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Hmm that would make me uncomfortable too. I understand his side too though, so I don't have an alternative to suggest. At the very least, ask him to give you the cheque back rather than you having to take his word that it's been torn up.
He sounds normal so far. This is just a suggestion, but I would think that from an accounting point of view, he would still need to explain how your dental appointments are paid for. He could pay you the amount first to cover the dental visits, and then you could pay his practice, either the day of the visits, or when they send the bills, and then everything looks more normal. I'm assuming he is or will be paying you for your social time together from his personal finances, not his business. I'd gently suggest this method to him first, and explain that it would be easier for his bookkeeping that way. But it sounds like he's the real deal so it's up to you how and when you expect to be paid for your house calls. He may not have thought this all through yet. The worst that could happen is that you have to pay for the better teeth yourself.![]()
I would right the check but take a marker and make small circles in certain places like fill in the upper part of the 9 of the check/account/routing number. That way if he does try to cash it, which it doesn't seem like he will, it won't go through because the check would be tampered with. But it will be such a small mark that his office staff won't notice unless they're really looking for something.
Damn congrats to you...I'm still SD looking. a guy I met at the club I danced at seem promising but when I said I need at least $1000 a month he was all like "I can't afford that" smh you told me you were a structural engineer don't be give me that BS lol

Tough call. My first instinct was to suggest altering the check somehow, as Dot suggested, but if he knew you did that it might come across as you not trusting which might ruin a good thing.
Any way of putting it on a CC and then having him reimburse you? That way you could have the option of disputing the charges if it turns out to be some well thought out (albeit really lame) scam.
Otherwise I'd just write the check normally, and hope for a reimbursement. See it is a small risk in exchange for a hopefully long and profitable relationship.
HOWEVER, I couldn't help but be reminded of some comedy about "hookups" and one of the story lines was a plastic surgeon who was giving "free" surgeries to a hopeful sugar baby, but he only did one boob at a time, to make sure she didn't ditch him after the surgery.
LOL ^^^ but good point him possibly catching





Personally, I would not written out any checks because I am not a very trusting woman. However, I have all my sugar daddies write out a contract and make both our attentions well known. If they breach the contract, then they give me my last month allowance plus a canceling fee. If I breach the contract, then they are free to get back the last allowance or jewelry they brought me. I also have them sign a disclosure agreement as well because I want maximum disclosure between us.I would say that he sounds good for now and if you want to write out an check....then you should treated like it is an exchanged in this relationship.
You can't put shit past anyone. My friend had a fiancé sugar daddy & he scammed her out of $4000. He lived in a nice neighborhood, she knew his kids & he drove a clk 430 the hot car then. So she trusted him. I doubt your guy needs your money but men do vindictive stuff. So give it & put a stop payment. It's only $35. Better safe than scammed.





From all I've seen it sounds like you've got a winner. Put a stop on it and tell him you did it.
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I wish I could go back in time and have any dudes i slept with sign an NDA. Now if they run their mouths I have to deny fucking them. I like contracts for men cause they will lie through their teeth and go back on their word to advance their agenda (which is to have sex with you). Contracts hold people accountable to do what they said they were going to do or they have to suffer consequences. One of the benefits of marriage.
But yeah. Glad you found a sugar daddy who seems generous.
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I would write the check and then immediately put a stop payment on it as a precaution.
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Write a check, remember the check number. it's on the right corner. call the bank and tell them to stop that check.
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This. I would not create tension or distrust over the check issue so just talk about it with him. As you said the invis-aline process takes several months (3 seems crazy to me based on what I have seen in the past) and it would not make sense for him to give you all of this money and start a process like this and try to "trick" you into paying for it.
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Who still writes checks these days? Most people use cash or cards.
Have him give you the payment amount in cash ahead of time. Give the receptionist/assistant cash when she asks for payment.
Both you and he are making this WAY more complicated than it needs to be.
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