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    Hey ladies since i dont have any friends in real life im gonna tell strangers my business instead
    Sooo I started dancing a month go (havent been doing it consistently)
    I honestly can say Im starting to hate the fact that im doing this and im not even making any fucking money. I mean it took alot for me to even go start and to see im not making anything is a real drag because if i cant do it this way then the only otherway would be to escort and i dont wanna do that
    anyway im starting to think that (strippers make alot of money) is a fucking myth because i never make anything
    ii started at a white club and didnt make much there becausd they didnt like black people and
    now i tried a black club and they only throw money for the big booty Ms.twerksum girls and me being slender just doesnt help me at all
    nobody ever thinks im sexy or gives me any attention im starting to think somethings wrong with me Nd its depressing because stripping was supposed to be my ticket out of my horrible situation but it isnt helping
    anyone have tips

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    You say that you haven't done it consistently? And then you say that you hate the fact that you're doing it at all. Very few people make the money right away no matter what it is. Stripping,camming or even escorting. Why are you pushing yourself so hard to do this job I wonder? I know that a lot of people will say Girl try a different club thats black girl friendly or work on your attitude. But I think that right now you should maybe try doing something all together different. Try waiting tables first even if its in a breakfast joint where you have to turn and burn. If you're cute and personable, they will hire you. Once hired you can run circles around the old timers. Tips upon tips. Work your way up from there. This sounds like a confidence issue and someone like this should not work in the strippy. Especially since you view escorting as a last resort. You're liable to fall for anything because guys can tell that you're feeling rejected. Get your skills up wait tables, cocktail, hostess whatever but maybe its not your time to work in a club.

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    I would go back to a white or mixed club. Being that you are a slender black girl, you would do better in a white or mixed club however, I would ask to waitress in the mean time.

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    No the white people are racist and ignore me as soon as another white or spanish girl
    goes after me i see them coming back with a armfull of cash after i made 2$. so thats not gonna work

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    the whole reason i was trying to strip was to avoid dead end day jobs because i hate working for people who dont know how to treat their employees. and plus serving isnt going to pay my bills. Camming never worked for me because they literally only like white girls i never had more than like 10 viewers but all the white girls chatrooms are filled. they just fit the fantasy their looking for. i only made 100$ after like amonth of work i got lucky someone actually liked me and tipped. i dont wanna escort one because i don't enjoy sex and def dont wanna have it with old men. it could be a self confidence issue, i was never a person who thought highly of myself i was never the type to think i was "that bitch" and is sexier than anyone else (which isnt true anyway) cant go consistently because i dont have a car and probably never will cause im always gonna be broke. i really dont even care anymore cause stripping was my ONLY ticket out. i might as well just end everything now cause my life isnt even going anywhere. thnx anyway

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    Quote Originally Posted by xclass View Post
    the whole reason i was trying to strip was to avoid dead end day jobs
    not trying to be rude, but maybe go back to school?

    not all day jobs are "dead end"

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    Quote Originally Posted by anyacolo22 View Post
    not trying to be rude, but maybe go back to school?

    not all day jobs are "dead end"



    school just teaches you how to work for someone.plus ill never be able to afford it.

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    Well then I guess we're done here?

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    Mindset. Google self fulfilling prophecy.
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    Forgive me for being blunt, but you need an attitude adjustment. You also sound depressed. Your negative mindset is not helping. Why not turn it around? In this business, you have to be positive!! It is a prerequisite. None of us would make any money if we went around with a negative mindset. You have to go in believing in yourself, believe that you are a hot little money magnet who attracts money easily. Look up Law of Attraction. Your mindset is a choice. You can choose to be positive and make life easier, or choose to be negative and make life harder. Your choice. This " they only like white girls" stuff is an excuse. I've seen plenty of WOC bank because they hustle and believe in themselves. You just started! It's going to take time to build clientele and make money! You have to give it time and get in the swing of things. But most of all, change your attitude. Your probably giving off negative energy at the club, that's what is costing you. Next time you go in, go in with the attitude that you just want to have fun with everyone, trust that you'll make money, and you'll be surprised how much money you'll wind up making.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xclass View Post
    school just teaches you how to work for someone.
    school gives you the tools to help you succeed....it is up to you how you use those tools,

    sorry to say this but, hearing your poor attitude i agree, school probably will not help you,

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    I agree with loveydovey and miss a.p

    You don't want to go to school? Cool! Read and school yourself in the helpful threads of hustle hut... That first thread of the law of attraction is effin awesome, you need to change your mindset and attitude love. We sell ourselves, we sell that dream, it's hard work at times, it's emotional/physically draining at times too. U wanna make it as a dancer, you wanna make ohhhh la la la money..its no walk in the park- even if u have a banging ass body w a pretty ass face.
    EXERCISE- get that ass u want . Twerk in the damn mirror - you gotta work for what u want love! If u really wanted it that bad- you wouldn't let these hurdles get to u.. You should Be able to shake it off and get your ass back in the game and maybe try something different . We are all here to help - some help with tough love - others with sugar coating. But we all want to help to see u succeed ❤️❤️❤️
    SO CHANGE THAT DAMN MINDSET AND ATTITUDE ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    Honestly, I believe that you might not be cut out for the adult industry. You sound severe discouraged by this industry because you was not a hit right away. However, not everyone is a hit right away. It takes time, effort, determination, drive, personality, and ambition to make in this industry. Actually, it just sounds like you were in places that did not work for you and you got depressed. If I was you, I would try to look into waitressing and hosting. Then you could come back after you clean the negativity from your mind


    Quote Originally Posted by xclass View Post
    the whole reason i was trying to strip was to avoid dead end day jobs because i hate working for people who dont know how to treat their employees. and plus serving isnt going to pay my bills. Camming never worked for me because they literally only like white girls i never had more than like 10 viewers but all the white girls chatrooms are filled. they just fit the fantasy their looking for. i only made 100$ after like amonth of work i got lucky someone actually liked me and tipped. i dont wanna escort one because i don't enjoy sex and def dont wanna have it with old men. it could be a self confidence issue, i was never a person who thought highly of myself i was never the type to think i was "that bitch" and is sexier than anyone else (which isnt true anyway) cant go consistently because i dont have a car and probably never will cause im always gonna be broke. i really dont even care anymore cause stripping was my ONLY ticket out. i might as well just end everything now cause my life isnt even going anywhere. thnx anyway
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    If you do decide to keep stripping, make sure you understand that the money won't always just come to you. It's not like I'm the movies where every customer makes it rain on you all the time. It doesn't mean you are ugly or anyone is not interested. You have to hustle. Stripping isn't easy money like everyone thinks. You have to build up people and hustle skills and make sure you have a good attitude in the club.

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    You need to go see a mental health specialist if you're thinking about ending your life because you did not do well as a stripper, sincerely. The clubs being "racist" is a cop-out. Black girls can and do make bank however you need to work on your hustle and your attitude. You should enroll in school and get financial aid or loans ASAP. Good luck.

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    Look not all day jobs are dead ends, you might just need to find your niche both in the vanilla world and the adult world if you want to go that route. I hated retail for the longest time and it was mostly because of the managers I worked for. When I found a vanilla job with managers that actually cared it made the slow camming days much easier to deal with. I worked my way into a job as a bike mechanic at an outdoor sports retailer and I actually love my day job now, which makes the camming days more fun, improves my attitude and garners more customers. There are good managers out there, there are good retail and waiting jobs, hell there are good clerical jobs too. Fake it till you make it, believe in yourself and do what needs to be done to survive. If you end it now, you will miss out on all the potential good there could be in your future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    If you do decide to keep stripping, make sure you understand that the money won't always just come to you. It's not like I'm the movies where every customer makes it rain on you all the time. It doesn't mean you are ugly or anyone is not interested. You have to hustle. Stripping isn't easy money like everyone thinks. You have to build up people and hustle skills and make sure you have a good attitude in the club.
    Yes, and in this biz you will deal with a lot of rejection. The key is to not let it affect you. You have to let it roll off your back and keep going. It doesn't matter how hot you are, you will get rejected and you need to learn not to take it to heart. This is where having a healthy self esteem comes in. I am at work now, and I just got rejected by a guy who "maybe later-ed" me. Am I off crying in a corner? No. I'm praying for my Angels to send in a big spender. Maybe that guy just rejected me because I'm about to meet someone who is about to spend 200 or more on me, and I need to be freed up to meet said man. See? You can't let rejection get you down.

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    I hate to point this out too but escorting most likely isn't going to work for you either. It's still a business, it's still a sales job where you're selling yourself.

    Quote Originally Posted by xclass View Post
    the whole reason i was trying to strip was to avoid dead end day jobs because i hate working for people who dont know how to treat their employees. and plus serving isnt going to pay my bills............cant go consistently because i dont have a car and probably never will cause im always gonna be broke. i really dont even care anymore cause stripping was my ONLY ticket out.
    Serving might not be paying your bills, but neither is dancing. You'd probably make more serving than you do dancing, plus you may hate day jobs because of the environment but it sounds like you hate the stripclub environment and experience too. At least your self esteem will be dragged through the trenches less in a normal job. You're terrified of dead end jobs, but stripping seems to be one for you.

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    Find a big company and work your way up. Hospitals around here are great for that. You can start in a janitorial position and have a leg up because they like yo hire internally.

    Sounds like the first thing you need to do is add an extra thing to your daily routine. Look at yourself in the mirror and out loud tell yourself that today you're going to do super well! Find one thing about yourself and compliment yourself out loud about it. ����

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    I read a few comments before writing this, so forgive me if it's been mentioned, but one of the keys to making money in dancing is consistency. When custies know their fav will always be in on Wednesday, they save up for a dance on Wednesday with her. You end up getting to know the regulars who come every Tuesday if you're always working Tuesday. Working weekends is almost a must in a lot of clubs, because you otherwise won't be making real money (for example, if you've been working in dives the money is on the weekend way more than the weekdays.)

    You also have to be an actress on the floor. Gotta fit into their fantasy of a confident woman. You HAVE to ask if they want to dance, is something I realize a lot of girls need to be told when they first start, you can't wait for them to ask you, otheriwse you'll be wasting your own time.

    However, from reading a few of your responses, you should meditate on your emotions, you're really going through a drag emotionally right now and it's really not healthy. I'm so sorr that you seem to be depressed, I hope things start looking upwards.

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    yeah youre all right im depressed but its not possible for me to succeed in anything and I dont care. like i said im ending it soon so im sorry i even wasted my time posting this

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    Not much for us to do in the way of helping , since we have no idea who you are or where you live, except provide you with the suicide hotline: 1-800-273-8255

    And a link to suicide prevention chat website: http://chat.suicidepreventionlifelin...elineChat.aspx

    I know you can add these hustle tips to your set if you wanted to and probs make more, but no one can make you do something you don't want to. Good luck out there, I hope you can get through this. :/

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    thank you everyone who responded nice to feel like someones there for once every one helped a little I really hope things work out for me

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    I think you will be OK just need to get out of your current slump. I'm in a bit of one too myself, sometimes you just have to keep trying different things. If you do the same thing over and over and it doesn't work try doing it differently or try doing something totally different. I hear you on the school is way overpriced and shitty with how few people come out doing better after graduating. Most jobs are dead end I think but not all of them. Maybe join the military when you turn your attitude around? I dunno just naming things that might help idk.

    Good luck.

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    Hey girl, I think you should go to the ER so they can prescribe you some anti-depressents.

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