
Originally Posted by
Tonya_Custy
I have been a long-time lurker and a first-time poster. As a female customer, I was hoping some of the dancers or other female customer's can give me some advice. I have read a lot of the posts on here so I think I understand the dynamics a little better, but I am still have some questions that I would help me when I go to the strip club.
As far as background, I only started going to strip clubs about a year an a half ago. I work for an ad agency and every Friday a group of us would go out, usually it would be to see a band that one of guys at work is in, but one time we decided to go to a strip club. It was my first time and I wasn't sure I would like it, but just watching the girls onstage, the confidence they exuded, the overall atmosphere, I found myself loving it. I stared watching the girls giving dances to guys around the bar and I really started wanting to get one, but I was way too nervous to approach any of the girls. So I was hoping a girl would come up to our group, but we had a mixed ground of guys and girls and it was like they avoided us. A couple of the guys ended up getting private dances, but they had to approach the girls on stage and asked them for one. No one ever came over to us.
After we left I was clamoring to go back, I tried to drop subtle hints to my group of friends at work, but no one really bit. It was like a one time thing and we went back to our routine of going to see the bands. Eventually I ended up finding guys to go with me, usually just friends, I even got to know the bartender and he would even get me in when I was unescorted, so I have been spending more time at the club now. However, I am still frustrated with the lack of dancers coming up to me. I mean I feel like an attractive, non threatening looking woman. I am 26, I have a decent job and am not crazy, but it seems the girls mostly avoid me.
At first I thought maybe coming from work I was dressed too conservatively, so I started to dress skimpier. That didn't have much of an affect either, except for getting more looks and getting hit on by the guys at the club. I even thought that maybe the dancers think that I don't have the money to spend, so I started going to the club with my most expensive purse, shoes, and jewelry to show them I did have money. That had minimal affect too. In my everyday life I don't lack confidence, but when I am at the club I never have enough confidence to approach any of the women. I always feel (especially after reading some of the comments on here) that if they don't approach me they don't want me there. The only girl that really approached me was this young new girl, she looked to be 19, and didn't stop talking. She was cute but not my type, I preferred the more established confident dancers.
So my question is what am I doing wrong? What could I do differently? What should I wear to get the dancers attention. Should I dress more like a hoochie mama? I am not afraid to spend money, it just seems I don't get the chance.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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