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    Dizzy Im scared to dance

    I really want to dance because I need the money and I know it isn't bad because I have a couple friends who are strippers but I still think it's really gross!! I don't want to dance on really old men but I feel like I'm going to have to. Even older middle age men like 50 creep me out. Help??

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    Uh... That's how it works sweetheart. We make the money we do because we do shit like that that we would never want to do for free.
    The older men are probably 75% of the money. Sorry.
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    Op- I know you didn't mean to call us "gross" but... it was a tad offensive. This forum is here to support and empower sex workers. If there is a specific thing you need help with; please clarify and we will try to help you.

    What do you consider a "really old" man?
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    First most of all women were nervous their first night dancing,I think it's safe to say that's a quite normal feeling.2.Old & really old men more than half the time have the $$$$. You're not having sex with them so what's the problem? It's a dance {a topless or nude dance but albeit dance}. If you REALLY need the money like you say it's either you get over it or find something else. If the thought of dancing on old men makes you soooooo uncomfortable this more than likely might not be for you....
    Quote Originally Posted by nug View Post
    I really want to dance because I need the money and I know it isn't bad because I have a couple friends who are strippers but I still think it's really gross!! I don't want to dance on really old men but I feel like I'm going to have to. Even older middle age men like 50 creep me out. Help??
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    When comes down to it, you won't think of it. You'll just see a walking and talking ATM
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    I don't think once cash rolls in and you're in a better financial situation you'll feel any negative feelings about it ... if it's so "gross" to you, go work a civilian job and stop even considering it.

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    Newbie stripper: omg old men r gross n i am a beautiful flower who shall only speak to other beautiful flowers -> broke
    Veteran stripper: holy $hit an old dude my pu$$y is literally dripping at the thought of the po$$ibilitie$ -> sleeps on a bed of money


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    We've all been through that stage where we thought that'd be the difficult part of the job. Half of us have older-men fetishes because younger, more attractive customers usually have no money and expect a lot more for a lot less. It's such a mental turnoff that it can even change how you see people in your personal life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    We've all been through that stage where we thought that'd be the difficult part of the job. Half of us have older-men fetishes because younger, more attractive customers usually have no money and expect a lot more for a lot less. It's such a mental turnoff that it can even change how you see people in your personal life.
    ^^

    Since starting dancing I haven't dated a man younger than 10 years older than me. Young guys are just a waste of time in every way, in AND out of the club.

    OP older men are where the money is at, and they are better customers. They actually have stuff to talk about in VIP. They understand that the only reason you are dancing for them is the $$$$. You can actually joke around with them/talk dirty/etc without them being like "omg this stripper totally wants me I should wait for her in the parking lot later".

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    .....If the only reason you're even considering dancing is Bc you're desperate for money and think it's your only option, then you should seriously reconsider ASAP. If you're truly that disgusted by the normal job duties of a dancer, and you decide to force yourself to do it anyway, you'll probably end up needing to spend all the $$ you make (and then some) on therapy later in life. Maybe you didn't mean it that way, but that's how your post came across.

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    If you start don't come to my club please
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    Quote Originally Posted by nug View Post
    I really want to dance because I need the money and I know it isn't bad because I have a couple friends who are strippers but I still think it's really gross!! I don't want to dance on really old men but I feel like I'm going to have to. Even older middle age men like 50 creep me out. Help??
    Your post is coming off a bit impolite. You don't sound like you are cut out for this business. Maybe do something you don't deem beneath you.

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    Let's keep this civil. You can always choose to not respond. I was a judgmental priss before i started dancing, personally. This industry will teach you a thing or two about life...

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    ^^Truth. The teaching you about life part I mean.

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    In this business, no one forces you to do anything. You're an independent contractor who can choose to dance only for young dudes if that's what you want. But you'd limit your income that way, so it's not recommended.

    If you don't want to dance, there are other types of sex work like phone sex or camming where you don't have to dance for guys. I'd suggest looking at your goals and thinking about what you're really comfortable with. Personally, when I started stripping I was more worried about being a bad performer than dancing for old men... if you're that hung up on it, maybe stripping/sex work just isn't for you.

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    I felt like this too at first, I'm sure it's normal. But once you start... You'll be flocking to old men. You look at them as dollar signs.

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    I must say older guys tend to be fun too. They tend to be sweet also
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    Quote Originally Posted by nug View Post
    I really want to dance because I need the money and I know it isn't bad because I have a couple friends who are strippers but I still think it's really gross!! I don't want to dance on really old men but I feel like I'm going to have to. Even older middle age men like 50 creep me out. Help??

    Babygirl,

    1.) I don't care what job/career/industry you get into. If you're only in it for the money, you'll be miserable for as long as you have that job/work in that industry. Money isn't everything, and you shouldn't "sell your soul" (so to speak) for a petty ass paycheck. If it's not in your heart to do it, don't do it. The money will never be worth it. That goes for adult entertainment, retail, fast food - ANYTHING.

    2.) If you need the money as bad as you say you do, you just gotta bite the bullet and do what you gotta do. But that's IF you really need it. Desperate times may call for desperate measures, but you always want to be sure that the end justifies the means. We don't know your situation. We can't judge your situation. But if you really think that this is something that would compromise your morals, find another way to make money.

    3.) What's "gross" about dancing for men? Because you're nude and they're openly lusting after you? As I said before, don't do anything that compromises your morals. If it's not in your heart to do it, the money will never be worth it.

    4.) Really old men have money. They're established in their careers and financially stable, for the most part. So when they come to the club, they already know how much they can spend, and usually they have ALOT of disposable income. You don't have to dance for them; your clientele can be the 25 and under crowd. But honestly, these guys are either working part-time, in school, or are still new to the strip club scene so they don't have much experience as far as what to do/expect. You won't get much money from them - mainly because they ain't got it like that - so you'll be earning less than half of what you could be earning with an older clientele.


    In conclusion, based on your post, I feel like this industry isn't really for you. People joke about being a stripper all the time, and many think that it's easy, guaranteed money. In reality, IT'S A JOB. You have to work for that money, and if you're not willing to put actual time and effort into this, you won't be successful. You have to invest in a permit, buy outfits/lingerie, keep your hair and nails done (as required by the club), develop strong sales skills on top of communication skills, build and maintain your clientele, and be able to take rejection. Depending on the club, you may have to take dance/pole classes to keep up with your "competition," and the club may start you out with slow shift times since you're new. Some clubs make you audition, and if you're not what they're looking for, you don't get hired. Then you have to tipout, which is a headache in itself. And you have to deal with a lot of drama and bullshit that very few have the patience for. Oh! Can't forget about the fact that you're an independent contractor so you have to do your own bookkeeping, and you don't have company benefits. In the rare case that you decide to be an employee for the club, you'll be making the same wages as the waitresses and you have to give 60-70% of your shift earnings to the club. This job is not for the faint of heart.

    The money can be fast and easy for someone who knows what they're doing and enjoys what they're doing. But someone who is just focused on the money aspect would be severely disappointed. There's more to stripping than dancing for men (and women). If you can't stomach that part, everything else will be too much of a struggle.

    And I know this is long, but something tells me that there are others out there lurking who may have the same concerns as you, but might be afraid to ask. Hopefully I've been able to clear some stuff up for all inquiring minds.

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    ^^^ that so true, some girls come in with that mind and don't even last a month.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nug View Post
    I really want to dance because I need the money and I know it isn't bad because I have a couple friends who are strippers but I still think it's really gross!! I don't want to dance on really old men but I feel like I'm going to have to. Even older middle age men like 50 creep me out. Help??
    If it grosses you out, then dont do it. You won't make any money because you'll be freaking out. i would say start out as a bottle service girl/waitress and dip your toe in from there

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    Hey old men can be hot in their own way. Some of these older men can be in their 40s and 50s and still have that hot salt and pepper look and still have money. Not all older men will be geriatrics.

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