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I m going to try to come across with some direct sound advice. Take it or leave it. It comes from my lengthy experience in the adult entertainment business. I see two problems that should be addressed seperately. They are 1) Your conduct as a dancer 2)Your guilt with your husband over an act committed by you whether you were "turned up" or not (treat it the same whether you were messed up or not. Now before I address this shit your probably a wreck with anxiety, worry, and doubt. I advise you to take NO ACTION...so don't do anything hasty in this emotional state your in and cut any substances out clouding your mind. That being said here we go.
Your conduct as a dancer: No matter how dirty or clean or club is you should always be in control of your actions. Whether you are in a stripclub that is nude, bikini, sketchy or classy; You control your actions and behavior. You never have your boundaries pushed or your judgement clouded, not matter what drug your on or how drunk you are. Stripping, dancing whatever you want to label it...is about the art of selling illusions or fantasy and convince a customer that you are worth a VIP or champagne room because your company and interaction is the SHIT! A true master of the craft has the ability to sell her time (literally accompanying a man being seductive) by not having a cock out the pants ever aka no real sexual act or ever doing anything she feels uncomfortable with. So no comprising your boundaries ever. I don't care if its the norm in a club for something as simple as having them grab a nipple. If you don't feel comfortable don't do it. If the next girl feels fine about it mind your own business and move on. If your desperate for money and you feel you need to compromise your OWN PERSONAL BOUNDARIES please reevaluate your life situation and get your affairs in order to not be living dollar to dollar. Drinking, drugs, peer pressure should not cloud your judgement in what you allow another person to do to you ever, hence the term boundaries. Part of being a dancer is always always always (emphasis on always) be in god damn control of yourself and your situation when you are working. If you can not drink or do substances and keep that composure then do not dance on those things. If you can not keep control of your actions and behavior in high pressure high substance environments than this line of work isn't for you. I'll address part 2 your hubby situation in a moment.
2. Your feelings of guilt with your husband Do not let this event eat away at your soul and you relationship. You stated that this was prior to your marriage so consider your union to be a fresh start and clean slate. Learn from this experience You seem to have experienced a tremendous amount of emotional upheaval and stress from this incident. Let those feelings guide you to never do it again or put yourself in that situation again. Wash the guilt away from your head and realize it was a mistake you learned a hard valuable lesson. Everyone including myself has gotten carried away drunk or just even in the moment of things. Think Spring Breaks, wild parties when your young, one night stands etc and thought what the fuck was I thinking. The biggest mistake in my opinion is that this was work where none of that shit should ever happen. (see above^) That being said take it as a crazy dumb wild night that you'd like to forget and can! Its not like you have a sex tape or something. So chalk it up to a young and dumb learning experience. If it makes you feel better go to the gyno and get tested for the hell of it and everything under he sun, granted you blew a guy, but hey safety is a priority.Take it with a grain of salt, think of all the people that did threesomes and experimented etc.... And don't look down on prostitutes they have a place in the world too. Its different from dancing but none the less they are people and hard workers too so lose that "bad whore" stigma the media perpetuates on Jerry Springer. Move on your young, we all make bad call when once in a while... Just note that you control your actions and get on with your life. Now go do something fun that only a young person can do. Stop the guilt. Do you think that the women that blew and had sex with Mick Jagger feel guilty and whorish? No they were young and out of control. Now get back to feeling good. Fuck your husband and make him a good dinner.![]()
Last edited by katia13; 10-05-2016 at 03:38 AM.
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