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    Default Re: Low self-esteem and anxiety when business is slow

    It is so easy to slip back into the adult industry because you work less hours being a escort, stripper, webcam host, dom and earn easy/good money, not sure if its easy money being a stripper it was many years ago in the clubs back in 2007. Though you can hit your target if you challenge yourself and keep reaching your targets. Unlike in a employed job you work very long hours for little pay, if you are degree educated you will earn more than the minimum wage but still it takes a lot of experience and years to go up in a job that you love and sometimes the money just isn't there!

    I have to agree with you velveteen.rabbit about having another job as well as a adult job so you have both incomes and can decide what you do with the money. This job can be very isolating at times and it's not a job you can tell your friends what you do or family. Its slow at the minute for me for work on webcam and it is the middle of the month where punters are shopping in supermarkets, last minute Christmas presents, Christmas parties etc..

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    I really wasn't asking about other sources of revenue. For the time being, body rubs are my source of income. I often receive last minute requests so why would I spend a shift elsewhere that would interfere with my earning potential.

    I'm not crazy about the notion that this shouldn't be one's only source of revenue. Its all about balance. I would be feeling these same emotions if I were in a different self employed line of work - in fact, I did feel those emotions when I was a piano teacher teaching privately. I think the idea that being objectified for money has long term damages is only true if you hate this work and/or are being trafficked. In all other cases, it's typical victimization of sex workers stereotype.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shannon. View Post
    Sorry if there was confusion, I'm not asking about marketing tactics per say, I'm specifically asking about what every tells themselves when business is slow. Bc slow times are inevitable for all of us, not matter how attractive we are and how honed our marketing skills may be. It's very easy to take slow times personally, and feel bad during and after a slow day(s).
    If you know that slow times are inevitable and happen to every then why take it personally? You are punishing yourself for something that is out of your control then? This sounds self defeating.

    What is within your control is the actions you take and your inner self talk. It helps me when I listen to personal development type topics (or something inspiring) every day. What you're feeling is most likely temporary. Keep pushing through.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    If you know that slow times are inevitable and happen to every then why take it personally? You are punishing yourself for something that is out of your control then? This sounds self defeating.

    What is within your control is the actions you take and your inner self talk. It helps me when I listen to personal development type topics (or something inspiring) every day. What you're feeling is most likely temporary. Keep pushing through.
    But it's something she can't help. I used to go through this too. I would be fine one day then super depressed the next. I found starting a side business unrelated to sex work to be helpful. You feel much more... "normal" too.

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    Miss.a.p and fbsmg you guys are both on point. it's partly why I'd like to get back into Muay Thai again and have other goals that aren't financial. Because it IS self defeating to punish yourself over something you have no control over and is inevitable. It's made even more difficult bc I don't like to leave my incall for any reason other than getting food on the days that I'm working.

    I have found recently that writing down my negative thoughts down in a journal and then writing positive thoughts to counter the negative ones helps tremendously. Something about writing things out, and narrowing it positive thoughts that ring true to me...

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    Default Re: Low self-esteem and anxiety when business is slow

    Ugh dayjobs. So pedestrian.

    If you work Mon-Fri how about just taking one half day off for yourself? If you have a set schedule and you let your clients know what it is, they will adapt to it. You won't necessarily be losing their business if they can just come the next day or later in the day. And it's so important to take time for yourself.

    As for mui thai, there is personal training in toronto for as low as $80/hour so I'm guessing you could probably find a better rate. I have a friend who was suffering from low self-esteem and got into Mui thai. It helped in a huge way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ad_Astra View Post
    Ugh dayjobs. So pedestrian.
    Lol!

    And yes, I think I need to bite the bullet and go for privates... it's not a waste, it's an investment in myself. I always have a way of convincing myself of the former.

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