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    I'm wondering if anyone else has anxiety and how they handle it on cam. I feel like giving up today after having a bad day but I also know I might be able to fake it long enough for it to stick.. Any advice? I did search and saw on another thread that some people keep audio off until they are in exclusive and just type in free? Would that effect earnings at all?

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    I cam with no sound and it doesn't affect my earning if you're speaking of Streamate. I love typing.

    The first step to help with anxiety is to know what goes through your head when it triggered? What were you thinking?
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    Calcium and D3.. I just got done with my consultation with my mineral practitioner.. calcium seriously calms the nervous system down but you need d3 to go with it.. or take a combo.. I am also taking Endomet Paramins.. which has calcium, mag, d3 and boron..

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    I don't have any real advice to give, as I'm dealing with a tremendous amount of anxiety too. I also have really debilitating panic attacks from past traumatic events - some days I am completely overwhelmed and can't even get on cam. The days/evenings that I am able to cam through this difficult time in my life, I just put on a smile and fake it until I make it. Even if I'm only able to cam 1 hour, I force myself to at least do that 1 hour. If that goes well, then I increase it to 2 hours, 3 hours, etc. You have to be kind to yourself on your bad days. I don't know about how audio effects earnings. I usually leave mine on regardless, although I'd much rather type. I hate talking!

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    I have developed awful anxiety over the past few years. I've found that a few things really help: routine, small talk, & downtime. make a routine that you can stick to so you aren't scrambling around before you cam. having normality helps put me at ease even before I'm on cam. Clean your toys, do some yoga, maybe take your dog for a walk, get prettied up, & go! I've found turning on music helps a lot before and while I'm on cam. make a playlist of stuff that makes you happy and listen to it while you're getting ready.

    Once you're on cam, I wouldn't recommend turning your audio off, as it definitely will affect your earnings (especially if you're just going to turn it back on anyway. like then you're just shooting yourself in the foot). even if you're primarily typing, saying "hi, how's your day?" or something similar makes custies feel like you're engaged. Engagement means interest from custies, interest means more custies (and regulars), more custies means more $$. Having music on helps it from getting too silent as well, so even if you aren't talking, there's noise.

    On really bad days I stick to non-live chat sites (like mgf, skyprivate, NF ect.). The thing about camming is, to some extent, our job is to fake it. You can be whoever the heck you want on cam. Some girls (myself included) have characters they become when they're live. Personally, it helps me detach from whatever is causing me stress or anxiety in my real life. I'm a smiling, confident, chatty, giggly, fun loving, energizer bunny on cam. irl, I'm an anxious, glowering, dog lady who would much rather make crafts on pinterest all day than cam. I just try to be the person I'd want to watch if I were buying a cam show & my customers eat it up. Always remember, when you're selling a product (in this instance, your time) you want to sell it in the best light possible. If you don't act like your product is the shit, nobody else is going to believe it's awesome either.

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    I have major anxiety issues and The really weird thing is that I actually do better on token sites than private based ones on my bad days! I just can't face the intensity and intimacy of my usual custies and long private sessions on aw etc when like that, so i go on mfc with no effort on my hair/ makeup etc AT ALL and just sit and chat. Absolutely baffles me but i always make money there those days and do not feel at all burned out. I also find phone chat really energising on those days too as the depravity of some guys makes me giggle.. weirdo!
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    Quote Originally Posted by anonymous camgirl View Post
    Calcium and D3.. I just got done with my consultation with my mineral practitioner.. calcium seriously calms the nervous system down but you need d3 to go with it.. or take a combo.. I am also taking Endomet Paramins.. which has calcium, mag, d3 and boron..
    I totally agree about nutrition. Magnesium really helped me with anxiety.

    Other things to help: having a comfortable routine, getting enough exercise, and consciously practicing social skills if that's what is making you anxious. Camming can actually be great practice. I found that camming, as well as stripping, really improved my conversation skills. I used to have crippling social anxiety, but after a few years of highly social jobs, it's been beaten out of me. lol

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    I have really bad social anxiety too. So much that I'll go days without leaving my house. I have a difficult time communicating with guys in my chat without getting super annoyed fairly quickly. Even the nice guys stress me out if they become too chatty. I despise small talk because I'm horrible at it. Introverts just don't do small talk...which is basically what free chat is. I find that typing in free chat helps me stay patient longer and I can communicate better than if I were vocalizing the conversation.

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    This Mineral Practitioner is saving my life.. I hired him because I had an incident where my minerals got stripped out and I became really sick and I didn't know who to turn to.. I have been following his protocol Since April and I am getting better all the time.. he just told me to today that I am so deficient in calcium that I would be toothless as a young woman soon.. currently almost 44.. I have a sister who is 55 who lost ALOT of her teeth and barely can eat and has advanced osteoporosis.. so I believe it!.. he said that's where I was headed.... so right now we are shifting minerals.. I am in a copper dump phase which is making me CRAZY!!!! talk about anxiety and agitation.. and I am dumping lead.. like a can of lead paint being stripped off the wall.... So I am learning a lot.. in this process.. it's not always fun but I have seen a ton of improvement.. when I hired him I felt I was 80 yrs old and I was crawling and I was scared.. and I went to all these doctors who really didn't help me much... p.s. I am currently a complete mental case from dumping copper and heavy metals right now and so this is the advice he gave to me and I am passing it on to you guys... Granted your mineral profile is not the same as mine but if the shoe fits wear it.

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    I totally agree about nutrition. Magnesium really helped me with anxiety.

    Other things to help: having a comfortable routine, getting enough exercise, and consciously practicing social skills if that's what is making you anxious. Camming can actually be great practice. I found that camming, as well as stripping, really improved my conversation skills. I used to have crippling social anxiety, but after a few years of highly social jobs, it's been beaten out of me. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoloDesire View Post
    I have really bad social anxiety too. So much that I'll go days without leaving my house. I have a difficult time communicating with guys in my chat without getting super annoyed fairly quickly. Even the nice guys stress me out if they become too chatty. I despise small talk because I'm horrible at it. Introverts just don't do small talk...which is basically what free chat is. I find that typing in free chat helps me stay patient longer and I can communicate better than if I were vocalizing the conversation.
    This is so true for me! I'm very much an introvert too, and always find it difficult to make small talk.

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    For me making sure I eat regularly, meditating before I go on, and therapy have all been really big for helping me with cam-related social anxiety. Also reading motivational threads on here can help me get in a focused mindset where the anxiety isn't so forefront on my mind. Token sites in general tend to trigger it more, so I usually stick to sites like SM or private-only. If you like tea a nice cup of chamomile right as you go on/right before may help as well If the anxiety pops up bad during a show I just focus on my breathing and keep a smile slapped on my face until it passes.

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    I'm the total opposite! I can talk to anyone, anywhere LOL!
    Quote Originally Posted by SoloDesire View Post
    I have really bad social anxiety too. So much that I'll go days without leaving my house. I have a difficult time communicating with guys in my chat without getting super annoyed fairly quickly. Even the nice guys stress me out if they become too chatty. I despise small talk because I'm horrible at it. Introverts just don't do small talk...which is basically what free chat is. I find that typing in free chat helps me stay patient longer and I can communicate better than if I were vocalizing the conversation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I'm the total opposite! I can talk to anyone, anywhere LOL!
    I surround myself with people like you...it helps balance me out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Solsikke View Post
    For me making sure I eat regularly, meditating before I go on, and therapy have all been really big for helping me with cam-related social anxiety. Also reading motivational threads on here can help me get in a focused mindset where the anxiety isn't so forefront on my mind. Token sites in general tend to trigger it more, so I usually stick to sites like SM or private-only. If you like tea a nice cup of chamomile right as you go on/right before may help as well If the anxiety pops up bad during a show I just focus on my breathing and keep a smile slapped on my face until it passes.
    I am also a big believer in tea. definitely helps to have something warm and relaxing to drink.

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    Thank you all for the replies!! So if you just type in free chat, do the guys get annoyed? I've seen some other people doing this when I watch other models. I didn't have music on today and I used to use it when I cammed before, so maybe I need to try that tomorrow. Has anyone tried having kava before going on cam? I'm considering it. I saw my psychiatrist today and I'm pretty much out of options for anxiety med-wise. So, I may try the kava as it produces almost an alcohol-like feeling but doesn't last as long.

    I like the nutrition ideas and the routines too. I'm still scrambling to get into a general routine with my days, which probably isn't helping with my anxiety. I will have to try meditating before I go on as well. I am almost desperate enough to take benzos again but they are far too addictive. I guess I will probably get used to camming again with time too... it was my first day back on today(and I made $0) which probably is contributing.

    I do need to work on social skills. I've been searching the forums for book ideas and ordered a few, so hopefully those can help too. Does anyone here have any book recommendations?

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    Quote Originally Posted by caramelcraze View Post
    I have developed awful anxiety over the past few years. I've found that a few things really help: routine, small talk, & downtime. make a routine that you can stick to so you aren't scrambling around before you cam. having normality helps put me at ease even before I'm on cam. Clean your toys, do some yoga, maybe take your dog for a walk, get prettied up, & go! I've found turning on music helps a lot before and while I'm on cam. make a playlist of stuff that makes you happy and listen to it while you're getting ready.

    Once you're on cam, I wouldn't recommend turning your audio off, as it definitely will affect your earnings (especially if you're just going to turn it back on anyway. like then you're just shooting yourself in the foot). even if you're primarily typing, saying "hi, how's your day?" or something similar makes custies feel like you're engaged. Engagement means interest from custies, interest means more custies (and regulars), more custies means more $$. Having music on helps it from getting too silent as well, so even if you aren't talking, there's noise.

    On really bad days I stick to non-live chat sites (like mgf, skyprivate, NF ect.). The thing about camming is, to some extent, our job is to fake it. You can be whoever the heck you want on cam. Some girls (myself included) have characters they become when they're live. Personally, it helps me detach from whatever is causing me stress or anxiety in my real life. I'm a smiling, confident, chatty, giggly, fun loving, energizer bunny on cam. irl, I'm an anxious, glowering, dog lady who would much rather make crafts on pinterest all day than cam. I just try to be the person I'd want to watch if I were buying a cam show & my customers eat it up. Always remember, when you're selling a product (in this instance, your time) you want to sell it in the best light possible. If you don't act like your product is the shit, nobody else is going to believe it's awesome either.
    Is Skyprivate better than CamModelDirectory? I want to advertise for Skype shows but I'm pretty overwhelmed with how to start. I know there are some good threads on here, so I guess I should get reading.

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    personally i'm a xanax fan. Only take it when you need it though, as it is super addictive. I also take hash tabs, which help even me out (they're legal here thankfully).

    as far as books, this is one of my favorites: https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyo...VPJDCMKDT206XC Got it for christmas years ago when I worked a retail job and it's great for teaching people how to get what they want out of any social situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by caramelcraze View Post
    personally i'm a xanax fan. Only take it when you need it though, as it is super addictive. I also take hash tabs, which help even me out (they're legal here thankfully).

    as far as books, this is one of my favorites: https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyo...VPJDCMKDT206XC Got it for christmas years ago when I worked a retail job and it's great for teaching people how to get what they want out of any social situation.
    I have an Ativan prescription being faxed to my pharmacy for me if I need it. I may keep it on hand just in case but try the kava first. I was addicted to klonopin and I don't really want to go down that road again just to be ok on cam.

    I have been looking at that book! I just ordered How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less a couple days ago. I will definitely get the one you recommended too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by rainbowsand View Post
    Is Skyprivate better than CamModelDirectory? I want to advertise for Skype shows but I'm pretty overwhelmed with how to start. I know there are some good threads on here, so I guess I should get reading.
    I've never used CMD personally, so I really can't answer that. skyprivate is great, minus the time they take to process payments. they do have some traffic, but definitely not much or enough to make a decent wage off of on it's own. it is super easy to use though & I've never had an issue.

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    I have major anxiety and panic attacks and take Ativan for it. I found out Lavender tea helps me relax, so I have a cup a day before camming. Ive only had one anxiety attack on cam and I managed to make it through the show.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneBurgess View Post
    I have major anxiety and panic attacks and take Ativan for it. I found out Lavender tea helps me relax, so I have a cup a day before camming. Ive only had one anxiety attack on cam and I managed to make it through the show.
    Do you take ativan daily? My doctor said he'd only write the script if I take it only every 3-4 days. I'll get some lavender tea! Thanks.

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    Also, caffeine? Yes or no? I find it makes me more anxious but I'm also up through the night half the time with my son so I'm exhausted a lot.

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    Also, caffeine? Yes or no? I find it makes me more anxious but I'm also up through the night half the time with my son so I'm exhausted a lot.
    For me personally with caffeine, I find it really depends on the dosage.

    I don't drink coffee when I need energy, instead I will use a pill cutter to break up a caffeine pill into four pieces and that way I can just take a little of it at a time and it doesn't overload my system.

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    So far typing isn't helping or hurting.. still $0 today. One guy got mad that I'm not talking. Others didn't seem to care but it's a bunch of freeloaders.

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    If you're up half the night with your son that's probably the biggest factor into you being anxious on cam. It's hard for me when I've had my sleep. Can you take naps? Also see if you can just think of it as acting. Not what would you do in a certain situation, but what would "she" do. Your alternate cam girl personality.
    Marina was right too. Are you aware of what is going through your head when you're being anxious? Is it a "I'm fat, ugly,lazy, awkward type of thing?" Once you know what it is you can overcome it , or at the very least squeak past it.
    You said you have a problem being social. Cater to those guys!!! Be honest with them and tell them you aren't the best at ( insert thing here). There are alot of guys who are socially awkward and they come to us because of this. Just an idea. You don't have to. But you sound like you're going in the right direction.

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