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    I started dancing agaiin this past week after some financial trouble. I've been away 3 and a half years.

    For the most part I like dancing, but coming home to an empty house at 5 am really depresses me. And even though our job is to talk to people I almost never have any fulfilling social interactions while I'm at work.

    I'm joining some meetups and I have a dog and roommates (that I don't see much of) but I just feel a disconnect.

    Not to mention stripping is so exhausting! I worked Sunday and after working out on Monday and running 1 errand, I didn't have the energy to do much of anything else. I'll work Tuesday, but it's sort of a vicious cycle!

    I know alot of dancers find super co-dependent boyfriends to handle this, but those are the guys are really toxic in the end I think.

    Well..thoughts and opinions anyone?

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    I just looked back at my old threads and saw I posted the same thing 4 years ago...and I guess solved the situation by quitting dancing and getting a 9-5 lol

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    I struggle with loneliness but more because of my mental illness. Either people become friends with me then the psychosis and stuff scares them off or I delusion myself into thinking I have no friends and my family hates me which makes me feel very lonely I especially worry about how my mental illness impacts me trying to find a relationship. My mum knows I'm a stripper but she said "no one wants to be with someone who loads of people have seen naked" cheers mum...

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    Honestly? I drink moderately. I used to do a lot of one night stands. I cry sometimes. I call my surrogate mom (not my birth mom.)

    I try to be friendly with people who really need me for me (like neighbors or friends I have business-oriented relationships with.)

    I don't have better answers. I feel that feeling lonely is the human condition. How we deal with it defines our success.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bunnydoll View Post
    I struggle with loneliness but more because of my mental illness. Either people become friends with me then the psychosis and stuff scares them off or I delusion myself into thinking I have no friends and my family hates me which makes me feel very lonely I especially worry about how my mental illness impacts me trying to find a relationship. My mum knows I'm a stripper but she said "no one wants to be with someone who loads of people have seen naked" cheers mum...
    I wish I could hug you. & BTW not everyone is scared of mental illness. My bff is legit nuts but I can be around her.

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    I can relate.

    I feel as though I have a more introvert type personality so loneliness doesn't bother me that much but I did live a double life while dancing and had to distance myself from my circles to make it easier to keep up the facade.

    I felt really lonely when I'd see people's traditional families and relationships and what not. Or like you say I'd home home to an empty place or no friends to just be real with.

    Well I remedied that by staying on stripper web lol! Smoking weed helped me tune out all the bullshit and not gaf about loneliness. Plus getting out even just running errands being among other people helps. But yeah get in involved in charity or hobbies should also help. When you're focused on helping others it's less likely you'll be thinking of how lonely you feel.
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    Hey! Knowing other people feel lonely makes me feel less lonely! so thanks for sharing so honestly...

    About your Mom...I have a really toxic Mom too...and I stopped talking to her this year. Not that she ever gets in touch with me...I just stopped trying to reach out to her...And I feel a million times better...

    It sounds terrible recommending we stop talking to our own parents...but I deserve a healthy life.

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    oh thank you! hahaha I envy other peoples traditional lives sometimes too! And then I remember how crazy people act when theyre getting divorced and have to try and start dating when they're iddle aged...and don't mind that I'm putting off saettling down...

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    I'm jealous of Asian sex workers because they have a cultural "sisterhood" that prevents the alienating loneliness that American sex workers experience.

    For example, older Asian women mentor younger ones in a "Big sister watches kid sister" way. They share food, trade errands & have their own gossip grapevine. Due to their culture they have a stronger bond than a lot of American females. American culture can be too cutthroat & competitive in the wrong areas.......

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    Quote Originally Posted by NatalyIrene View Post
    oh thank you! hahaha I envy other peoples traditional lives sometimes too! And then I remember how crazy people act when theyre getting divorced and have to try and start dating when they're iddle aged...and don't mind that I'm putting off saettling down...
    My neighbor had a total meltdown when her common law husband kicked her out. She's a shit human being so I didn't pity her. He should have given her $10,000 to re-locate far away & not come to his house and do fucked up things like break doors and steal paving stones out of the yard. (Yes, she did that.)

    I've gotten to mid-life & the most humilation I've subjected myself to after rejection was spilling a pitcher of margaritas on the table when my sad drunk ass got dumped by a hottie.

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    Find good people to live with, like a co-op, but not where you share everything like a commune or a cult lol. I honestly think everyone should live with others in communities, no one should ever live alone because it separates us from people. I don't think that being lonely is healthy or normal, at least it shouldn't be. I currently live alone and it sucks, I want to find people to live with in a community who aren't conspiracy-loving hippies who believe in chemtrails and sharing incomes lol.

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    Honestly pet ownership helps a lot with feelings of isolation.

    Pets are more demanding than human partners sometimes though...

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    I feel you. The same vapid small talk everynight makes it worse. I find setting up something like a regular yoga class helps, get to know people in that class. Use the same nail lady, hair dresser.... Someone you talk to regularly about not work.
    Anything to not get stuck in my own head, keep that thought sprial from going.
    People need people, I hope you find your tribe. In the mean time you have a cybertribe here.

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    Hi I'm from Houston I currently live here. I'm 20 years old , Colombian and I"ve danced since I was 18. I'm really laid back and chill, I'm very business minded. I have hit up Detroit, seattle, and Houston clubs. I'm looking for someone to dance with,someomewho loves to hustle and just chill with on our off days and do girl things., hmu if your interested

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    OP- I think part of the issue might be you are in Vegas. As I have stated before I have never worked in Vegas but clubs in MIA are crazy hours too. Coming home at 5 am, sleeping until other people are getting out of work and then going back in is a bit draining. Maybe work a different shift ( I know the money is at night) and get a part-time regular job or work freelance in the other industry you were working in before, if possible. Try to make time to do things you like and try to make it a point to do things with your friends. Take your dog "city exploring" that is my new thing. I put my dog in the car at least 3 times per week and take her to the beach or park or a different neighborhood. She really likes it too.
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