
Originally Posted by
kortneykay
BB, you have to get yourself out of that situation. The best way to do that I believe (I've been there, was married and wanted OUT, he was the main breadwinner)is to keep yourself glued to the cam/work. Work as much as you can, and push through until you've made enough to leave.
It ain't gonna be easy, and you can even hustle and save enough to hire a caregiver for your father so you can leave and live your life how YOU see fit. It's possible as my family is spread out and both my grandparents have their caregivers. Look into your parent's options for government caregivers. They will come to your home if they have insurance and cook, clean, and sometimes take them to appointments.
I know you can do this because all you really need is money and a change of thought. Meditation, exercise, healthy eats, and LOA (just a suggestion)can help you keep inner peace. It helps from burn out as well, and gives you hope to keep pushing.
I stayed in a relationship way longer than I'd hoped. I dug myself out, saved up while camming, and got out of it. I even had to stay with my grandparents for 4 months. Now, I'm single and free, in my own spot, and much happier. Do not give up, no matter how hard it gets. You do not deserve to be treated poorly by the people who brought you into this life. It's one of the hardest pains. I know, I have two fuck ups for 'rents, but I'm still thriving.
I'm sure your father loves you deep down, but this is a form of abuse. You are an adult, you have allowed yourself to give to him freely without much reciprocation on his end. Not sure what his deal is, but he might perhaps be envious of you. Perhaps he feels helpless because he's not able to control much of what's going around him. You may be hurting his ego by being the breadwinner, and the care aid, and the fact that he may feel guilty that his daughter is a cammodel. Some fathers feel guilty that maybe they went wrong somewhere with raising you.
Either way, he should not be belittling you. Is there a way you can have a sit down with him and speak constructively and respectfully? Then you can keep your head down, explain what you've decided to do (care aid, or not- and the gov can pay you to care for them as well)and hustle your ass off until you have enough savings to get a place. You can do this. It just takes time and persistence. You can help your parents and save money. You can hustle enough to save up for your own place. You can do anything you set your mind to if you follow it by action. You deserve to be happy. Good luck!
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