SA... It's a bargain hunt for the men and most of the women get short changed.

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    Additionally, you'll have to put your morals aside if you intend to make money this way. The way I look at it, is if I don't take advantage of the situation presented to me, he'll find someone else who will!!

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    To all the girls saying that you have to have sex to be a sugar baby, I think that is untrue and you are under valuing yourself. Are you ladies saying that your vagina is the only valuable thing you have to offer ? Shit, I pay my tax guy $750 an hour and he's only fucking my pocket. Multiple times a month I get guys who buy me out all night in the champagne room. The customer spends thousands to do that and I dont have sex with him or do anything illegal. I never tell him that I'm going to have sex with him. They will pay for that hour, and then when times up they will pay for another and another all night just because they like my personality.

    If a customer can drop that money for not having sex, I'm sure other men will.

    I have too good friends at work. They are both very close with one of the customers. He never gets dances but he gives my two friends thousands and they don't do shit for it. He gave my one friend $1,500 for some designer shoes she wanted, he just gave her more money for a vacation she's taking with me. He gave my other friend $2,000 towards her boob job. He also gave her a $3,000 diamond bracelet for her birthday. Neither one of them is fucking him though. I know my friends very well. He also freely gives me hundreds of dollars to give his friend lap dances. He's just generous.

    I highly recommend the book "the goal diggers guide" by Beige Fletcher. She teaches how to be a sugar baby without having to fuck. In one part of the book she was talking about how she got 4k per day to go on a cruise with a guy, plus spending money, plus she told him she would only go if she could have her own separate room. So she didn't even sleep in the same room as him. You can download the book on amazon/Kindle if you're interested. Good luck

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    I've heard of no sex sugar deals but it's usually a very picky older man who literally can't perform sexually OR a gay man who needs a beard girlfriend (yes the Closet is still a thing in the Midwest.)

    Frankly IMO SA & other sites are full of losers. They remind me of Jude Law's character in the movie "Closer" (gleefully messing with people out of boredom/spite). Truthfully really rich guys don't have to stay home on the Internet to meet women, they have women coming to them. Get good at holding the attention of a wealthy man & you'll probably go further than most babies trolling the Internet for Splenda daddies.

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    Cambabe,
    First of all, SA and most online sugar baby websites are full of liars. Secondly, there are tons of threads on stripperweb talking about the sugar daddy issues. Third, how good of a hustler are you get 2k without sex? Because being a sugar baby means that you have to be on point at all times. Your body and mind must be up to your sugar daddies liking. You can only be a non-sexual sugar baby if you bring more skills to the table than just looking good and talking sweet.Usually, you get non-sexual allowance offers from older men, wealthy foreign men (wealthy Africans, Caribbean men and Indians offer this type of arrangement often), gay guys looking for beards, and truckers/other types who do not have time for relationships. However, you got to bring more skills to the arrangement in order to keep them interested if you are doing non-nude. For example, do you speak any foreign languages? Can you talk about diverse subjects like art history or war history? Also non-sexual does not mean that you must go around with sweatpants. You got to look sexy for him at all times and have your makeup on point. Sometimes, you must take sexy boudoir photos and send them to him. Sometimes, you got to make sexy videos of yourself. Unless, you are playing that whole virgin angle and you make them work towards that goal.

    Fifth, sugar sites are not where you meet good sugar daddies.Often you will meet better guys looking freestyling at your local steakhouse. As others said, I would not get my hopes up. Sixth, if you are going to be sexual with your sugar daddy...then please ask a better allowance than 2k per month. He is a doctor and he should be able to afford 3000 per month.At least, you can ask for 3000 to start as a newbie Good luck.


    Quote Originally Posted by CamBabe View Post
    Made an account on SA and started talking to this guy that apparently lives in my town. We've discussed allowance before, and how I will be compensated on our first date but I'm not sure if I'm doing it wrong.

    I initially asked him to pay my rent and give me an allowance. He asked me my rent and how much of an allowance I wanted so I told him and said I wanted 3k in ADDITION to my rent. He said how about 2k flat, and even clarified after rent I will only have $1450 after. For me, 2k is awesome. It'll pay all my bills but not give me enough leisure. But this is my first time (didn't tell him that and NOT going to) so I didn't mind he offered lower.

    He is "in the medical field". He looks very fit and tan, and is attractive but I don't plan on sleeping with him.

    For our first date I told him I wanted to be taken for a few cocktails so he said he'll look for a place to eat and drink. (I want alcohol, because it helps me ease nerves ALOT) and I reminded him that I will still be paid regardless if he wants to continue seeing me or not. He agreed, and said he will bring $800 to the first meet and divide it between two envelopes. Hell hand me the first envelope when we first meet and the second envelope if he likes me and wants to see me again. I agreed and thought it was fair.

    He takes a long time to reply or respond. It annoys me because there are certain questions I want to ask without it being an interrogation and don't want to come off as needy and ruin the first impression. He also mentioned he was married but not sure if she doesn't care what he does or if he is CHEATING. I don't want to breakup a family etc..

    would you say I'm doing it right? I'm still feeling a bit unsure.

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    NakedNicole,
    I agree with you about being a non-sexual sugar baby. However, the OP must have the skills in order to make being non-sexual worth wild.The goal digger guide is very useful for newbies


    Quote Originally Posted by NakedNicole View Post
    To all the girls saying that you have to have sex to be a sugar baby, I think that is untrue and you are under valuing yourself. Are you ladies saying that your vagina is the only valuable thing you have to offer ? Shit, I pay my tax guy $750 an hour and he's only fucking my pocket. Multiple times a month I get guys who buy me out all night in the champagne room. The customer spends thousands to do that and I dont have sex with him or do anything illegal. I never tell him that I'm going to have sex with him. They will pay for that hour, and then when times up they will pay for another and another all night just because they like my personality.

    If a customer can drop that money for not having sex, I'm sure other men will.

    I have too good friends at work. They are both very close with one of the customers. He never gets dances but he gives my two friends thousands and they don't do shit for it. He gave my one friend $1,500 for some designer shoes she wanted, he just gave her more money for a vacation she's taking with me. He gave my other friend $2,000 towards her boob job. He also gave her a $3,000 diamond bracelet for her birthday. Neither one of them is fucking him though. I know my friends very well. He also freely gives me hundreds of dollars to give his friend lap dances. He's just generous.

    I highly recommend the book "the goal diggers guide" by Beige Fletcher. She teaches how to be a sugar baby without having to fuck. In one part of the book she was talking about how she got 4k per day to go on a cruise with a guy, plus spending money, plus she told him she would only go if she could have her own separate room. So she didn't even sleep in the same room as him. You can download the book on amazon/Kindle if you're interested. Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    Often you will meet better guys looking freestyling at your local steakhouse.
    This.

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    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    I live in a foreign country and so does he. He doesn't speak the language but I do. I can be very useful as a translator. I was going to bring that up on our upcoming meeting, but translators here get paid a hefty amount so I'm sure I can milk out more than 2k. Is this realistic? I have an ex boyfriend that found my language skill very useful and brought me everywhere with him and always bought me meals.

    The reason I can't have sex with him is because I'm not on birth control. Should I get him to pay for it?


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    My only positive sugar daddy experiences have been through organically meeting people through work, social, clubs etc -- well I take that back, millionaire match maker this dating website used to be great way back - got me a trip to Italy and some LV, Ferragamo, etc shopping on that trip (no sex, but only because I kinda knew it'd be a one time thing and avoided it). We actually had a good time in Florence, watched the fireworks for the roof of the embassy etc, I got to relax by myself during the day when he worked and kinda just wandered the streets and took in the place.

    I have sugar daddy stories for days ... and days ... some great, some shitty.

    As far as the websites - just be careful I went onto sugar daddy . com or similar and it seemed like a ton of guys under the impression that a flight to Miami opened up the gates for them to bang you all weekend, then ship you on back. Are you kidding me?! A lot of guys who liked the attention as girls scrambled to get the attention of someone with a "claimed" net worth of 8m etc. ... When really they were prob in their moms basement in Queens. A lot of guys just seem to be looking for an hourly escort, which is cool, but you could def look on Eros etc for that ... instead they're trying to coach a new girl into it at a lower rate than she should actually be getting.

    "The reason I can't have sex with him is because I'm not on birth control" - well you should be using condoms for sure, I hope he isn't expecting to do it without.

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    It's a big world out there with all sorts and types of people.

    There are guys who shell out hundreds and even thousands for an hour or more in a VIP or CR with no hanky panky.

    There are guys who literally pay women to sit and talk with them.

    There are guys who like to wrestle women without any nudity or "happy endings " ; or be dominated financially and otherwise.

    I don't judge so long as no children and no animals are involved. Each to their own.

    The point is that sex is a part of SOME SB-SD relationships. But there are certainly some that involve little and even no sex. It's a BIG world.

    I knew a VERY famous lawyer who never had any children and paid a female friend of mine to effectively pretend to be his daughter. Helped her buy a car and helped her pay for grad school and then helped her get a job. I asked her why he didn't pay the whole thing re: the car and grad school and she said he said : " I would expect my daughter to WORK and not just sit back and let it all come to her. " Or words to that effect. And yes he remembered her in his will. They got to talking and the rest was history. And she never had sex with him.

    Another dancer friend of mine had an elderly regular that she was very nice to and when he died with no wife , no kids - guess who he named as his beneficiary ? She got his house; his car ; his bank accounts etc. Proving that it pays to be nice to elderly custies.

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