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    So I did full make up, got everything ready, opened the SM streaming page and SMB software. The only thing I need to do to get online is to hit the 'start show' button. Sat there for an hour staring at myself in the SMB before I gave up and shut the pc down. And this was yesterday. Today I did the same thing again, only took half an hour staring at myself this time. I slacked off for two weeks now I can't get myself to go online. Felt really shitty after not being able to hit 'start'. I wonder if I'm the only one does this. Have this ever happened to you? How do you deal with it?

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    Oh my, this is me... all the time haha. I think it's due to my social anxiety, but I see how it can happen for a lot of other reasons. I mean, it's hard to even gather the will to start a vanilla job every day :/

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    Every day girl ! It's intimidating to get started . Just tell yourself you will go on for just half an hour and if it's bad you'll log out . You'll notice after that half hour you'll want to stay : ) try it

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    Phewww, I feel a little relieved that I'm not the only one! I was starting to think ' wth is wrong with me?!' lol. Thanks for the advice, gonna take some deep breath and try it out!

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    It happens to many of us, if i am dreading going online i will just take a deep breath and tell myself ok lets do this then log on quickly because once im online i made that step and im already on to work. I still get nervous on occasion even after doing this for almost a decade. But once you start streaming you will notice that the nervousness goes away and before you know it youre making money and having fun. Dont beat yourself up over it, it happens to many. Even if it takes you a few attempts to click start try to stay on for just a little while youll see that youll end up staying alot longer than you expected and the money will follow. Good luck with it.

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    I think it's worst if you have taken a long break. Having a structured routine really minimizes anxiety. Don't think, just hit start. Think of all the horny men waiting to just throw money at you!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Petite- View Post
    So I did full make up, got everything ready, opened the SM streaming page and SMB software. The only thing I need to do to get online is to hit the 'start show' button. Sat there for an hour staring at myself in the SMB before I gave up and shut the pc down. And this was yesterday. Today I did the same thing again, only took half an hour staring at myself this time. I slacked off for two weeks now I can't get myself to go online. Felt really shitty after not being able to hit 'start'. I wonder if I'm the only one does this. Have this ever happened to you? How do you deal with it?
    I press start show and stare at myself. If you are going to waste time being online you might as well do it while you are live and have a chance to make money.
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    My first year of cam I did this a lot.. I do not even understand why. However, I broke it by pointing the cam at something besides me. Didn't matter, the guys would star talking (once they went back and forth about the appropriate size of crown molding on my ceiling!) Then I would see it was not so bad and get on and have a good time.
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    i used to have a really bad habit of getting ready then sit in front of my computer then because i normally have 100000000000000000 tabs open in chrome i get distracted easy . O look new episode of One Piece (anime) just got subtitled MUST WATCH let me check my emails let me check stripperweb let me check the tracking on my shit from ebay/amazon ... sometimes i would get sucked in for several hours and by the time i finally did start on cam i burned thru my good time and just ended up logging off frustrated and mad at myself. I was distracting myself from my anxiety since im a fidgety person so you can see how it easy it was for my mouse hand to get a mind of its own. What helped me was restarting my computer before i went on NOT camming on chrome and use IE to cam so i wasnt distracted with the tabs in chrome .
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    I struggle with this when I don't cam often enough. You just have to take a deep breath and hit the button as you're exhaling. it's tough, but you'll instantly feel a release once you do.


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    I also tend to never come back if I take a long break. LOL. That's why I make sure to not give too much space between my shifts

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    Nope... I have done this... if I figured out how to deal with it, I'd be a lot more successful.... I've spent a lot of time traveling or sick this summer, and going back has taken me a lot of time each time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Petite- View Post
    So I did full make up, got everything ready, opened the SM streaming page and SMB software. The only thing I need to do to get online is to hit the 'start show' button. Sat there for an hour staring at myself in the SMB before I gave up and shut the pc down. And this was yesterday. Today I did the same thing again, only took half an hour staring at myself this time. I slacked off for two weeks now I can't get myself to go online. Felt really shitty after not being able to hit 'start'. I wonder if I'm the only one does this. Have this ever happened to you? How do you deal with it?
    Being nervous before you start to stream is normal for me. Like other girls said, if you don't have schedule you will have this situations more often. I don't wear make up when I'm chilling at home so I kind of just wanna finish with my shift and take my make up off, so that's my motivation And of course, what else would I do? Sit around, procrastinate and lose my time thinking about random shit. I could do all that on cam too, if I feel lazy to entertain my viewers, but with the potential to make some money.
    Make yourself as pretty as possible and just go go go anxiety will pass when you start to stream


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    I used to feel like this a lot, and the way I've dealt with it is switch on my non-freechat eggs (eg Skype & phone) as soon as I'm out of the shower, but before I'm dressed. If I get a booking - awesome, I now have something to log on for. If I don't get a booking, by the time I'm all made up I've already been at work for a while, possibly even chatted to a few Skype possibles.

    The climb to freechat doesn't feel so steep any more when I've already done some work.

    ETA If you don't have any non-free-chat eggs, point your cam at the ceiling and press "stream". Just agree with yourself that you'll sit there for a while with the cam looking at the ceiling. You may find that as the guys start coming in, you'll feel OK


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    This is performance anxiety and it's perfectly normal.
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    To be honest, this hasn't happened to me, by the time I get to that point of pressing the start button I was already committed back when I started putting on makeup. I just don't see the start button as the start of camming I guess.

    What helps is to have a routine more than anything. I like to call it my success routine. I learned about success routines from a book, "The Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod.

    The acronym for your success routine is S.A.V.E.R.S.

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    Set aside some time, ideally somewhere between 1-2 hours in the morning before you start your day and do all 6 things, everyday, eg. 10 minutes of meditation, 10 minutes of affirmations, 10 minutes of visualization, 10 minutes for exercise etc.

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    You are definitely not alone. This is me every single day lol. And in fact, thank goodness for my texting job because when I was just doing webcam alone, it would take hours for me to log on and when I finally did, I would stay on for maybe 20 minutes before my anxiety got the best of me and I would log off. Then I would try to log on again an hour or so later only to soon log off all over again.

    For some people, once they turn their cam on and start, it gets easier. But for me, it is the opposite. Hopefully you are one of the people where it gets easier as soon as you turn your cam on.

    Listening to relaxing music might help. Sing along with the music while you do your makeup even lol. Anything to put you in a happy mood. Also, once you get regulars, it may become easier because they will feel like your friends in a way. I would look forward to speaking to certain people. Maybe you will be the same.

    Also, once you see the tips start coming in, it might get easier for you to stay on for more lol.

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    I'm surprised so many people have the same problem tbh. And thanks for all the advice! They are all really good. I agree a set schedule will probably help a lot. Maybe I'll also put a 'Just Do It' sign on the wall in my camroom!

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    Lately I've been feeling like a freechat newbie. Mostly because I took the entire summer off but when I decided to come back I had internet issues. It really sucked. It messed with my confidence and I'd get so frustrated that I'd talk myself out of getting on cam. I missed out on quite a bit of money because all I had to do was just log into a site that required less bandwidth and stay put. So now that my internet is much better I have to get back in shape so to speak. You really have to keep yourself disciplined in order to get on cam regularly. The past month has felt too much like a job because I'd already told myself that it wouldn't work out. Maybe my situation is a bit different? But now that I have what I need getting online is more fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Petite- View Post
    I'm surprised so many people have the same problem tbh. And thanks for all the advice! They are all really good. I agree a set schedule will probably help a lot. Maybe I'll also put a 'Just Do It' sign on the wall in my camroom!
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    Me EVERY time I cam. I'm coming back now after a hiatus and haven't started streaming yet again. I'm nervous, my anxiety is insane but I do have social and general anxiety issues that border on panic disorder, so I've always just associated it with that. For this reason, I tend to have a drink before logging in (Not the best choice, but it does help me loosen up). I tend to get distracted easily as well so you just have to really discipline yourself. I agree that a schedule can help. I'm about to make a set schedule for myself as well, but not a DAILY schedule, but just a schedule for one day.. IE: 8am - Breakfast & art recording - 10-11am - makeup & hair 12pm - start streaming 2:30pm - break 3pm - stream, etc... Since I am trying to run a youtube channel full time (just started) AND cam, I need to be able to effectively break up my time and a schedule can really help you get into a routine.

    Most of the time though, I'll log into a site that doesnt make me nervous cuz no one pays me there, like bonga, lol, and then I'll get frustrated with idiots and switch to a paying site like SM or ImLive or CB.
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    This happens to me all the time. Lately, my biggest struggle is getting ready to go on cam, but I still have problems with actually logging on. Here are some things that help me:

    ~ Congratulate myself on getting ready all the way. I don't know about you, but as my hair gets longer and longer, it takes forever to wash, dry, and style it. And then there's eyeliner, aka my nemesis. Plus there's my fucking nails (quickly becoming worse than the eyeliner). It's no small feat to be done up and sexy!
    ~ Remind myself that I put in all that work, and I don't want it to be a total waste.
    ~ Figure out a goal that seems not only achievable, but really easy. For me, half an hour is something I KNOW I can do. For you, it might be 10 minutes or 5. If the only thing that seems easy is to hit the start button and log off immediately, that's ok. You can work up from wherever you are.
    ~ Give myself a reward. Half the time, I'll be sitting there trying to log on, and then I'm thinking "But there's pajama pants and perving on Trevor Noah! It's just a 22 minute episode, and then I'll come back..." Yeah, no. So I tell myself that all I have to do is half an hour, and then there are pjs and Trevor (*don't judge me, ladies! he's a guilty pleasure!*) waiting for me at the end.
    ~ Log on and see how long you actually stay. I know there are bad days, and some people have more than others, but once you're on, it's very rarely as bad as you imagined. Chances of outlasting your initial easy goal are really good!

    ~ If I follow the steps and still fail, I try to be kind to myself. Remind myself of all the hard work I did in getting ready, and that that's nothing to sneeze at. I have problems with fatigue and anxiety, so some days, just making it to that point is an achievement.
    ~ Try not to think of each day as the turning point. Sometimes it feels helpful to wake up and think that today you're going to do awesome, and it's the start of a brand new, productive, camming goddess. It's great to think that you're going to be awesome, but that's a lot of pressure. You have to remember that you build a camming goddess one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Each day/hour/minute is a chance to add a piece to the puzzle, or not. Not adding a piece doesn't mean that you just threw the whole puzzle on the floor and broke it.
    ~ If you can't get yourself on cam, try to do something else productive with your time. Build yourself up to be ready for your next attempt. If you're sleep deprived, "something productive" includes going to sleep.
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