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    Hey All,

    So recently I made a post on my social media page about how I will have to pay for my own health insurance come 2017. I was bit a bowled over with the prices since there will be a 20% hike on the insurance. I can't really skate by with inexpensive insurance that doesn't cover much as I have a few conditions that have to be monitored by doctors and controlled with medications. I can afford this insurance but for what I will be paying I could be driving a brand new luxury car, putting that money in savings, or just doing something fun in general besides paying boring health insurance. lol


    One of my "friends" left a comment I don't know how quite to take. They said "That sucks... get yourself a wealthy husband... just kidding!haha!" I was insulted by this because I stated above I could afford the insurance. Why would I need a wealthy guy? I feel like that comment was diminishing to me as a woman who can support herself. I get the logic of "why pay when someone else will for you" but I really don't feel like that is my "friends" MO. I don't think she married for money so I think her comment was kind of shady. I typically wouldn't be bothered by this comment at all BUT this girl just kind of disappeared out of my life for two years. She recently hit me up and I was like okay, cool, we all have lives, glad to see her back. However, she tried to make plans to come hang out with me but never confirmed so our meet up didn't happen. I'm to the point where I'm just going to delete this person out of my life. Like.... you don't follow through with your plans, just ghost out on me, and then have the nerve to leave a shady comment on my page? I don't need that in my life.

    I would appreciate your opinions as I don't want to make a rash decision.

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    try not to take it personally.

    technically if our money comes from a physical singular source, you could be receiving your money from either a man or a woman. Whether a person receives money from their husbands physical efforts, from multiple people of the same gender, or anywhere in between. What does it really matter? Better to receive money than waste time debating about where it came from. IDK.

    I guess if you and your "friend" don't mesh well then why not cut her loose and find more compatible friends.
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    Yes, it was a shitty thing to say and you do have the right to feel aggravated by it but I would not take it so seriously. It's facebook. I have a guy friend who constantly posts memes that are a bit misogynistic or racist in tone and he is neither one of those things in real life. He does it because he thinks he is funny, but apparently a lot of other people think he is funny too so...
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    My thing is that if this was the first offense of just leaving an off handed social media comment, I would just let it go and shrug.... but this is like 3rd time she's has thrown shit my way when I've DONE nothing to provoke her since she's reappeared in my life. I'm half tempted to call her out and ask her what exactly she meant by her comment.However, I don't think she is the type of person to have the balls to say exactly what she meant. I've been doing well financially and I think that might piss her off as well.

    I actually think secretly she is incredibly jealous and catty. She tries to hide it but when she gets envious or feel like someone is getting more than her... that green eyed monster comes out of her. I know her from an agency that I use to work for doing acting and promo gigs. If I would get something instead of her she would only half heartedly congratulate me. One time I was picked for a role that she wasn't and she asked me if I booked the gig. I told her I got the gig and she tells me " Oh it's only network TV" in a really snooty voice and hung up on me quickly. We were speaking on a regular basis at the time....so I was like.... whatever... I do understand how disappointing it can be not get booked for something you had hoped for.

    I do appreciate the input your ladies gave me. I might not delete her off my page so she can continue to monitor on how well I'm doing, stay mad about it, and when something really great happens she can post yet another obvious comment to me.... but that's pretty petty. lol I think my best bet is probably to delete her salty behind.... with friends like her... who needs enemies?

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    There are people who are just like that. They don't make good friends.
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    Where does the Frenemy part kick in? I think you're over analyzing the comment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMoore View Post
    My thing is that if this was the first offense of just leaving an off handed social media comment, I would just let it go and shrug.... but this is like 3rd time she's has thrown shit my way when I've DONE nothing to provoke her since she's reappeared in my life. I'm half tempted to call her out and ask her what exactly she meant by her comment.However, I don't think she is the type of person to have the balls to say exactly what she meant. I've been doing well financially and I think that might piss her off as well.

    I actually think secretly she is incredibly jealous and catty. She tries to hide it but when she gets envious or feel like someone is getting more than her... that green eyed monster comes out of her. I know her from an agency that I use to work for doing acting and promo gigs. If I would get something instead of her she would only half heartedly congratulate me. One time I was picked for a role that she wasn't and she asked me if I booked the gig. I told her I got the gig and she tells me " Oh it's only network TV" in a really snooty voice and hung up on me quickly. We were speaking on a regular basis at the time....so I was like.... whatever... I do understand how disappointing it can be not get booked for something you had hoped for.

    I do appreciate the input your ladies gave me. I might not delete her off my page so she can continue to monitor on how well I'm doing, stay mad about it, and when something really great happens she can post yet another obvious comment to me.... but that's pretty petty. lol I think my best bet is probably to delete her salty behind.... with friends like her... who needs enemies?
    She sounds jealous. This sounds like my twin sister. If something positive happens to me, she'll reply with a dry "really?" "Oh God..." "I can't believe you're happy about this," pretty much ANYTHING but a "Congratulations" or a "good luck".

    Your friend sounds jealous. Pay attention to her reactions to you, for sure. One more catty comment from her and I'd either call her out and ask what's up (and she'll probably deny her feelings) or just start distancing yourself from her.

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    See what she says next. By the way after I was in a car wreck a clerical worker at hospital was processing my bill payment & he said I should " get married" so I would have access to more stability in life. I remember being annoyed because in California at that time most people were not big on marriage (period) due to divorce laws. (Aside from the douche culture.) So yeah I dismissed that guy's suggestion as him trying to mansplain life to me after I had recently dumped a boyfriend that was the total opposite of marriage material.

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    I agree with obsession. You've dissected her comment way too much. It sounds lighthearted in my opinion.

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    I see nothing wrong with her comment. She was poking fun at your situation, not a big deal. Is there maybe a reason you are overly-sensitive right now?

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    From this distance it does seem like an overreaction.

    It's social media. People like to be noticed. To get noticed they try to be funny. So they can get their Likes.

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    Ordinarily I would say it's an overreaction, but seeing that there have been previous incidents...

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    I appreciate all of you that took the time to comment.
    This wasn't the first time she made off handed comments to me and also treated me kind of questionably. If this was just one isolated incident... I would have had to get a grip and told myself I'm giving her comment too much life. However, like I said.... this isn't a one time thing.

    I thought maybe we could rekindle our friendship.... but no dice. I should have just ignored her like I was going to after I hadn't spoke with her in like two years but I figured... I was being a bit harsh... but I wasn't. lol I should have listened to instincts. The friendship is dead and I was mourning the complete death of it when I posted the original topic.

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    I literally overheard a woman talking n her phone about this exact same thing today. It was because she had posted a disparaging remark about Trump and someone who she had not been great friends with in years insulted her pretty badly. I guess this is how people act now.
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    This is why I avoid social media. DRAMA drama drama.

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