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    Default How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Just as the title says...

    When things get REALLY bad...how do you find the sexy to keep on swimming?

    My site is always SM, never branched out, I know that is ludacris or whatever but it is what it is. And between the issues, personal things, and i guess stupid depression...how do you manage to just log in anyway?

    I was all dressed and ready to go last night...messed up and browsed the site and to me, I swear everyone was just so much more on their game than what I could pull together...so off to bed I went AGAIN.

    Bills aint getting paid like this, damn sure can't let the kids down for Christmas...what do you do next???

    And I have been able to fully support myself on SM alone in the past. I am killing my sd, his available resources are soo close to tapped.

    I just feel like it aint worth it and I KNOW that's crazy cause it always is....

    SOMEBODY help please....

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    less thinking more doing
    fake it til you make it

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Sometimes I'll have a drink, I barely drink, so when I do it's normally when I need that high energy sexy. I don't get wasted, just tipsy. And ^ , fake it till you make it. I try not to look at other models before a shift, everyone is different, everyone has different hustles and personalities - what you bring is unique, nobody else can be you. So definitely stop looking at models before a shift if you can help it. After I log off, I'll sometimes browse other rooms, just for tips. Good luck!

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Just do it. I know. Think positive. Watch the motivational videos. I get it. Lol. Maybe I'm having a huge pity party.

    Keep on keeping on...its gonna get better.

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    By doing what you know to be true and not how you feel because feelings can be deceptive. Just do it and the feeling will come.
    What really helps me is put on some sexy, feel good music that makes me wanna gyrate.. All the way to the bank
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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...do-you-do-next
    I had a very similar problem not long before. I think all the suggestions in this thread are pretty good!

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    How about listening to some motivational speakers on youtube instead of getting on SM and seeing how girls are.. we are all faking it mostly!.. .. I recommend T HARV EKER... he is who I am listening to at the moment.

    Quote Originally Posted by sweetgapeach View Post
    Just as the title says...

    When things get REALLY bad...how do you find the sexy to keep on swimming?

    My site is always SM, never branched out, I know that is ludacris or whatever but it is what it is. And between the issues, personal things, and i guess stupid depression...how do you manage to just log in anyway?

    I was all dressed and ready to go last night...messed up and browsed the site and to me, I swear everyone was just so much more on their game than what I could pull together...so off to bed I went AGAIN.

    Bills aint getting paid like this, damn sure can't let the kids down for Christmas...what do you do next???

    And I have been able to fully support myself on SM alone in the past. I am killing my sd, his available resources are soo close to tapped.

    I just feel like it aint worth it and I KNOW that's crazy cause it always is....

    SOMEBODY help please....

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    I am ecstatic with a balanced average of 22-30 an hour. I would love more...but that's enough. The last few shifts I worked it took hours to get 20 bucks....and from there...idk I just been beating myself to pieces. Self destructive stuff. I am GOING to log on at some point either today or tonight. Thanks y'all.

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    I can't tell you how difficult it is logging in when under terrible depression. It is literally fighting against yourself in trying to understand and cope with past trauma, that can hold you from succeeding. What I'm about to do is pretty much, the same thing that has ultimately been a motivator from other suggestions. Setup your program, have everything filled out, dressed, makeup on and before clicking "Start Show" take a minute to breath. I think the fear comes either being seen on camera by tons of people, generally being camera shy or dealing w clients that troll or make false promises. Overtime it can become frustrating making it difficult to get on but, once you push yourself to building a steady routine it works. By stopping or taking breaks I'll slowly drift into a state of depression. My business starts taking off slowly by keeping in mind that 1) Never stop broadcasting, go as long as you can without stopping. (Max 2 hours) 2) Try to limit breaks and dress quickly before the timer goes back to live chat. (With consistency I've seen my rank grow) 3) Talking and showing your face is everything, some can go on and on making great conversation that keep clients coming back.
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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    I know how ya feel hun. I'm a bit older than most and literally do not have the energy to be bothered with 'sexy' most of the time. It is a real struggle just to put makeup on and brush my hair haha. The good news is, once I'm on and had my first show, I remember how fun it can be abs how AWESOME money is, even if it's just that first £20. Can't help with the tips I'm afraid cause barely anything Works for me (drinking makes me tired, sexy music makes me want to study (!!)), just wanted to show support and say you're not alone.

    You could try hustling for slaves/sugar daddies, snapchat sales, custom vids etc? I do a lot of that now x
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    I've been struggling with this as well and what has helped me is to play with my toys before I log on for a few minutes. Usually once I'm ready and have everything set up, I feel stressed out VS sexy, so I take a few to get myself in the mood so I can be excited about the prospect of having a really fun pvt. It happens! I'm married so there is a bit of guilt about enjoying my job but really leaning into it has helped me focus on what I can get out of it instead of having anxiety about it. Most of the time when I do c2c the guys are really hot and I genuinely enjoy watching so it can be fun. If you don't enjoy it, maybe find something you can look forward to. Like maybe you only get to play with your favorite toy when you on cam. That way it's more about you having fun instead of the pressure to perform, make money, etc. Oh also weed. Weed helps.

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Maybe sign up for a new site. The aura of the being new again & having guys chasing you can be a self esteem booster.

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    When I feel messy, I push myself to give myself some self pamper. It makes wonders all the time!
    I just did it today. I made myself a homemade hair mask and a homemade face mask, i did my nails, did my brows, waxed the moustache ))
    After all that I was feeling like new, the makeup was looking better on face, hair looked better. MY nails were looking good too.
    And suddenly I did feel beautiful and logged on cam!
    In my case, motivational stuff don't work all the time... so, this works!
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    Confidence is sexy. Smiling and interacting is sexy. Just fake it till you make it. Just Imagine you are paid to fake it. Play a mental game with yourself. Lets see how good I can fake it today. Eventually you will get a hang of it and It wont be hard anymore. I don't know how you present yourself on cam, but the pic right here in the avatar looks great!

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    I know exactly how you feel. I am facing some personal issues this week so honestly the only day I worked was Monday. I just can't stand smiling for freebies when I am feeling like this. My admiration goes for those who do it

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    If I am in a position to do so, I will find another cam girl who's vibe I am feeling and tip her. Even if it is just a small tip....I think karma is huge in this business.....

    If I am not in a position to tip, then I will look at some of my favorite pictures of myself and try and re-channel that ego. Smiling and listening to my favorite music helps. Oh, and getting a workout in or something physical is like a shot of self esteem...and that always translates on cam.

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    I see it as an acting job that pays the bills. Bills pile up fast, even after you've caught up. Unless you have a robust savings, we're only one NON-bill pay away from disconnection for most people so I push myself to shower, push myself to put on my make up, and push myself to set up and log in. The money is going to come so the stress is removed instantly. You know the money is going to hit your account and bills will be paid.

    Like today, was in a funk allll weekend. Rent was paid so the other bills next in line have their time too, but I didn't feel like logging in. However, I promised myself that I was going to do 50 straight days of hustling (unless I had an emergency) and even though I waited until after 8pm to log on, I ended up making my $300 daily goal in a few hours. Anything can happen, and money puts most of us in a much better mood. Just put on your acting shoes, and just do it, bb! Once it's all done and your money has been made, that's it!




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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Post its with great motivational & positive notes to yourself. Smile at yourself in the mirror & say it out loud "i'm sexy and they want to give me lots of money".

    Got to change your inner dialog. Thoughts have power, music is a great way to set the mood for yourself. Play it while getting ready.

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    It's been so hard lately. Sm is my fav site too. When I feel in a funk I just try to get on for an hour. If it's good I stay, if it's bad I bounce and take a break and then try again in a short bit. Or. I tell myself I'll try to make $20. Often times I'll get pleasantly surprised and make a bit more. But lately $20 is hard to come by. Then I might do a gs to get some new guys interested.
    I also remind myself of all the times I looked less than stellar and still made $. Like pimples on my ass, my face, my period, bloated, constipated.
    Or I get on and look at someone that I view as not as good looking as me and watch her make some $$. I'm then in the mindset of- well, if she can do it I can do it. ( please no hating on me for being honest here) It works the opposite way if the day is going bad. I will watch some hot chicks and see they are having a hard time and then I won't be too hard on myself.
    Everyone is motivated differently.
    I personally don't recommend the drinking route if you're prone to depression as alcohol is a depressant. But I'm not saying go do some uppers either.
    I recently got myself a bicycle so I can get some blood moving. I think that's going to help me tremendously. I also wrote out a plan. I'm going to try to stick to that as much as possible. I'm making myself take some time off, where as before it's been so bad I felt I couldn't take time off. Recipe for burnout right there.
    If you find something that works - please share. Also- YOU CAN DO IT!!

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Who has to feel sexy to cam? Not me I pretty much never have my sexy.. I'm just present and I think that's really all you need to be

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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Thanks for all the replies. I took a break from SW and SM, and found me a job. I started Sunday. Not a great job, but it is customer service and I like it. Plus for me is that it is JUST enough to pay all the bills if I stick with it. I worked my 40 hours this week already. Now all the money that I can hustle is for past due bills and Christmas, so I am really hoping that the stress of not needing SM just to survive will help with my anxieties of working and not making money. Thanks to all of yall!!

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    I'm so happy for you. It's okay to take a break or stop doing sex work. There comes a time when you're ready to move on when something no longer serves you.
    Quote Originally Posted by sweetgapeach View Post
    Thanks for all the replies. I took a break from SW and SM, and found me a job. I started Sunday. Not a great job, but it is customer service and I like it. Plus for me is that it is JUST enough to pay all the bills if I stick with it. I worked my 40 hours this week already. Now all the money that I can hustle is for past due bills and Christmas, so I am really hoping that the stress of not needing SM just to survive will help with my anxieties of working and not making money. Thanks to all of yall!!
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    Default Re: How do you 'find' your sexy when you are stuck in a funk?

    Yea, I agree. My head has just not been in the right place to function/perform as well as I needed from all the stress. But it will get better, it always does!!

    Thanks Marina!! Best thing is I am in cust serv for your fav place......Macchiattos for us all lol!!

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