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    So my drug addict uncle claimed he went into my club and saw me stripping. He told NY aunt, who us a narcissist. She is threatening to tell my parents. I don't know what to do. This will ruin my relationship with my father for sure. What do I do?! I'm panicking because nobody will answer their phones

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    Does your father have a good relationship with your drug addict uncle? Deny deny deny. Your dad might be more inclined to believe you over someone who is a narcissist and a junkie
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    Quote Originally Posted by maggie82 View Post
    So my drug addict uncle claimed he went into my club and saw me stripping. He told NY aunt, who us a narcissist. She is threatening to tell my parents. I don't know what to do. This will ruin my relationship with my father for sure. What do I do?! I'm panicking because nobody will answer their phones
    I would tell your parents the truth if they confront you. It sounds as though your aunt and uncle want money or something in exchange for keeping their mouths shut. And they will hold this over you for years. If your parents are furious, explain to them why you're dancing. The economy is terrible and you need to pay your bills. If your father really loves you, he will get over it. I've experienced this. And my father finally got over it. And we're now closer than we ever were. And I don't have to hide anything anymore.
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    i would just deny
    maybe say you waitress there or something

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    He probably did go into the club. I wouldn't think he just guessed it. However, you have to decide what you are going to do to either 1. Deny it in an attempt to prevent them from telling your parents (and flip the script on him; was this aunt he told his wife or his sister?), or 2. Have a solid game plan of what you are going to do in the event your parents do find out. Be prepared though, if you deny it you can not just deny it was you and go on dancing indefinitely. You will have to either come clean or lay low from dancing for awhile.
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    Maggie I really hope things start working out for you because it seems like it's been a tough road from the beginning through your dancer journey but keep your head up.

    Was it your old club or new club this happened at? Is your club in your home town?


    Quote Originally Posted by maggie82 View Post
    So my drug addict uncle claimed he went into my club and saw me stripping. He told NY aunt, who us a narcissist. She is threatening to tell my parents. I don't know what to do. This will ruin my relationship with my father for sure. What do I do?! I'm panicking because nobody will answer their phones

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nataliarose View Post
    Maggie I really hope things start working out for you because it seems like it's been a tough road from the beginning through your dancer journey but keep your head up.

    Was it your old club or new club this happened at? Is your club in your home town?
    I've noticed this, too. I honestly have never come across someone with such rotten luck. Her first club every person was against her and hazed her, her other club was filled with pimps that the management let stay, and now her drug addict uncle is going to try and ruin her relationship with her parents. Bless her heart!!! If all the OP is saying is true, I would recommend moving away and dancing somewhere else. And deny, deny, deny that he saw you. If he is a drug addict then no one should believe him.

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    I think this poster is a troll or just seeking attention. Because seriously ... how does one person have so much drama and bad luck?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Layla.00 View Post
    I think this poster is a troll or just seeking attention. Because seriously ... how does one person have so much drama and bad luck?
    I was thinking the same thing, but I am a newer member and don't want to be presumptuous. I don't see how just every thing goes wrong every time. If I am wrong, I apologize.

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    I don't think the poster is a troll, I just think she is young, naive and too concerned with people "liking" her/ making friends. It's how young people think these days. Let me have 3,000 strangers on my instagram page; when I only know 74 of them. Then, I can take the same selfie 16X from 12 different angles and play with the filters so I can get validation from 1854 strangers- because that is important in life. I feel kind of bad for her and wish she would actually take the advice of the people here who read and respond to her posts (in fairness sometimes she does but it seems only after she has repeated the same mistake a dozen times.)
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    ^ Agreed. Honestly I am surprised she is even still in a club. IMO this feels like the universe is telling her "This is not for you! Stop it!" and she is just plowing on anyway.

    But yeah. We can all repeat advice until we are blue in the face but she will keep making these threads. Somebody in another thread very nicely said "Maggie, honey, this doesn't seem like dancing is for you" and based on her constant threads, I agree with that.
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    Life can only change for the better when one takes responsibility to be in charge & move it forward in a positive way.

    Tell your parents, cause it was NOT a matter of if but when. You knew this so own up to what you are really up to with them. How can any relationship be real if all the people involved are not honest.

    An Uncle being that shady is someone I would refuse to have in my life & clearly he is someone that your parents & those who are older should be protecting you from. I don't know if the Aunt is a narcissist. But I'd be pissed off if family member didn't tell me something like that about my kid if they weren't being honest with me in the first place.

    It is older family member's obligation to look out for the younger ones. Typically strip clubs are not good for younger people and they have the right to be concerned. Especially if it has Pimps in it.

    People who bitch, complain & say the world is out to get them are often the problem & refuse to take responsibility for there own actions. I wouldn't continue to work at a place that was full of pimps & other people who hated me. I'd question someone's judgment is they did stay there.

    There are other jobs in the world other than stripping. Generally, if there is one strip club there are several in an area to work at.

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    I ran back and told everyone afterwards. In this day and age if a woman can't be independent and provide for herself without everyone judging them, it's them with the problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maggie82 View Post
    So my drug addict uncle claimed he went into my club and saw me stripping. He told NY aunt, who us a narcissist. She is threatening to tell my parents. I don't know what to do. This will ruin my relationship with my father for sure. What do I do?! I'm panicking because nobody will answer their phones

    Lie! Say you have no idea what he's talking about. And if they ask you where you work, give the name of a small bar or something.

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    I do not think the op has been back.
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    I wish her the best and hope she can be either become successful at dancing or find another path in life. There are plenty of other avenues to explore.

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