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    The dancers at a club in my city i have been working at are always saying slick things, indirect rude comments, laughing pointing at me on stage, being mean and nasty toward me and are always making up lies about me to management to get me fired. To make this simple i am the top 3 earners in the club.
    The issue they have with me, they say, is that im "always approaching custs, in their face begging for money". Wait im confused, isnt that our job to approach men, get to fake know them and go in for the kill? What they do is wait for ppl they know to come in, or wait for ppl to approach them. The club is a stage based club. So i started hustlinf ahead and smarter than everyone. There are 3 showtimes in a night right, so i not only get to the club on time and am on the floor in less than 5 mins, but i pay attention to who has tipped our stageshows(that include all the dancers) and get off stage show in 3 songs and make a killing by taking all the tippers money FIRST then i approach everyone i havent talked to. I wa in a pile of $400 last wednesday and they were upset because "gee gee begs everyone for there money blah blah blah". WHAT THEY DO, is stay on stage all night and wait for ppl to approach and tip. Or they will sit at the bar on their phones, smoking weed and cigs all night, ive even seen/overheard them exchanging dances for drinks. Wtf!!!!
    They basically "try" to bully me EVERYNIGHT, it does not work on me. I am not THAT BITCH you can intimidate. AT. ALL. Im not a shit starter either tho.
    In the dressing room tonight i was joking with the house mom how we had 15 mins left til the club closed and i wanted to wait for some last minute custs. IM JOKINF WITH THE HOUSE MOM. A dancer that is standing right in front of me starts laughing and says "yeah, always trying to milk an extra dollar outta people". So being fed up i say "yeah, i always am because thats our job". She continues to repeat herself. She gets loud with me, so now i stand up and step in her face and im going back and forth (i know i shouldnt have because thats the reaction they have been waiting for, because i ALWAYS ignore them). So were toe to toe and im just saying "what the fuck is the problem?". Securitu busts in grabs me, and as soon as they grab me the dancers (its 3 of them and 4 of me) get roudy and try to start swinging. You know how ppl get when security comes. Its one little ol me and 4 of you guys. The house started taking up for me. And im actually glad this happened because the manager looked at the dancers and asked/said "why are you guys so mad at her? She comes in her gets her money, doesnt have to tlk to anyone". As he walked me out, he tells me "u continue to come to work, noone is going to do anything to u, and we're gonna get this resolved, and i see what your talking about now".
    My question is WHYYYYYYY do some dancers have a problem with u not wanting to be their friend, or include them in us hustle? One od the dancers asked me yesterday "you think i dont like u right?" I igored her and she continues to tell me "im buzzed and you have been bothering me because ur boogie" BITCH WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? U SOUND DUMB.
    Wtf?!

    HAS ANYONE GONE THRU DANCERS TRYING TO BULLY THEM?
    i just want to box and let everythinf go like we did in the old days. Lol.
    I suggested that to the manager and he said "no gee gee, i cant let u do that" lol.
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    Default Re: Why do dancers want to fight me? This is dumb ugh

    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    To make this simple i am the top 3 earners in the club.
    This is your problem right here. It sounds like your club is a "race to the bottom" of putting in as little effort as possible.

    I'd either keep making my money and ignore them or find a club full of hustlers that don't have the time for petty bullshit cause they are too busy making their own money.

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    yes...ive had girls talk shit about me to other girls who happen to like me, who told me they were talking shit. i kept quiet and waited for one of these girls to be direct to me why theres an issue and out of the 4-5 girls that were talking shit only one came up and talked to me. we talked it out and everything was fine afterwards. this was about a week ago...wednsday at work i could hear the girl i talked to with another couple of girls pointing and laughing while i was on stage and they were hidden in this little nook where i could barely see them. this was more noticable than the usual talking shit just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough to be directed to me...

    it was my first stage set of the night so noticing that i was a lil shaky on stage cus my anger was rising...but im glad i read your post!! i needed the reminder that the best way (not in my opinion but most professional) is to ignore it as best as possible untill its taken out of hand like your story.

    it sucks fighting with coworkers. esp when your coworkers are other strippers, its easy to get heated and want to remind these chicks your nothing to fuck with but we gotta let the money speak for itself.

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    Default Re: Why do dancers want to fight me? This is dumb ugh

    This happens in all workplaces because humans are essentially monkeys without tails. Some people are weak minded & cannot handle jealousy or feeling inferior.

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    Yes, I've been bullied. For the same reasons you are. Those girls are just lazy hustlers who are envious of your hustle skills and they probably don't have the same kind of confidence you do.

    Every time they try and bully you, don't feed into it. Smile and ignore, and make money. This worked for me, and one of the bullies even got fired because management saw what a drama queen she was being.

    It sucks because nobody needs this kind of bullshit at work. But if they see that they can't even shake you, they'll knock it off.

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    I've been there too. Sounds like you treat it like a job( which it is) management likes that, keep your head up and do you.

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    Thanks guys. It doesnt discourage me or hurt my feelings, i
    Last night it really just got on nerves because BITCH i wasnt talking to u. Plus, they said "your so thirsty constantly in guys faces asking for money" uuuuuhm well, thats our job and i feel if ur not comfortable with hustling aka "being thirsty" like they call me lol than this isnt the job for them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveyDovey View Post
    Yes, I've been bullied. For the same reasons you are. Those girls are just lazy hustlers who are envious of your hustle skills and they probably don't have the same kind of confidence you do.

    Every time they try and bully you, don't feed into it. Smile and ignore, and make money. This worked for me, and one of the bullies even got fired because management saw what a drama queen she was being.

    It sucks because nobody needs this kind of bullshit at work. But if they see that they can't even shake you, they'll knock it off.
    Yes! They walked me out and finally was like now i see what u were talking about. And ive never said anything about them "bullying" me because its not a big deal (thats what i said when my manager first asked me why wasnt i coming to him and saying anything).
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    It sounds like they are jealous that you're making money and they're not. Ignore them and keep doing what you're doing or find somewhere else. I don't know if it's just around here or if it's countrywide now because of the whole backpage escort section being gone, but the strip clubs are now over saturated with girls. Girls who would have otherwise stuck to backpage are coming into the clubs, desperate and hungry to make any money they can. Maybe those girls at your work are backpage girls who are mad that you're making money.

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    I just read about backpage WOW! where have i been. I knew it existed ofcourse, but i never knew it got shut down.
    And i do notice that my club in detroit has sooooooo many girls there now like wtf. I just thought it was bcuz girls think its the money season here now
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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    This happens in all workplaces because humans are essentially monkeys without tails. Some people are weak minded & cannot handle jealousy or feeling inferior.
    OMG^, I'm going to put this on an embroidery sampler or something!^


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    They're seriously just jealous. Is this a dive? Can you go to a better club with the true hustlers?

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    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    I just read about backpage WOW! where have i been. I knew it existed ofcourse, but i never knew it got shut down.
    And i do notice that my club in detroit has sooooooo many girls there now like wtf. I just thought it was bcuz girls think its the money season here now
    Exactly! I work in Detroit too and it's crazy.

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    I guess that means you're winning. Just make sure it stays that way.

    I've seen you post about Detroit clubs before. I'm curious to know what club you work at. PM me if you want, I've worked in Detroit for years and while I won't work at your club I might come visit some time.

    Edited: the way you described it sounds like me, I cordial but really don't talk to anyone; I focus and make my money. Never chit chat in the dressing room. I never start shit but have found myself in altercations with girls who were jealous because I made more etc. I always just smiled and kept it movin' straight to vip.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WendiStarr View Post
    Exactly! I work in Detroit too and it's crazy.
    Yaaaaas giiirl im like where did all these girls come from. It will literally be more girls than customers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    They're seriously just jealous. Is this a dive? Can you go to a better club with the true hustlers?
    A client of mine from my dance studio suggested deja vu because its more proffesional. I am gonna try it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nina_ View Post
    I guess that means you're winning. Just make sure it stays that way.

    I've seen you post about Detroit clubs before. I'm curious to know what club you work at. PM me if you want, I've worked in Detroit for years and while I won't work at your club I might come visit some time.

    Edited: the way you described it sounds like me, I cordial but really don't talk to anyone; I focus and make my money. Never chit chat in the dressing room. I never start shit but have found myself in altercations with girls who were jealous because I made more etc. I always just smiled and kept it movin' straight to vip.
    I say high, speak when spoken too, etc. But these girls have been trying to befriend me nd it doesnt wrk on me.
    These girls are not really friends with eachother. Ive heard them talking about eachother then smile in eachotherd faces. why wohld i want to be your friend, or just associates?
    Im thirsty, and i beg for money so apparently u dont want to be my friend bitch. Nd its like try to be nice to me then their bitchy. Lmaoooo im confused, either u like me or u dont.
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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    They're seriously just jealous. Is this a dive? Can you go to a better club with the true hustlers?
    Detroit urban clubs are flooooooded. it is a dive but i make a NICE amount of money, A NICE chunk of money. So it is a big advantage although its a dive but the disadvantage are the girls. I guess everything cant be good
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    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    Yaaaaas giiirl im like where did all these girls come from. It will literally be more girls than customers.
    This is so sad, because this is how it is at my club on Fridays and Saturdays until around 1am. There's so much drama at my club because nobody is making money on stage or in VIP, so they sit around and bitch and whine. I've resorted to working on Fridays and Saturdays ONLY because I can't stand being in an empty club without customers for hours with 3-4 others on weeknights listening to the stupid drama. But then, that happens on weekend nights now because downtown has become a 20-something party festival and nobody comes in until that last hour of the night. And even then, you're lucky if you can get more than one song from one of these "kids".
    Anyway, back to your story, those who aren't making money are going to stir shit up to try to upset you and ruin your hustle. Instead of admiring your hustle and learning from how you work, they'd rather wreck it. Just fuck it and keep moving.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ElektraDetroit View Post
    This is so sad, because this is how it is at my club on Fridays and Saturdays until around 1am. There's so much drama at my club because nobody is making money on stage or in VIP, so they sit around and bitch and whine. I've resorted to working on Fridays and Saturdays ONLY because I can't stand being in an empty club without customers for hours with 3-4 others on weeknights listening to the stupid drama. But then, that happens on weekend nights now because downtown has become a 20-something party festival and nobody comes in until that last hour of the night. And even then, you're lucky if you can get more than one song from one of these "kids".
    Anyway, back to your story, those who aren't making money are going to stir shit up to try to upset you and ruin your hustle. Instead of admiring your hustle and learning from how you work, they'd rather wreck it. Just fuck it and keep moving.

    Yes your right about them NOT makiing money. But heres the thing of course there not. While i hustle AAAAALL night i STILL watch them
    1. They socialize with eachother toooo much
    2. They have their phones out on the floor, on them Aaaaall the time
    3. Drink/smoke tooo much
    4. Then they dont approach customers bcuz they might say no.
    5. They feel entitled to things because theyve been "loyal to the club for years
    Well duh bitches, ur sabotaging urself. Dont get mad at me because i hustle my ass off. Its not my fault ur lazy. They talk shit about me but try to mock my dance moves and it looks horrible lol. But i do understand what ur saying BUUUUT at the same time if u have a question or are wondering how i make $400+ on a bad night JUST AS ME!!
    I work in a dive so picked my target wisely. I purposely work in a dive bcuz i KNEW that these girls were not up to par (not saying im perfect) but its an easy target. On the flip side if all the girls get up off their ass and just say "hi" to a cust their earnings will double. Like this shit is not rocket science
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    lol you say it how it is, it happens a lot. I noticed the emptier the club, the more drama.

    I made the choice to leave a club because I was being bullied, and it was messing with my ability to make money. As long as management has your back and you are not scared they will seriously harm you, just ignore those idiots.

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    They're just trying to fuck with your head. It happens in every industry. They can't out perform you okay then lets start with the mental terrorism. Girl just pray for em and then get your money.

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    Girls like this won't last. They never do. The resident psycho at my club mysteriously disappeared from my club. Bye, bitch. Take your hate elsewhere.

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    Their JEALOUS! You do you but it does sound like it's all of them against you... I would say continue doing you babe but if it gets to a point you can't take it find another club.

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