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    Angry I was accused of doing extras - my feelings are super hurt

    I was dancing fir a customer...i put my knees on the booth as if insinuating doggy style. I continued to twerk on my cust. One of the managers/ bartender/security or whatever he is kept coming by me nd my cust. I found it strange. He pulled me off stage to talk to me in the dressing room later on.
    He said he was dissapointed in me having sex on the floor, nd i will be fined. Waaaaiiiit...im not paying for shir i didnt do. Why would i be dumb enough to have sex on the floor in front of 30 people? He says he found a condom rapper by where i was sitting, nd in vip where i was. So now im puzzled, nd confused because i really ddnt do it. I ask to speak to the ACTUAL manager. He doesnt stick up for me or say much. But im STILL not paying for something i didnt do. I tell the guy who called me out how he has been singling me out for a while, nd treating me different than everyone else. He tells me im suspended for 2 weeks. At this point my feelings are hurt nd i dnt give a fuk. I just let him kno how i fealt and he suspended me for 4 weeks. I go get dressed get all my shit nd i leave. I have to walk past him nd he says nothing nd doesnt address me. He then comes outside nd says "so ur not gonna pay what u owe". I say ill pay if i can wrk tomorrow(my logic is im not paying for shit i didnt do, but SINCE ur insisting...if i pay im coming back to wrk tomorrow). He says no u have a month off, but since i dont wanna pay dont come back ever. Ok peace out. Im not about to get intimidated into some bullshit.
    But my feelings are hurt nd i dont kno what to do. Im having issues in my life, family, etc. Nd it feels like its one set back after another. I hate being accused, especially of something so nasty. Im literally histerical in tears
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    Default Re: I was accused of doing extras - my feelings are super hurt

    Can you call the owner of the club & claim this employee is trying to extort you? Sorry this happened.

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    I'm sorry to hear this happen to you. What happened to you was wrong and completely uncalled for. Being in a situation like this you only have two options. The first one is to find a new club and never go back, because screw them! The second option is to meet with the actual owner of your club (if you work at a huge corporate club, try for the most senior manager). You may have to do some leg work and find these men's superiors. Everyone has a boss. It's at that point you can professionally and calmly explain your circumstance. Dress nicely, speak intelligently and you may actually get your job back, fine free.

    All you can do is try. I can't tell you how many times I've been fucked over working at strip clubs. It's a tough world. Luckily, you can always work somewhere else! Who knows, maybe all this happened for a reason. When I left a club years ago due to unfair practices and treatment, I stumbled onto a job that pays me 80% more than what I could ever make stripping. I'm so much happier. When one door closes, new opportunities open. When life brings your to your knees, don't let it keep you there. Stay strong girl, I hope everything works out well for you in the end. *hugs*

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    Well that's messed up.

    First I don't think a condom wrapper necessarily implies fucking or "extras" on your part. I once did a lap dance for a guy and this fool told me he had a condom on - yuk! I told him flat out ain't no sex going to happen and ended the dance so he wouldn't try to haggle me for anything more. There are a small percentage of nasty dudes who go to clubs try to get dances that involve friction and will wear condoms underneath their clothes to enhance the feeling. And of course they would try to get more if the conditions are in their favor.

    Second if they wanted to catch you doing extras they should have stopped you or "caught" you in the act not afterwards. As far as I know the ladies who get popped for extras are doing it right out in the open where everyone can see AND they are caught in the act like a dude has his dick out, there is clear penetration, etc.

    Idk. Sounds like they just wanted to have an excuse to get rid of you. They thought you did extras and wanted their cut to look the other way. Since you didn't pay them their cut of alleged extras money then they gotta get rid of you.

    Probably a good thing for you to find another club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Well that's messed up.

    First I don't think a condom wrapper necessarily implies fucking or "extras" on your part. I once did a lap dance for a guy and this fool told me he had a condom on - yuk! I told him flat out ain't no sex going to happen and ended the dance so he wouldn't try to haggle me for anything more. There are a small percentage of nasty dudes who go to clubs try to get dances that involve friction and will wear condoms underneath their clothes to enhance the feeling. And of course they would try to get more if the conditions are in their favor.

    Second if they wanted to catch you doing extras they should have stopped you or "caught" you in the act not afterwards. As far as I know the ladies who get popped for extras are doing it right out in the open where everyone can see AND they are caught in the act like a dude has his dick out, there is clear penetration, etc.

    Idk. Sounds like they just wanted to have an excuse to get rid of you. They thought you did extras and wanted their cut to look the other way. Since you didn't pay them their cut of alleged extras money then they gotta get rid of you.

    Probably a good thing for you to find another club.
    Exactly my point!!! The guy kept walking past, and i mentioned it to. Like if i was "[email protected]" on the floor why didnt u stop me. He says he got a call fron the owner because he was watching the cameras. But u just said if the owner CATCHES anyone doing extras its automatic termination. Ok, so if the owner SAW me on camera why didnt u automatically terminate me instead of trying to fine me?

    I was reading a girls response to one of my latest post. And she says how alot of my posts i complain in and i KINDA agree. But its hard not to complain when its constantly shit after shit. I wrk to hard for my money nd i atay positive but its kinda hard not to point out the negetives when ur trying to have a smooth career.
    But i appreciate everyone reaponding because even though the industry is a tough titty its how i handle things aswell. But i wont be going back.
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    Go directly to the owner and firmly state the facts about potential extortion from that employee. The only time some greedy security guy tried to accuse me of something i did not do and extort money, it cost him a job. I went to the owner and demanded to review cameras in case he did not believe me. Owner fired that guy in the end of the shift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    Exactly my point!!! The guy kept walking past, and i mentioned it to. Like if i was "[email protected]" on the floor why didnt u stop me. He says he got a call fron the owner because he was watching the cameras. But u just said if the owner CATCHES anyone doing extras its automatic termination. Ok, so if the owner SAW me on camera why didnt u automatically terminate me instead of trying to fine me?

    I was reading a girls response to one of my latest post. And she says how alot of my posts i complain in and i KINDA agree. But its hard not to complain when its constantly shit after shit. I wrk to hard for my money nd i atay positive but its kinda hard not to point out the negetives when ur trying to have a smooth career.
    But i appreciate everyone reaponding because even though the industry is a tough titty its how i handle things aswell. But i wont be going back.
    Some clubs are literally like hood/street and you have to stay on your toes and hustle like a hawk or an eagle vs a pigeon. Its a tough industry nowhere near as smooth and no teamwork atmosphere like vanilla world.

    But if you don't have responsibilities and can travel there are more clubs and more options for you.

    Yeah you may want to check the law of attraction thread/group. Life is not perfect and bad things happen to good people but Sometimes you attract in your life the very thing you focus on and fear most. Even if you're not into loa, Google self fulfilling prophecy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Some clubs are literally like hood/street and you have to stay on your toes and hustle like a hawk or an eagle vs a pigeon. Its a tough industry nowhere near as smooth and no teamwork atmosphere like vanilla world.

    But if you don't have responsibilities and can travel there are more clubs and more options for you.

    Yeah you may want to check the law of attraction thread/group. Life is not perfect and bad things happen to good people but Sometimes you attract in your life the very thing you focus on and fear most. Even if you're not into loa, Google self fulfilling prophecy.
    I am going to start reading on that. And your RIGHT!!!! I do have a few fears that are right at the back of my mind. And a couple have came true or i fear what im living. Idk lol i need to get it together.

    Do you think dance coworkers get jealous but still try and wrk with u, but get u fired? Or can club employees get jealous and want y gone?
    Im just having a hard time understanding WHY? Eventhough i know theres no answer
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    I also do want to travel dance, i messed up in school nd cant go back until january. And i want to hit atlanta hard.
    Plus next friday ill be in ohio at RACHELS GENTLEMENS CLUB EAST.
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    Quote Originally Posted by precise212 View Post
    Go directly to the owner and firmly state the facts about potential extortion from that employee. The only time some greedy security guy tried to accuse me of something i did not do and extort money, it cost him a job. I went to the owner and demanded to review cameras in case he did not believe me. Owner fired that guy in the end of the shift.
    Your right i should but ill pass now. I dont want to work for aomeone who does not have my back, disrespects me. Plus i have had way to many issues at this club. From a customer getting mad at me because i asked him to get off my stage set and stop playing in my pile of money. The security watched the whole time plus he threw a bottle of water at me and drenched me. Security sat there nd watched. Its other things but its time for me to travel and find the right club. Because honestly im not in the right register
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    I don't really understand what you were doing during the dance, I tried to picture it but I do not get it. It sucks to be accused of that kind of stuff but them suspending you for expressing your opinion shows they don't respect you anyway so I say GTFO anyway. Good luck at the new place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    I don't really understand what you were doing during the dance, I tried to picture it but I do not get it. It sucks to be accused of that kind of stuff but them suspending you for expressing your opinion shows they don't respect you anyway so I say GTFO anyway. Good luck at the new place.
    We have booth couches. The guy was sittibg down kind of reclined so u couldnt see anything but his legs and feet. I was on his lap making my ass cheeks twerk up nd down, i was sitting up straight, with both hands up to the side so i could hold myself up. I can see if anyone walks past, nd if you walk by you can see me IN PLAIN SIGHT. it would b impossible for me to be having sex in this position, in plain sight. There is a mirriroed wall so if i were having sex someone would have BEEN noticed. There were other dancers doing dances in this area as well, nd when i explained what was said to me two of the dancers actually tried to vouch for me (i ddnt ask them to). The manager said that they should mind their business
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    Yes like i said the club is in the HOOD so this was to be expected i guess.
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    In my opinion, in this business, if you didn't do anything. ..it's more likely some sort of jealousy that is going on with other dancers and they are hateing on you and they could be tipping out the guy who says that you were having sex. Another possibility the guy is a jerk and is holding some sort of greviance against you for whatever reason. It could be a tipping issue or the guy is just a jerk. This business is a very tough and not for the weak minded at all.

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