Two months ago I started my first dancing job in a small neighborhood dive in SoCal. It was a cool, low drama local hangout. Amazing managers and staff. Girls would comfortably leave their work bags (not their money obviously, but costumes, makeup, supplies etc) out on the countertop in the dressing room which was spacious and well lit. I once (idiotically) walked away from my money bag, and one of the other dancers returned it to me with ALL THE MONEY STILL THERE. That's the kind of place it was.
Now I'm a couple thousand miles across the country looking for my next club, and I'm baffled by the concept of housemoms, which I've never experienced.
I was rejected from my first audition and I'm sure it was partly because I made some missteps with the housemom:
*I was very polite to her (and everyone), but I didn't realize she probably had a lot more bearing over my being hired or not than I'd previously thought. I wonder if I unconsciously dismissed her in importance and she picked up on that.
*She told me to leave my wristlet (which held my debit cards and $120, and which at my first club never left my wrist unless I was onstage or in a booth giving a lapdance, and even then it was in my line of sight at all times) under her desk in an office full of unknown strippers, while she escorted me downstairs to my audition. I was obviously uncomfortable with this, and she acted like I was being rude -- ?!?!?!
*She watched my audition but I didn't give her a lot of attention during my stage set, thinking I more had to impress the manager (who didn't even bother to watch the whole thing) and the customers (who were too busy eating chicken wings and watching the game to do more than glance at my routine).
I don't want to go from club to club offending every housemom. Hence these naive newbie questions:
1. What purpose does the housemom serve???
2. How much say does the housemom have in whether or not I get hired?
3. In order of importance, who ELSE needs to be impressed by my audition?
4. How do I make a housemom like me without kissing her ass?
5. What else do I need to know about housemoms in general?
Thanks - feedback is much appreciated!!