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    I remember the question about taking kids to Hooters here. I understand it's different because it's children but how would you feel about your child being in the adult industry? I'm watching Rob& China and Blaque China's mom said she caught her daughter in the club and just started throwing money and cheering her on.
    Honestly I do think I'd have a problem with camming or doing porn or escorting but not as much with stripping or doing magazines. Even with stripping or working at Hooters or whatever I'd tell her to have fun but don't get caught up. Be a manager or even a strip club owner. Hell invest your money and retire early.
    Not trying to offend anybody because I've dipped my toe in most of it myself. Just my inner mom jumped out when I saw China's mom on tv.

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    No problem for me if my daughter was camming or stripping. I'd be happier with that than porn or magazines. You can set your own rules camming/stripping. You have to (usually) follow the trend or male direction with porn/magazines.

    Escorting I would be fine with too, as long as they were sensible (tests, screening etc) and doing it of their own free will. But I would probably feel very much more protective, due to the fact it's almost always 1-2-1 situs.

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    I don't have kids so I'm probably answering from book learning, but my friends with kids say:

    Your kids never do what you think they'll do. Before you have them, you have it all planned out, they'll be star athletes and scholars and go to Harvard then be president or maybe just run a huge conglomerate. In reality, they can be average kids or challenged kids but you love them more than anything.

    If you're a good person, you'll let your daughter make her choices and love her and support her, however much she challenges your ideals. That is a hell of a lot easier to say from my armchair, I'm sure.
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    Depends.

    Adult work is HARD work and in some places require 1) street smarts 2) aggressive hustle skills 3) time 4) physical work 6) willingness to preserve against being judged 7) ability to be a good actress and much more......

    Now I would much rather the kid work smart than work hard and make money investing etc. however if the kid had the skills above and wanted to work in the industry and could be wise (like not getting caught up in the dark side - dealing with unsavory people, drugs, etc) then I wouldn't mind as much.

    Also I think blac chynas mom is kinda ratchet acting and doesn't surprise me she's cheering her stripper daughter on. In the hood and trailer park career fields like slanging drugs for men and stripping for women are somewhat glorified because they are making a lot of money with a job that doesn't require formal qualifications. It's like their ticket out of a working class life.

    I think Chyna is fortunate to be around people who accept her stripping past and don't judge her.
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    I would not mind my future daughters being in the adult industry. In my culture and family tradition;being a sex worker is another profession . Often sex worker is great choice .However, we often look at our children's adolescence behavior before suggesting sex work to them. Often people who are destined for sex work in my family start hustling in junior high school like I did. If they start hustling in junior high school and high school, than they will be ready for sex work at 18. They will be more prepared for this industry and learn much more than I ever did. Plus, they will be better educated and properly groomed than myself. Also, I hope they will become better business people than myself.

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    I won't mind my daughter being on the pole. I think I might even dance alongside her. About the other things like porn, as long as she's safe and in a place where she can exercise her boundaries, make that money.


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    I'd be thrilled but insist she get into law school so she can continue the " scamming for money" arc in her life

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    Default Re: Your daughter on the pole?

    i just started pole classes and my mom and my bfs parents are like hell if ya wanna be a stripper then were cool with it!
    however when my mom found out i was doing porn and camming she nearly flipped her shit!!! like seriously flipped her shit! xo

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    I have a sonBUT I wouldn't care if he went to a strip club, if I had a daughter I wouldn't care if she worked there either, I worked in more than my fair share, how hypocritical if I didn't let her

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    I have a sneaking suspicion black china's mom "Tokyo Tony" was a stripper herself or at least prostituted. She was a 16 year old mom, it didn't sound like she had ANY help from the father. So maybe that's why she wasn't too upset finding her daughter stripping. Also that club she showed on her show was ratchet as Hell, I think she may of even been underage. I read on Yelp that lap dances are $5.

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    Kiddo is a smart cookie. I have a feeling I wouldn't have to worry about her no matter what she does.

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    I don't have a daughter but if I did of course I wouldn't have a problem. That would be pretty hypocritical of me now woulnt it. I'd just give her good advice and try and make sure she didn't make the same mistakes

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    I'm assuming you wouldn't mind your sons being in the industry either?

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    As long she is not a drug dealer or something like that, I wolud have no hypocrital moral grounds for disapproving it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    I'd be thrilled but insist she get into law school so she can continue the " scamming for money" arc in her life
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    Default Re: Your daughter on the pole?

    I would tell her:

    a.) No paper trail. Cam and porn leave trails. But I mean, if you're gonna do it, go all out and build a huge brand. I'd rather she not do it because of the disadvantages, but if she's going to, I'd tell her to build a brand.

    Adult work is not a big deal because you can still have a successful career after. Where my issue with it would lie is in these:
    - the adult business attracts manipulators/narcissists/sociopaths and i don't want her around that due to the damage those people can cause
    - for 99% of people, it's not a forever career so you're working your ass off to build something that isn't paying off in the long run
    - the most lucrative parts are illegal and dangerous (escorting)
    That's about it.

    If I knew then what I know now, I would have pursued a lucrative dayjob field starting at 18 (mine wasn't lucrative), and I would have never done nude papertail stuff just because it can be used against you.


    b.) There are literally so many other lucrative things you can do that pay the same amount or more than sexwork. Nurses in my area make almost 100k per year working 3 12 hour shifts. Taking an extra shift per week (a total of 4 12h shifts per week), with overtime, would bring the profits to nearly 150k per year in my area.

    I also just read an article about a nurse that worked 5-6 days a week who made over 300k per year. EDIT: just found a bunch more on Google: After 3 12h shifts, everything is overtime pay and even more for night shift. Bonuses are also a thing, good benefits, and all major hospitals pay for you to continue your schooling for free. As a nurse, you can also work another PT job if you really wanted to due to flexibility of shifts.

    That's just one example. Finance, real estate, business, i/o psych, engineering, any of those pay a lot and are not too hard to attain. Just thinking outside the box will bring you profits with effort. I mean those hairdressers on Instagram doing the rainbow hair probably bring in 100k just because they marketed well and are booked at premium rates. Be creative.
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    ^^ so true. The money I make dancing is good for a student but chump change in comparison to what i'll get paid after I finish school.

    I would support my daughter if she was hardheaded and independent like me and didn't wanna take any of my financial support. I would just definitely give her the dos and donts and tell her to milk it while she still has her youth and to make sure to set boundaries.

    I had a super rich friend who danced. It always boggled my mind. I met her at my retail job. Her parents paid for everything. School, an apartment in san francisco, and she had unlimited credit cards. She said she worked at my store for the discount and danced because her parents wouldnt let her buy designer things. She had a huge shopping problem. Lol. I'm sure her parents in their heads thought they did everything right, but sometimes kids just want their own money to buy their own shit without having to hear anyone's opinions about it or their life. I mean that's why moved out so young. My mom was willing to give me the world but it came at a price. I definitely wouldn't try to force my opinions on my kids

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    I'm ehh on engineering and nursing and banking in vanilla jobs in this new economy..I know a lot of engineers (my father is one) and nurses and many have a very hard time finding employment in the new marketplace (engineers) and don't get paid all that much. Many still live at home. I think there a LOT of propaganda out there trying to convince people to get into debt and go to school when I see all the kids I grew up w working at tanning salons and struggling w their student debt, not able to,find jobs. Kinda like the ads "become a cam girl and make up to 10,000 per week!" Yeah, thats not the norm.
    Thats just been my experience, but I live in different area

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    ^^ I personally know a lot of nurses and engineers who make a ton. That's where I'm getting my facts from. I have friends who are nurses. I have friends from nursing school whose parents and siblings are nurses. And a lot of the girls I went to high school with are now engineers.

    Also, my entire program to become an RN, with tuition/books/supplies is 6k total. What debt? You don't have to go into much debt to succeed. That is a myth. Community colleges and state schools. An entire 2 year registered nurse program can be done at a community college. That's what I'm doing. You have to pay for living expenses (rent/food/bills) regardless if you're in school or not.

    Lastly, salaries are posted on Glassdoor.com and other sites if you don't believe me. A hospital that is less than 5 miles from me pays their RNs 92k per year for 3 12h shifts. An additional shift each week is ~30k + overtime which is usually 1.5x that amount. Add in an extra chunk for differentials (night shift), or 15 hour shifts instead of 12h. It adds up fast.

    However, I will say this: you have to look and act the part, and put in lots of effort if you want to make it and be given the opportunities. You also have to be booksmart and able to think on your toes in order to make STEM programs work for you.
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    My daughter is young so who knows what life will be at that age. But I'm pretty sure I'd be comfy with her camming. It seems safe & you're the boss.

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    I danced to make ends meet. It was a good way to make money while going to college full time. But at the time, I swore I'd never willingly put my kids in the position of having to work just to make ends meet. So, if my daughter wants to dance, I'm good with that. But, she won't have to dance. BF and I have been putting money in her college fund since she was a baby. We've got her first four years paid for already. :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zofia View Post
    I danced to make ends meet. It was a good way to make money while going to college full time. But at the time, I swore I'd never willingly put my kids in the position of having to work just to make ends meet. So, if my daughter wants to dance, I'm good with that. But, she won't have to dance. BF and I have been putting money in her college fund since she was a baby. We've got her first four years paid for already. :-)
    Exactly. I wouldn't want her feeling like she HAS to do something because she has no other option. My options were limited from an economic standpoint, but thankfully I never felt like I had to do something I didn't want to. But I'd never want her in that position.

    I was a 16 year old high school senior so I started community college when I was young and had to live at home til I was of age ( 18 ). I worked full time even the very first year, but not because I had to. It was because I wanted to, but no one my age seemed to understand that. They were all like "why would you do that if you don't have to???" And it's because I enjoyed it as well as the extra money. Looking back, I'm still so glad I did it.

    So if she CHOOSES to do something in the adult industry, that's her choice. But I never want her to feel like she HAS to due to economic disadvantage.

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