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    Hi, long time lurker, sometime sex worker.

    Been out of the indy escorting biz over a year and I want to come back but want to start out low key, not a lot of ads, no new reviews. I've heard from local hobby boards a good way to do that is to invite your old regs back. I've never felt very confident reaching out cold to even current clients, so the idea of contacting old regs/faves makes my toes curl in angst. googling how to contact old clients gets me weird sales pitch tips and templates that don't translate well or feel fake as fuck.

    Any tips, books or whatever that have worked well for you in a similar sitch?

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    I would try posting some ads first, many of your old regs will see them and then you can reach out to other regs after that. Just say something along the lines of "Hey stranger (or if that feels corny, use their name), just wanted to touch base to see if you wanted to have a rendez-vous sometime soon."

    Pick and chose words to paraphrase and make it more you if that doesn't sound quite like your style. Short and sweet!

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    Default Re: Coming back low key, nervous about contacting old clients

    Emails. BUT a lot of these guys aren't receptive.

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    Everything is hit and miss in this game

    You could go through old emails from previous bookings you might get a bite you might not.

    Working under the radar can only really be done if you have your own client list.

    otherwise you have to post ads again or be active in the boards.
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    I have a decent list of people who would make good candidates to reach out to(actively seeing similar people, had a connection, etc etc etc) from 5 years of the biz before I took a break. my question isn't whether or not to email or even if it will work. I'm aware of the possibility of it not working and I'm fine with a slow start. I don't need to make a full time income in a hurry, and I don't expect to with the list I'm starting with.

    I want to know what others have found useful for reaching out to old clients to bring them back in - specifically writing that's not flat or makes them feel like they got a copypasta email that a billion other dudes got. If anyone has any recs on books, articles, little mindset tricks, whatever, I would appreciate them. like I mentioned in op, the stuff I'm finding on google is weird sales shit for vanilla people w advertising budgets for facebook and it doesn't translate well for my needs.

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    Not everything about escorting will be online - somethings you have to figure out on your own.
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    I would only email them and will not call them. When you quitted a year ago, did you communicate with them?
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    I was really hoping for support from a support forum. I've been reading this site for months to glean any and all advice that might be useful. I have read so many posts with helpful recommendations for books on entrepreneurship( the general subject not the internet escort guides), personal mindset routines to help with show/newbie nerves, other users telling women to email clients and keep contact up. I was hoping I'd hear from some of the same people with insight into how to approach emailing old clients to invite them back. I'm surprised I'm getting such closed transaction responses that focus not on my problem(email approach/tone?) but what I plan to do when I solve my problem(work low key with what ever I get). I joined to ask a specific question hoping I'd get a useful answer. I'm not new to the biz but I know I can always learn more and work on my skills which what I'm trying to do by posting here. I don't know how to make my question any easier to understand and answer.

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    I've kept up some bare minimum with the people I want to email now, mostly little notes when they send a holiday greeting or replying @ me on twitter so I know they will recieve my emails. I'm not going in like"Hey, I acted like you were dead to me this last year but..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    Hi, long time lurker, sometime sex worker.

    Been out of the indy escorting biz over a year and I want to come back but want to start out low key, not a lot of ads, no new reviews. I've heard from local hobby boards a good way to do that is to invite your old regs back. I've never felt very confident reaching out cold to even current clients, so the idea of contacting old regs/faves makes my toes curl in angst. googling how to contact old clients gets me weird sales pitch tips and templates that don't translate well or feel fake as fuck.

    Any tips, books or whatever that have worked well for you in a similar sitch?
    If it's been over a year I wouldn't email them unless I have a personal relationship with them - and for me, I can count on one hand the clients that fall into that category.

    if you're looking to make money, you should post ads, and even consider starting a blog to showcase your personality since you won't have reviews to back you up right out of the gate.

    Tumblr is an awesome platform for this.

    As for books, escort aristocracy, amanda brooks, and even The Courtesan Handbook although the author sounds a bit incoherent - it still has some pretty good tips.

    As another member said, you'll have to do the leg work because no one has all the answers. You'll have to do read and fish for yourself. Best of luck to you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by fbsmgirl View Post
    If it's been over a year I wouldn't email them unless I have a personal relationship with them - and for me, I can count on one hand the clients that fall into that category.

    if you're looking to make money, you should post ads, and even consider starting a blog to showcase your personality since you won't have reviews to back you up right out of the gate.

    Tumblr is an awesome platform for this.

    As for books, escort aristocracy, amanda brooks, and even The Courtesan Handbook although the author sounds a bit incoherent - it still has some pretty good tips.

    As another member said, you'll have to do the leg work because no one has all the answers. You'll have to do read and fish for yourself. Best of luck to you!
    I've read amanda brook's books, along with a ton of other escorting books on amazon. I'm reading about regular entrepreneurship every day and attending workshops and online presentations. I've been doing leg work, I'm still doing leg work. I am not asking for a full business blueprint. I am asking for tips on writing email. I have a rapport with the clients I intend to email. I am not intending to spam randoms and clients I've only seen once. I don't need a full time income, I have other income streams and I am not dependent or in serious need of any income that may come from contacting these old clients. Yeah, I want money, but I won't cry if it's one booking once in a blue moon. Really. My goal isn't to go full time escort again, just to have another side stream I know I enjoy being in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    I was really hoping for support from a support forum. I've been reading this site for months to glean any and all advice that might be useful. I have read so many posts with helpful recommendations for books on entrepreneurship( the general subject not the internet escort guides), personal mindset routines to help with show/newbie nerves, other users telling women to email clients and keep contact up. I was hoping I'd hear from some of the same people with insight into how to approach emailing old clients to invite them back. I'm surprised I'm getting such closed transaction responses that focus not on my problem(email approach/tone?) but what I plan to do when I solve my problem(work low key with what ever I get). I joined to ask a specific question hoping I'd get a useful answer. I'm not new to the biz but I know I can always learn more and work on my skills which what I'm trying to do by posting here. I don't know how to make my question any easier to understand and answer.
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    Agree w/above & I think you got @ least a few good ideas/insights?

    Some of the people may not be on this board anymore, for one thing.
    I mean, honestly it feels like you're coming across kinda butthurt cause you didn't get the answer(s) you want?
    I thought of a book, I don't have it here w/me, but when I come across it I can come bk & post it.
    Good luck & welcome back tho.


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Quote: minniesoporno:
    Not everything about escorting will be online - somethings you have to figure out on your own. end quote

    Agree w/above & I think you got @ least a few good ideas/insights?

    Some of the people may not be on this board anymore, for one thing.
    I mean, honestly it feels like you're coming across kinda butthurt cause you didn't get the answer(s) you want?
    I thought of a book, I don't have it here w/me, but when I come across it I can come bk & post it.
    Good luck & welcome back tho.
    I am frustated by the fact that I did not ask for business plan advice and that is all I am getting, even after I have tried to clarify my situation. I tend to be blunt, but I'm not here to piss on anyone, and I haven't. I have just kept repeating my question while clarifying my intention/ answering questions/assumptions. It's like asking for a for a dictionary and being handed an encyclopedia. I appreciate your reply, appreciate baer45's reply though I messed up quoting in my reply to baer45's question.

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    Ok, well, I hope you can find what you want!
    I second the idea about tumblr, I'm on there for another topic, there's lots on there to weed thru, but I find good info on there.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    Hi, long time lurker, sometime sex worker.


    Been out of the indy escorting biz over a year and I want to come back but want to start out low key, not a lot of ads, no new reviews. I've heard from local hobby boards a good way to do that is to invite your old regs back. I've never felt very confident reaching out cold to even current clients, so the idea of contacting old regs/faves makes my toes curl in angst. googling how to contact old clients gets me weird sales pitch tips and templates that don't translate well or feel fake as fuck.


    Any tips, books or whatever that have worked well for you in a similar sitch?

    This was your first post. You should have made it clear from your first post that you were in need of tips on HOW TO EMAIL/REACH OUT to past clients. Your first sentence said "Been out of the indy escorting biz over a year and I want to come back but want to start out low key, not a lot of ads, no new reviews". You went from that to Oh i don't even care if I got one appointment... wtf?

    I'm sorry I typically don't read every single post on a message board. If there's a question in the OP, I'll respond to THAT question. I'm obviously not the only one guilty of doing this. You should have gone back and edited your original post instead of bitching at folks that are trying to help you. News flash: Most of us learned by trial and error and we don't have to share anything with you. Bitching and being rude gets you nowhere.


    You said...

    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    I have a decent list of people who would make good candidates to reach out to(actively seeing similar people, had a connection, etc etc etc) from 5 years of the biz before I took a break. my question isn't whether or not to email or even if it will work. I'm aware of the possibility of it not working and I'm fine with a slow start. I don't need to make a full time income in a hurry, and I don't expect to with the list I'm starting with.

    I want to know what others have found useful for reaching out to old clients to bring them back in - specifically writing that's not flat or makes them feel like they got a copypasta email that a billion other dudes got. If anyone has any recs on books, articles, little mindset tricks, whatever, I would appreciate them. like I mentioned in op, the stuff I'm finding on google is weird sales shit for vanilla people w advertising budgets for facebook and it doesn't translate well for my needs.
    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    I've kept up some bare minimum with the people I want to email now, mostly little notes when they send a holiday greeting or replying @ me on twitter so I know they will recieve my emails. I'm not going in like"Hey, I acted like you were dead to me this last year but..."
    So since you KNOW that their emails are active, you have good rapport with these people, why do you need "mind tricks"? Men are visual. Email subject: Did you miss me? Body: Whatever you think is appropriate + Contact information with an attached photo and call it a day. Not rocket science. Men are really NOT that complicated.
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    You're adding a lot of emotional content that isn't there. I didn't say I didn't care if I didn't get one appointment. thank you for your two cents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    You're adding a lot of emotional content that isn't there. I didn't say I didn't care if I didn't get one appointment. thank you for your two cents.
    I only repeated what you said.

    What you said...
    Quote Originally Posted by ninananana View Post
    Yeah, I want money, but I won't cry if it's one booking once in a blue moon.
    What I said ...
    This was your first post. You should have made it clear from your first post that you were in need of tips on HOW TO EMAIL/REACH OUT to past clients. Your first sentence said "Been out of the indy escorting biz over a year and I want to come back but want to start out low key, not a lot of ads, no new reviews". You went from that to Oh i don't even care if I got one appointment... wtf?
    My thought process was if you already have multiple streams of income, unless you have an extensive client list, that is A LOT of work for an appointment "once every blue moon" *shrugs*. Anyways, you already got your answer. Enjoy your slumber.
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    Escorting is not exactly legal all of the world a lot of places people are criminalized for it so open discussions about the work is a risk and probably breaking the law too. I remember years ago asking a fellow escort a question and she replied back she couldn't answer because legally she can't. at the time I was confused and even a little angry over it but now I get it.

    Sure we can give general advice on somethings but when post get really personal or wanting detailed information you really have to filter out what you are going to say and even then that is a risk. a lot of websites get shut down related to this type of work and they never really recover or pop back up the same level they were before.

    So there are general things out there then you have to read related business books and that is where you go to work and figure out how you can blend the skills over.

    example i am doing internet marketing in the vanilla internet space a lot of that is translated in internet marketing in general then some of that is used for my adult work. It's just what you need to do be in this line of work.
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    Maybe if it's appropriate, you can explain your break and return to work as an opener, like, as you might know I took a break but I decided to come back to it because I missed the work and some of the connections I used to have with people like you. If you'd like to reconnect just let me know and I can let you know my new info/schedule/rates etc.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fbsmgirl View Post
    You should have gone back and edited your original post instead of bitching at folks that are trying to help you... Bitching and being rude gets you nowhere.

    So since you KNOW that their emails are active, you have good rapport with these people, why do you need "mind tricks"? Men are visual. Email subject: Did you miss me? Body: Whatever you think is appropriate + Contact information with an attached photo and call it a day. Not rocket science. Men are really NOT that complicated.
    Second the unappreciative undertones in your approach... if you didn't get the answer you wanted - clarify. Don't shit on others who are trying to help.

    Anyways, back to your question. You're selling a service, so in regards to you feeling like "hey, I acted like you were dead last year, but.." Put that out of your mind. Of course you wouldn't be talking to them if you weren't working. That doesn't need to be addressed. All you want to communicate with them is that you're now available again. Plain and simple.

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    Okay, what now?..............

    Add: It seems that I posted the wrong advice...
    Anyway, for an email to reach out to the old customers... I would just make up a story why I didn't keep in touch with them (unless the ones that you still in contact). Like...you found a job in a different city and moved to there for a year. It didn't work out for you and you just moved back. While you are trying to figure out what's your next step, you would like to reconnect with the customers who you had some good time with...etc. I would also send one or two photos to them, you know, the photos that you will put in your ads.
    Maybe this is not the advice you wanted either, oh well, welcome back.

    Oh, one more thing. Those hobbyists use review boards to share escort info. So you might not need to reach out to everyone of them. If they are still in this hobby, they will be told.
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