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    I don't know where to start so I'll try to make this short. When I first started dancing I met what you could consider my first sugar daddy. Naive I believed he was divorced like he said, and went out with him. I even stayed at a hotel with him (did not have sex, told him I was on my period so he'd back off. He either didn't buy it or didn't care but I finally got him to stop trying me by telling him I had to go change my tampon. We slept and he took me shopping the day after).

    Things were going well till I got a call from his wife who acted like he was abusive, psycho and she was scared of him. This being my first experience, I told her a lot more than I should have (I didn't see the crazy red flags such as her asking me if he held my hand or how big my boobs were), and I even gave her advice on how to confront him and to call me to let me know she was safe. It was that day I blocked his number.

    She called me back only to harass me saying I left out information and I didn't tell her everything. For awhile she was convinced I slept with him. I've changed my number twice and blocked her. When I looked through the blocked messages I could see she tried reaching me at least 3x a day for a full week before the harassment tapered off and she left me alone.

    I had no contact with them for a year until she found me on Facebook. It had been literally a year and 3 months since I had ANY contact with either of them.

    She came back with a barage of insults some of which were racist and made claims that I hadnt left them alone and she was tired of me begging to see him. She's clearly delusional. Ive been going through a rough time and I snapped and went clean off on her, and blocked her. Then her husband gets on Facebook and harasses me (could've been her but idk it was his account). I calmly tell them to please leave me alone and block him.

    A week later I get a message from an obvious fake account claiming to be a friend of the couple citing a fraudulent story where they came in the club with their friends and harassed me then as well. Apparently I've admitted to being a prostitute, a tranny, being involved in a host of illegal activity, claiming to have had sex with him, and begging for his attention after the couple "cut me off" (even though I was the one who blocked them).

    Its worth noting that she had visited the club with her husband and they would sit and stare at me while she rubbed all over him in attempt to make me jealous. Ladies, we all know I was in it for shopping and sushi so she could really suck the fattest part of my ass in that regard. I do recall one night confronting them and taking them into a dance, I requested that she sit down and I'd dance for her to show her that the dances were in no way insidious and the most he did to violate their vows is take me on a date and have me writhe in his lap.

    We also both told her to her face that we were never sexually intimate. She became hostile during the dance and I had them pay me and left. They came in a few times after that and didn't show up for almost 6 months.

    I moved clubs and thought I was through with the ordeal til she started harassing me on Facebook. I realized if she's willing to make fake accounts to get to me she'll stop at nothing. I don't know what to do. I've deleted my Facebook since but she seems crazy. My dad, my sister, and a few close friends know about her. My dad doesn't know about the recent events but I don't want to worry him. Who stalks a woman who's left them alone for over a year? Honestly it kind of scares me. They're both almost 50! Too damn old I tell you! Too damn OLD for this shit. I feel like I'm gonna end up on Snapped or something.

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    Ok, my honest advice, tell everything you posted here to the club owner. Even if you can't work there anymore it will be a good idea because this business is now dealing with some seriously unstable stalker type people.

    IF you don't want to tell the club, go to the cops. I KNOW I sound like a chicken saying this, but at this point these two could cause you terrible problems. Slashed tires, getting run off the road, people breaking into your house to do God knows what.

    I had a Regular In Love like this & he also lied about being divorced. Knowing him was a long lesson in my life about how delusional some grown adults can be. (The guy eventually turned assaultive. Tough lesson for me there.)

    The easiest thing to do is, take a work trip & tell everyone that you "FOUND JESUS" and are going on a Church Mission. (Seriously.) People will gossip about it, and if these two nuts hear that they may assume they were "cool" enough to scare you away from being a stripper. (Unstable people always overestimate their personal charisma.) After several months they will either find new people to mess with, or they will get divorced & diffuse some of the drama that they apparently love to make when they're together.

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    What I don't get is how is she getting all this info about you??? Your phone numbers? Your facebook? Your club?

    You need to tighten/secure your personal data.

    just tell her you're meeting with your lawyer on Thursday to file harassment charges (a bluff) to get her to leave you alone. But actually do it if she keeps going.

    Get off facebook.
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    To play devils advocate...she may not be crazy..her husband may be driving her crazy. Its possible that you may not be the only woman he was seeing behind her back, but the only one she knows of. So everytime hes getting contacted by someone else or acting shady etc..she thinks its you. And if he is writing to you, he may be doing that for her benefit, to say omg babe see, she wont leave me alone! Knowing full well its not you, while keeping his affairs with someone else a secret.

    Ive been in that situation..where the girl of my ex stalked and harrassed me for 2 years. The kicker, he cheated on me to be with her..I left. But she was not convinced it was actually over between us and was going through his phone, emails etc..and assumed that the secret woman he was still messing with was me. I finally had be like like, are you that stupid? You are not the only woman he was cheating on me with...we broke up over it. I dont want him. She was directing all her energy and anger at me.. and when Id tell him to handle his business hed get mad at me and say he doesnt want to get dragged into this and to leave him alone. What? LOL the most bat shit crazy two years of my life.

    So yeah, she acted like a complete phycho, but much of that was because he was sleeping around with so many different women, and since I was the only one she knew of she assumed it was me. And he wanted to keep his playtime with other women secure, so he would just play along and pretend it was me, and that anything she found was me not leaving him alone. Just giving you another perspective of what may be going on here..she may be crazy because hes driving her crazy and you were not one special person he was cheating on her with..he probably has a whole other life going on and its affecting her in a big way emotionally.

    All that being said...thats not your problem! I would keep a record of all calls, messages, contacts, etc... and would threaten to file a report of harrassment and stalking with the police. Thats what I ended up having to do...not only did I tell her, but I also told him my intention to take legal action if she doesnt stop. Thats what finally brought over 2 years of hell to an end.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    To play devils advocate...she may not be crazy..her husband may be driving her crazy. Its possible that you may not be the only woman he was seeing behind her back, but the only one she knows of. So everytime hes getting contacted by someone else or acting shady etc..she thinks its you. And if he is writing to you, he may be doing that for her benefit, to say omg babe see, she wont leave me alone! Knowing full well its not you, while keeping his affairs with someone else a secret.

    Ive been in that situation..where the girl of my ex stalked and harrassed me for 2 years. The kicker, he cheated on me to be with her..I left. But she was not convinced it was actually over between us and was going through his phone, emails etc..and assumed that the secret woman he was still messing with was me. I finally had be like like, are you that stupid? You are not the only woman he was cheating on me with...we broke up over it. I dont want him. She was directing all her energy and anger at me.. and when Id tell him to handle his business hed get mad at me and say he doesnt want to get dragged into this and to leave him alone. What? LOL the most bat shit crazy two years of my life.

    So yeah, she acted like a complete phycho, but much of that was because he was sleeping around with so many different women, and since I was the only one she knew of she assumed it was me. And he wanted to keep his playtime with other women secure, so he would just play along and pretend it was me, and that anything she found was me not leaving him alone. Just giving you another perspective of what may be going on here..she may be crazy because hes driving her crazy and you were not one special person he was cheating on her with..he probably has a whole other life going on and its affecting her in a big way emotionally.

    All that being said...thats not your problem! I would keep a record of all calls, messages, contacts, etc... and would threaten to file a report of harrassment and stalking with the police. Thats what I ended up having to do...not only did I tell her, but I also told him my intention to take legal action if she doesnt stop. Thats what finally brought over 2 years of hell to an end.
    I lived through the same experience. I agree the guy in OP is lying all the time to his wife & letting the dancer be the visible scapegoat.
    Women who have years invested in relationships literally go crazy when betrayed. Straight, lesbian, trans, don't matter. Deep betrayal plus being played like a toy by the one person who knows you best has driven some to suicide & others to the Penitentiary.

    It's not OP's job to mediate. OP deserves the right to be safe & protected from this......madness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    What I don't get is how is she getting all this info about you??? Your phone numbers? Your facebook? Your club?

    You need to tighten/secure your personal data.

    just tell her you're meeting with your lawyer on Thursday to file harassment charges (a bluff) to get her to leave you alone. But actually do it if she keeps going.

    Get off facebook.
    Yes.

    This could turn deadly. Long story short, I fell in love with a customer who told me he was divorced. He wasn't. He was married to a narcissistic sociopath who hired a team of hitmen to murder me. I tricked the fuckers and pretended not to know about their plan, and they wound up getting busted.

    Delete the Facebook for starters.

    Make sure you secure your home, or move. Make sure you aren't being followed. If the Wife contacts you again, tell her you have kept a record of her harassing calls and if she contacts youb again you will be contacting the police and she will hear from your attorney. Do not engage with them any further.

    Tell management/bouncers about these people. Or switch clubs if possible. Do not talk to others dancers about this. My stalker paid girls to get info about me, and this psycho you are dealing with could do the same.

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    I would take this advice to heart. Ive seen women scorned do some stuff that would make your blood run cold. An ex of mine (different one lol) once had a jilted lover get so crazy, I told him straight up that it sounded like something off a made for Lifetime movie and how I would not be surprised if he came home to a rabbit boiling on the stove one day. He thought I was exaggerating...I ended up being spot on.

    No there was no rabbit But for real, it got serious..as in...she was relentless and almost destroyed his entire life and involved international legal issues serious. And because I was his ex, she tried dragging me though some nonsense too, basically, she wanted to destroy him, and anyone that had any connection to him. Even his professional contacts were harassed by her. There was no stopping this woman. I dont talk to him anymore, but it started over 5 years ago, before they even broke up, and as far as I know, shes still after him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    I would take this advice to heart. Ive seen women scorned do some stuff that would make your blood run cold. An ex of mine (different one lol) once had a jilted lover get so crazy, I told him straight up that it sounded like something off a made for Lifetime movie and how I would not be surprised if he came home to a rabbit boiling on the stove one day. He thought I was exaggerating...I ended up being spot on.

    No there was no rabbit But for real, it got serious..as in...she was relentless and almost destroyed his entire life and involved international legal issues serious. And because I was his ex, she tried dragging me though some nonsense too, basically, she wanted to destroy him, and anyone that had any connection to him. Even his professional contacts were harassed by her. There was no stopping this woman. I dont talk to him anymore, but it started over 5 years ago, before they even broke up, and as far as I know, shes still after him.

    A literally crazy bitch will destroy you and herself to drag everyone to Hell at the same time.
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    Wow thats rough Snuffle, esp since its between your mom and dad. Sorry to hear that happened!!!!
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    If you have evidence that she's stalking and bothering you, go to the police and get a restraining order.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ladyambition View Post
    If you have evidence that she's stalking and bothering you, go to the police and get a restraining order.
    I second this.

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    Yeah I know most strippers are not "cop callers" but ..........I think OP is past the point of danger.

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    I just woke up sorry I couldnt respond right away! I think you guys are absolutely right that he's using me as a scapegoat. And I don't have any connections to my dancer name on Facebook. After that incident of the fake account I deleted Facebook, I deleted snapchat, and basically most of my online presence. I live with my dad, who knows I'm a dancer, and I'm so blessed to have such a supporting man in my life but I don't want him to think I'm fucking everyone's husband. Its been a year! Leave me alone woman! I feel stupid because in deleting my Facebook I've deleted the messages as well I think.. I still have the blocked messages in my phone though. . I still have the blocked messages in my phone though.

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    You can reactivate you're Facebook. Your messages might be still there

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    When you reactivate your Facebook all your messages are still there.
    I don't have any helpful advice except- don't engage not even one more second with either one of these two crazies. Don't even talk to them to tell them to leave you alone. DON'T further explain to her that nothng happened, etc, do not do or say anything to reassure her about her marriage. You think you're helping calm her down but it's feeding into their drama and making her more likely to circle back to you for more. If they come to your club, ignore them but have your security kick them out. If security won't do that, then you leave. For cereal

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    Understood. Paying them anymore attention is feeding the beast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by missykrissy View Post
    When you reactivate your Facebook all your messages are still there.
    I don't have any helpful advice except- don't engage not even one more second with either one of these two crazies. Don't even talk to them to tell them to leave you alone. DON'T further explain to her that nothng happened, etc, do not do or say anything to reassure her about her marriage. You think you're helping calm her down but it's feeding into their drama and making her more likely to circle back to you for more. If they come to your club, ignore them but have your security kick them out. If security won't do that, then you leave. For cereal
    Yes. I've witnessed a woman go through the same meltdown & they can take years to accept the cold ass truth. Not your problem. The law is on your side. As a jerk cop told me once, "stupidity isn't illegal"....... Also, hurting someone's feelings is covered under the First Amendment (freedom of speech.) Meaning the wife might be butthurt about her husband and his habits but she has no right to crash a place of business and harrass people about her hurt feelings.

    Save yourself babe.

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