I have been to strip clubs all through my adult life, but last 3 years it was like an obsession going as much as 7 days a week. I a getting tired of the strip club obsession and probably going move on with my life to a different obsession and chase after something always wanted, a 2nd masters degree or an MBA.
Here are some lessons the strip clubs have taught me:
1) To be less shallow. I didn't see myself as shallow when I first started going to the clubs, but I discovered I actually was refusing dances from a lot of great dancers just because I was "hooked" on a particular body type and ignoring the more important inner qualities that make a lady great. It has actually helped me in the dating world too, hooked up with my girlfriend about a year after going to the clubs mainly due to being less narrow minded and flexible with the woman I date. I would never hooked up with her before because she wasn't my "ideal" body type. So the club taught me it helps to be flexible and not get hooked on unrealistic "ideals".
2) Learning to be more sociable and relaxed around woman. I have always been this extremely quiet guy. Many dancers have said to me I scare them by how quiet I am and that I look angry all the time simply because I am not in the habit of smiling at people. So I have learned to feel more relaxed and more willing to talk to women after going to the clubs. Learning to smile more helps too. Doing these small steps has made women I have noticed in the clubs and in my everyday life much more easier to talk to.
3) I went in clubs with mainly a "guys" point of view and really had no clue about how women feel and their point of view. By learning a females point of view and how things make them feel, sometimes the hard way with a shitload of criticism, it has made me understand women better than before.
4) I have learned to pay more attention to body language. Women use body language more then men to communicate. At first I got on nerves of several dancers because they were communicating "i'm upset" in their body language, but at same time told me "i'm not mad at you". So I have become better at relating to women by understanding their body language better and paying more attention to it.
You think the clubs help guys become better with women?



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