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    Hello ladies, I am reaching out to you to gather some input and perspective on this. I am 40, have a wonderful man in my life that fully supports my camming and we HAD a wonderful and active sexual relationship before I started camming. Since I have been camming though I have lost a lot of my desire for sex when I am off cam. I cam a lot - 12 hour shifts 4 days a week plus 2 4 hour evening shifts a majority of the time, and I own a small business (we have some large money goals to accomplish quickly due to our ages).

    When I am off cam, the last thing I want is sex. I am extremely attracted to him so it's not a matter of lack of desire for HIM. I just want to dress (hooray-clothes! LOL) comfortably and not wear any make up and don't want anything near my girly bits. I try to "save some for him" but after a long busy week there is just nothing left to give. Doesn't help that my pussy is now turning into the Sahara due to hormonal fluctuations either.....It's harder for me to get off and I just have a harder time getting into it like I used to. Grrrr... I know he is feeling neglected and I don't want that.

    I've tried taking more time off to recharge but when I do I find I just want to be left alone (I'm an introvert - so perfectly normal). I've been trying to find a balance but can't seem to do it.

    Any of you experienced the same thing and were able to overcome/deal with it? I would greatly appreciate your input and I am sure he would too Thank you!

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    Default Re: Camming Affecting Your Sexual Relationship With Your S/O

    This topic has been discussed many times. You can search for it.
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    Most of what I had found pertains to dating and when to tell someone you are dating that you cam, and how camming affects the interpersonal relationship on an emotional level (jealousy, etc.). This is purely sexually related with the twist of hormonal changes due to getting older. I'll keep digging around....

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    What about try to give him some time before you start your shift? Maybe make this a habit if its possible ,if he's around?

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    That's a great idea - not always logistically possible but I will work that in when I can and see if it helps Thank you!!

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    It doesn't affect me, but then again I'm acting, not literally cumming every 5 minutes . Remember that they are paying you to make them cum, not the other way around.


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    Basically you need to set alone time with your s/o
    It might longer after a work day to get into the mood, or modify the time together.

    Since your sex drive is changing you have to really be mindful of it and actually work on it. massages, read a book together,

    There is a book out there love languages you might want to read so you can figure your S.o love language. and start from there and then work up to the sexual stuff.
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    I'm not good at domination shows and am working into them on more of a trial by fire basis. Luckily my cuties say they enjoy them but I really do need to spend more time researching it and learning the inner workings with some more depth. My dirty talk is good, however, I do tend to work into toys/pussy play pretty quickly. I have been focusing on fingers more as of late and trying to drag that out before I really get into the toys.

    Thank you so much for your input, you have provided a good perspective and I appreciate it greatly I will definitely be putting your advice to use

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    Do you do any domination shows? How is your dirty talk/teasing game? Do you reach for your toys quickly in private shows?

    I ask because I used to really overdo the pussy play, and I eventually realized how significant of an effect it had on my real life sex drive. Now I've learned various ways to spend my time in shows drawing out the tease and doing less physically sexual acts. I don't use toys as often and I bought smaller more comfortable toys for when I do. I also only recently starting offering certain femdom shows, and it is SO nice to be able to do a whole show without touching myself or taking any clothes off.

    I can't offer any thoughts regarding the hormonal changes, but my general advice would be to learn/improve on those things, and see if that helps. Sounds like you work some pretty exhausting shifts, but I definitely think it's possible to find a balance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    It doesn't affect me, but then again I'm acting, not literally cumming every 5 minutes . Remember that they are paying you to make them cum, not the other way around.

    Right?! LOL! I agree. I would say I cum about 50% of the time. They tend to get more of a "show" when they start barking at me to "Cum Now BB!!". Than you for responding

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    Quote Originally Posted by minniesoporno View Post
    Basically you need to set alone time with your s/o
    It might longer after a work day to get into the mood, or modify the time together.

    Since your sex drive is changing you have to really be mindful of it and actually work on it. massages, read a book together,

    There is a book out there love languages you might want to read so you can figure your S.o love language. and start from there and then work up to the sexual stuff.
    Thank you! We have begun to set more time aside for "us" but by the time we get there I am exhausted. My own damn fault for pushing so hard I guess. Maybe I need to be more mindful of the happiness vs. money balance ...

    I love the 5 love languages book! I'm working on adding in more things to get me turned on (cuddling, etc.) but I guess I'm just frustrated because it takes so much longer now for me to get excited. I am more apt to fall asleep in his arms than get wet with soft kisses like I used to. I may have to accept with my age that it is just going to take longer and hope he understands. Never have I ever in my life thought I would burn out on sex - haha!

    Thank you so much for your input, it is very much appreciated!

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