Hey ladies... not really sure where to start this thread.
I have been in a relationship since last May with an amazing guy. He's everything I've ever wanted and more and never thought I would find someone like him. I really love him a lot and he loves me too. Regardless of all that, I've always found that men always put themselves first. I know relationships are about compromise but I feel like us women are always the ones compromising and the men never do. They do what is best for them and it is up for us to decide if we can deal with it or not.
My bf works 6 10 hour shifts each week 6 am -4 pm and has his son on weekends (he actually has him for 2 whole weeks right now). When he has his son, half the time they are here at our house, and half the time they go down to his parents house, because they can help watch him while he is at work etc. His son is only 3 years old.
I of course am a dancer, and my club isn't an independent contractor type club, we are employees and have to make our schedules a month ahead of time. I work 3 shifts a week. 2 of them 3:30 pm to 1 am during the week and 1 of them either 11:30 am - 6 pm or 5:30 pm - 1 am on Fridays. Any other clubs with decent day shifts are over an hour away and I don't know if that would be worth it.
So not ONLY are our schedules opposite which makes things difficult in our relationship, the added stress of scheduling when he has his son cuts in to our time immensely. He has his son all week so I won't be seeing him until SaturdayI'm going to go own to his parents house Wednesday to see them but we all know it's not the same as 1 on 1 time.
I know his son comes first. I know I could get a different job to make our schedules line up better. But I wouldn't be making a quarter as much as I do dancing, and I sure as hell wouldn't be happy with the lifestyle change.
I just feel like us women are always the ones having to make sacrifices in the relationship. Like if I want to be a priority at all, I'M THE ONE who always has to compromise, or it's too bad so sad, deal with it.
I'm half venting and half looking for advice. When we finally get one on one time (maybe an hour a week) we are so happy. He is really a great man. I was single for 3 years because I wasn't going to commit to someone I didn't love and see a future with.



I'm going to go own to his parents house Wednesday to see them but we all know it's not the same as 1 on 1 time.
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