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    I found out that my boyfriend's ex started stripping through some mutual friends. I always felt he still had some feelings for her and that had always bugged me. So I don't know why but I thought it would be a good idea to go to the club with my boyfriend so he could see she was now a stripper, and maybe ruin his image of her.

    So we went to the strip club. When we got there we sat down in one of the booths in the back and sure enough about 10 minutes after we sat down, I see his ex getting ready to go on stage. I point her out to him and he seemed surprised. She obviously saw us cause she looked over and smiled. I will admit I was probably one of those catty female customers at that point, pointing at her, laughing and making comments.

    So after she is done dancing, I am surprised to see her coming straight to our booth. She comes up to us and is acting all friendly. She says hi to me and my boyfriend. She mentions how she hasn't seen him in a long time and wants to give him a hug, but instead of going to his side of the booth, she starts climbing over me. I was like "what is the bitch doing" but before I could do anything, she stepped over me and then grabbed both my wrists and sat down on my face. I couldn't push her off me, cause she had my wrists and she said "this should teach you to keep your mouth shut and not talk shit".

    I was struggling to buck her off of me, but I couldn't get her off and finally turned my head so I could breath. By that time, my boyfriend was able to get her to get off of me. I wasn't sure if anyone in the club saw it, but I was so embarrassed, that I ran into the bathroom and locked myself in a stall. I was mortified and I needed to gather myself because I was on the verge of tears.

    Out of embarrassment, I stayed in there for a while when I heard someone come in and say "I know your in there Julie, you need to get your ass out of that stall before I drag you out". Obviously I knew it was Heidi (my bf's ex). Now this is were to this day I still regret on how I handled it. I had never been afraid of Heidi, but I was so flustered with what had just happened, that I starting thinking about getting beat up by her and how humiliating that would be, so I found myself becoming timid all of a sudden. So I came out of the stall and told her I didn't want any trouble. She was asking me if I thought I could come to her club and disrespect her, and I said I didn't mean to disrespect her. I told her if we are bothering her me and my boyfriend will leave and she said "no what you are going to do is get your ass out there, sit down with your mouth shut, and buy Brad a dance and me a drink and then you can get your ass out of here"

    So we went back to the booth, my boyfriend looked concerned, but she told him (in a sweet tone) that we talked everything out and we are fine. She ends up ordering a drink and giving him a lap dance in front of me. I ended up paying for the dance and when she got up. I told my bf I didn't feel well and we should go and we left. I was still so embarrassed, that I didn't say two words the whole drive home.

    Now I was as honest as I could be cause I know I wasn't an angel in all of this, but isn't what she did assault? And isn't it also wrong to make me buy her the drink and the dance for my bf? Is that something she could get in trouble with if I were to complain to the club?

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    If this all really happened- no, she would not get in trouble.

    You should have never gone in there.

    You made her paranoid & she did that before you could try anything equivalent (like beating her up or pouring a drink on her.)

    Frankly I would have done worse, not with putting hands on you but finding a way to get you barred from the club for a long time.

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    I do regret going there. It was an ill conceived idea, and I think I let my jealousy get the better of me. But regardless of what I did, I never crossed the line, she was the one that made it physical. I might have been catty, but she took it further and that is why I think more of the fault lies with her.

    And as far as getting barred. What did I really do to get barred from the club? She was the aggressor, not me.

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    If she had told the bartender or manager that her ex walked in, he would be asked to leave, & you with him.

    Simple Security. Worse fights have happened in bars with less provocation.

    You learned a hard lesson.

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    You went behind enemy lines and expected to come out unscathed? This is why I avoid anything with a vagina in the club that isn't naked and wearing stilettos. You went on HER turf starting shit and now you're sniveling because she turned the tables on you? I hope you slunk out of there with your tail between your legs. I'd have beat your ass 3 ways from Sunday if you'd done that to me.
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    Here is the part of your post I dispute, I didn't go and start shit. Yes, I admit I had an agenda, but I wasn't the one the started the confrontation. I didn't tell her to come over to our table. So although I went there with an agenda, in reality I didn't start anything. She did. In the end what is it that I really did? Show up with my boyfriend to a club? For all she knew we could have just happened to show up.

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    I'm sorry girl I know that was rough and I know you want us to tell you she was in the wrong, but you're not gonna like what we have to say.

    As dancers we are always on the defensive. I've seen dancers get aggressive like that with male customers, hell I've been aggressive like that with male customers. So if we are doing that with paying customers, can you imagine how she felt with her ex's new gf coming in and then making fun of her?

    Also even if you came in on accident, out of respect you should have left. Staying brought this upon yourself. She acted poorly and probably should have just told security, but you shouldn't have been there in the first place, which I am glad to see you realize now.

    Please take this as a lesson learned and don't hate dancers cuz of this. She sounds like a bad ex girlfriend period, whether dancer or not. Go enjoy a strip club with your man somewhere she does not work.
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    Well you admitted to snickering and she probably saw you mocking her. However it was wrong of her to put her hands on you. Period.

    And force you to buy her a dance so she could slither on your boyfriend.....nope you shouldn't have done that.

    Why y'all go to the club she was at? Out of all the clubs to go to? That's the only reason why I think you have no recourse because y'all chose to go to the club she worked at and it looks like y'all weren't there for pure fun but curiosity and possibly to antagonize.

    I think your boyfriend set that up. And the fact he barely helped you nor did he have your back? You should rip him a new one or even better ditch him for a better man who doesn't have psycho ex drama.

    Learn some self defense so you can stand up for yourself next time.
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    So your boyfriend did not stand up for you, sorry to hear. It's strange that he would get a dance with her after seeing how she attacked you. Maybe dump him?

    You're concerned about her actions but what about your boyfriend? Who the hell watches their girlfriend get attacked and then gets a lap dance from the person attacking her, a lap dance that the girlfriend pays for? Yeah if this is true your boyfriend is the one you should worry about here. What an asshole.

    Anyway, you were a customer at the club so why shouldn't she make you spend money on a drink and dance? Nothing wrong with that. Attacking you physically was wrong yes but if you look at this from her perspective she probably saw your agenda clearly especially since you describe yourself as the typical catty female customer, pointing and laughing etc. She could probably tell that you were there to look down on her and to make your boyfriend look down on her too. She went too far yeah but I don't know what you expected going in with that attitude?

    There's not much you can do about it now, at least you didn't get injured, do you really want to keep the conflict going by trying to get her in trouble at the club? If she's unpredictable with a tendency to get into physical fights maybe it's just easier to back off and leave it?

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    In his defense he is not guilty for any of it. I was the one that found out where she danced and wanted to go there with him to sort of show her up.

    And telling my story it probably seemed like he didn't help me, but that wasn't true. He did defuse the situation and get her off me, it happened so fast that he couldn't react to it right away. And when we came back to the booth, first thing he did was ask me if I was okay, and I told him I was, cause I didn't want him to think I was intimidated by her.

    And when I asked to go we left right away. I think the night did have a negative affect on our relationship, cause we broke up shortly afterwards and I have been trying to get back together with him since.

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    Is this even real? Lol Tempest


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    Likethis,

    I guess I just took issue with buying her the drink and paying for the dance, because I felt she was trying to stick it to me in a way, outside of it just being her job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie_W View Post
    Likethis,

    I guess I just took issue with buying her the drink and paying for the dance, because I felt she was trying to stick it to me in a way, outside of it just being her job.
    People do this shit to waitresses too.

    Guess whose food comes late with spit in it....?

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    I mean I kinda think this is a troll post by one of catfight fetish people. But really, whether, this is real or fake, my answer is the same:

    You sound like a complete loser with way too much free time.


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    Quote Originally Posted by missykrissy View Post
    I mean I kinda think this is a troll post by one of catfight fetish people. But really, whether, this is real or fake, my answer is the same:

    You sound like a complete loser with way too much free time.
    I know! The sitting on face part is over the top, no pun intended.

    But seriously I've known girls who try to harrass girls at work. This gross methed out chick would come in to one of my clubs to annoy strippers she hated & her husband would encourage it b/c he fucked the strippers she hated behind her back. It was glorious.

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    missykrissy,

    This is what I don't get, I was completely honest about the whole thing, even admitting that I was catty and that I had a not so pleasant agenda. So to call me a loser is unfair. I could have lied and said I walked in there by chance and saw my bf's ex. I could have said I didn't do anything but be polite to her and she went off like a crazy bitch. But I didn't, I purposely admitted my small role in the confrontation so that people could be honest in telling me they felt I did something wrong.

    But whatever I might have done, I feel she is more the villain in this. She made it physical when she didn't have to. She seemed to want to humiliate me, when she could have just ignored us.

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    ^^ I think what we are trying to say are while her actions were not the most appropriate, she had every right to be mad at you. She could've handled it several ways and she chose to handle it that way. But she sounds like a crazy psycho ex girlfriend in general and awful baggage if you are trying to get back with him.

    Please accept this and move on. Most girls aren't as nice as I am and will tear you apart if you keep trying to justify it. Best of luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie_W View Post
    But whatever I might have done, I feel she is more the villain in this. She made it physical when she didn't have to. She seemed to want to humiliate me, when she could have just ignored us.
    Well. You could have ignored her too but you didn't. You sought her out and then tried to humiliate her by pointing and laughing, trying to make your boyfriend look down on her because of her profession.

    Your whole trip there was basically to humiliate her, I don't think you can complain about her humiliating you when you tried to do the same thing although not in such a physical way. Attacking you was wrong yes but the humiliation you can't really complain about when you went in like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    I know! The sitting on face part is over the top, no pun intended.
    yes that is just ott. Because you know whoever composed this little narrative, with cheeto-stained fingers, from mommy's basement, has so little (actual) experience with women that he genuinely thinks we sit on each others' faces when we get mad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    I know! The sitting on face part is over the top, no pun intended.
    Hahaha yup

    I wonder how the girl, possibly wearing stripper heels, could sit on someone's face when that person is upright at a table and doesn't want to be sit on, like how do you physically do that? Quite impressive if it happened. Skills.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie_W View Post
    missykrissy,

    This is what I don't get, I was completely honest about the whole thing, even admitting that I was catty and that I had a not so pleasant agenda. So to call me a loser is unfair. I could have lied and said I walked in there by chance and saw my bf's ex. I could have said I didn't do anything but be polite to her and she went off like a crazy bitch. But I didn't, I purposely admitted my small role in the confrontation so that people could be honest in telling me they felt I did something wrong.

    But whatever I might have done, I feel she is more the villain in this. She made it physical when she didn't have to. She seemed to want to humiliate me, when she could have just ignored us.
    Make this a lesson to never poke the sleeping bear because they just might attack.

    Just take it as an "L" (sometimes you win and sometimes you lose), be thankful you weren't seriously injured, and move on ..... without that dude and his psycho ex.
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    BarbieNYC,

    Thanks for being so nice about it. I respect your opinion.

    missykrissy,

    Seems like you either want to be a bitch, or you want to carry the flag and act like a stripper would never act that way. Your right, whoever saw a stripper stick her ass in anyone's face. Never happens, and I am sure everyone would be appalled if they saw it. Fact is that probably happens every night. Granted not like it happened to me. In my case it was clearly intended to humiliate and that is where she crossed the line. in your desperate attempt to try and make is seem that no card carrying stripper would act like that, you are just making yourself look naïve.

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    lmaoooo I genuinely wish I were naive. Just like you wish any woman ever forced herself on you

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    missykrissy,

    OMG, I really think you have a reading comprehension problem. She didn't force herself on me, it wasn't sexual. I think you are getting caught up with me saying she sat on my face like it was something sexual. It wasn't, she thrust her ass in my face and pinned me while I was in the booth to obviously humiliate me. This wasn't a porno were all of a sudden we broke into a threesome. By saying she forced herself on me, you are implying that somehow deep down she wanted me cause I was so irresistible. No where did I say that was the case. In fact it was opposite.

    Look, I hesitated to post here. I knew that most people on here would take her perspective, and that was fine. I knew I would get some not so friendly replies because I probably set the wheels in motion to a large degree. But in the end, what I was really looking for is to understand if what she did was bad enough to get her in trouble with her club. Or would the club look the other way cause I am a female and I didn't leave with a black eye.

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    Eh I wouldn't put it past some strippers to sit on people's faces.

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