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    Default How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    So at the club I work at, the men are absolute dogs for the most part. It's really difficult trying to be polite yet firm at the same time when customers insist on grabbing my ass super hard, slapping it absurdly hard, and just trying to grab my breasts roughly when I'm giving dances or even just sitting on his lap. What do you tell them when they're super touchy and inappropriate?

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    Switch clubs if this is the norm. If not, I just divert their hands and if they keep it up just say don't do that again (especially if they hit you!).

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    Sometimes you have to move away from them. Sometimes you have to tell them the bouncer is watching. Sometimes you just have to tell them to keep their hands down, because gentlemen always receive the best dances. I've gone so far as to grab them by the wrists and hold their hands above their heads. I tell them some bs line of how I love the way they touch me, but I'm about to get yelled at bc the doorman is watching, we can't really touch, and so on. I try to make it seem like I don't mind it but we'll get yelled at by the bouncer, and I don't want him to get kicked out, etc. etc.

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    Be more abusive back. I've slammed guys heads back into the wall during a dance, I've Sparta kicked some guy in the chest on stage knocking him back several feet. I've smacked guys in the face. I've slammed my ass down on their crotch ridiculously hard in hopes to crush their balls. I've thrown an ash tray at a guys head.....I'm sure there's more stuff I'm forgetting. Honestly fuck any guy who touches me in an aggressive way. If I'm feeling pain/disrespect you will soon be feeling it waaaaaay more. They're still going to pay me. Plus I tell them they need to tip me extra well to make up for being annoying and causing me pain. I work in a tourist town with new guys every day, I'll find plenty more guys to give me money. My mental and physical health isn't worth putting up with shit.

    I've found that by not being physical back i cause myself more distress. When I get mad and try to hold back my aggression I end up shaking uncontrollably and can't walk. However, when I immediately get my anger out by kicking some asshole, it immediately makes me feel calm and at peace.

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    I don't get why women feel that saying the words "No" and "stop" are rude. They are not rude, they are direct. You don't have to give an explanation for not allowing something. For example: GUY -" Can I touch your pussy?"
    ME - "NO"
    GUY - "why can't I touch it?"
    ME - "Because I don't fucking want you to."

    Guy's are always taken back when I bluntly say " no" without any further explanation. They act as if a woman has never uttered those words before. It's really hilarious.

    Say "no" stay "stop" say them loud proud and often.
    If they try you a second time, don't say a word, just smash their face into the wall.

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    If the guy has been nice to me until that point I'll say something like 'hey, sweetheart you can't touch me there. The bouncer will come in and break up all our fun, we don't want that now do we?' and smile. If it continues I'll cut the bullshit and say 'No touching, this is your last warning.' without a smile. If it continues I stop the dance and tell him he is done. If he did something extra nasty he gets kicked out.

    Guys that have already been a hassle get the shit show right away, same for guys who go past just trying to grab a boob. I've hit guys while on stage for trying to touch my pussy. If he's holding money I'll take it out of his hands and tell him that's what he owes me for molesting me. Then I get him kicked out.

    If it's during a dance I'll slap his hands, stand up and tell him not to touch me there and this is his last warning. If he already asked the rules (When guys ask where they can touch I make it known exactly where their boundaries are so there is no confusion, but some guys don't ask and I find it awkward to just spout rules at them) then the first time he touches me is the end of the dance. I'm not afraid to walk away from a a paid show deal thirty seconds into the first song if a guy is a disrespectful dick.

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    "Hey motherfucker! Keep your filthy hands to yourself or I'm leaving."

    Dance further away from them. Grabby dudes don't deserve close intimate dances because they don't know how to handle a woman respectfully. They get the 3ft air dance.

    Force them to tip extra for mental anguish and / or threatened to tell the manager they were grabbing you without your permission (aka sexual assault) and have them kicked out.

    Remember their name and face and blacklist them to other strippers.
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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    Switch clubs if this is the norm. If not, I just divert their hands and if they keep it up just say don't do that again (especially if they hit you!).

    I second this and if they don't get the hint, I just walk away.

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    Have confident body language first of all and make anything you say clear and direct. Sometimes you can just move their hands or change positions. Sometimes you can just nicely but firmly say something about rules, not getting in trouble or not so hard. Sometimes you gotta be like that fucking hurt and slap them. Once I told someone to quit it and slapped them and continued dancing and still got a room with them afterwards. A lot of times men arent used to women being direct with them or are just trying to see where the limits are with you or actually forget strippers are people and not blow up dolls that move on their own and will just stop if you say so. Otherwise gotta get real aggressive and/or get staff invovled.

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    Default Re: How do you tell a custie to keep his hands to himself and not be so grabby?

    TBH I hate the fact it's kind of expected in my club to have a lot of contact in VIP. Some of the girls tell me they let customers finger them (no offense but fucking ew). Personally I'll let them grab my tits and my ass if they're not rough but if they try and get their hands between my legs I'll yank myself away from them and keep a lot of distance for the rest of the time or just forcefully grab their wrists and move their hands away. Luckily for me every guy has respected that so far - I think actually physically moving their hands off is pretty good because it seems to intimidate them - but if a guy kept doing something I wasn't OK with I would no doubt walk out.

    As a side note - nowadays I usually say "I don't normally let guys do this, but you're so cute/nice/etc that I'll let you touch me if you tip me X amount." A good way to earn some extra cash off oblivious guys who don't know what we're expected to do by the management
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