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    Default Women's rights huddle- meeting people on meetup

    I went to the Women's march huddle and it was really fun! I will continue to go to the meet ups.

    i don't want to lie to the members, but I'm just focusing on paying off my debt from my loser ex so I can't even say I'm going to school- my usual go to. When people ask, "what do you do?"

    i felt accepted, but hanging out with Vanilla people makes me feel so inferior. As soon as I drop the S bomb, I feel everyone suddenly pull away.

    Should I just say I'm in between jobs (not a complete lie) and move on as gracefully as possible? its such a common question that I don't know how to dodge it.

    I have to start making new connections. I have seriously thought about going back to my abusive ex because I'm so isolated, but I also feel isolated in vanilla society. (I won't go back to him! But after being isolated it seems like a good idea to call him.)

    I just want emotional support and your own story about developing healthy friendships outside of work. Any good lines when people say, "what do you do?" And other responses to small talk
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    Idk. It's not like they're going to hook you up to a lie detector test. I'd just say I'm a philanthropist and homemaker. It's none of their business how you actually make your money. As long as you're doing things legal so as not to bring scandals/negative attention you should be good.

    Literally just make up some halfway believable work from home career

    Tutor
    Nanny
    Medical coder
    Catering
    Artist
    Writer
    Homemaker
    Philanthropist
    Etc.

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    Default Re: Women's rights huddle- meeting people on meetup

    Why not tell them you're a student? They don't need to know how you're paying for it. Say you work at a bar.

    A women's rights meetup sounds awesome though! I'd be interested in a meeting like that. But I keep my stripper job to myself for that very reason. Being ostracized sucks, and its no one's business. I look at it like a top secret job, like a CIA spy or something. lol
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    Say student. No one knows if your parents found a way to pay for your university costs- say they did.

    Nobody really cares. One of the joys of mid-life is knowing people are so self-absorbed they can't be bothered with you.

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    Say you do Uber. That's my most recent cover.

    They don't need to know.

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    Default Re: Women's rights huddle- meeting people on meetup

    You can avoid saying what you do all together people love talk about themselves, so ask them questions about them.

    meetup groups are great to break isolation and you really only need to tell people what you do when you feel comfortable telling them.

    Hell you can even answer with I don't feel comfortable answering that.

    The student works because people can be in school for years especially the ones working on PHDs.

    Freelancer, Self-employed just enough that your not going hungry and your takking cared of.

    Focus on telling them about other interest about yourself. hobbies, movies, other interest, and leave work out of it.

    Isolating yourself and going back to an ex will only make your social skills more delayed.
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    Whatever you do..my suggestion is to not say you do anything that they may say OMG Ive been looking for a tutor / babysitter / consultant / etc etc... and try to get your card or whatever to hire you to do that job for them.

    My go to is programming and that I develop back end database systems. I used to say web design, but too many people would want to hire me. I actually was a freelance designer though, and I do know enough about programming to talk about it in case someone is in that field and wants to talk shop. But...I lean towards saying I do something so boring no one wants to hear about it..most just say wow, nice. And then leave it at that.

    You can also just say you are an Uber driver...I did that for awhile, still do here and there..its a super flexible job, and no one can ever check up on you or try to hire you personally. So its a great cover. Just read up on it because a lot of people ask how to join or what its like. Read a few forums about it, thatll give you a good enough idea of how to answer questions.
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    Default Re: Women's rights huddle- meeting people on meetup

    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    Whatever you do..my suggestion is to not say you do anything that they may say OMG Ive been looking for a tutor / babysitter / consultant / etc etc... and try to get your card or whatever to hire you to do that job for them.

    My go to is programming and that I develop back end database systems. I used to say web design, but too many people would want to hire me. I actually was a freelance designer though, and I do know enough about programming to talk about it in case someone is in that field and wants to talk shop. But...I lean towards saying I do something so boring no one wants to hear about it..most just say wow, nice. And then leave it at that.

    You can also just say you are an Uber driver...I did that for awhile, still do here and there..its a super flexible job, and no one can ever check up on you or try to hire you personally. So its a great cover. Just read up on it because a lot of people ask how to join or what its like. Read a few forums about it, thatll give you a good enough idea of how to answer questions.
    Thanks uber would be a great cover.

    I don't like to lie, but so many people are judgemental. If they knew what they were talking about I'd love to discuss it with them, but so many people have their own dogmatic beliefs that they never check the validity.

    I'm such a different person from anyone- I feel like an alien. While I realize this is a good thing, what I've realized is "most people can't handle the truth". My very existence challenges people's beliefs. (I live in the very diverse and progressive Midwest....haha.)

    I tell a lot of people I'm a stripper because I'm kinda of an activist. I'm very square, volunteer, and all other goody two shoe things. I just want to be like, "see we aren't all druggies with pimps." I've realized at some point I need to think about my own self-preservation and if it's worth the fight. Long rant----Thank you!

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    Nope I feel you...especially now that I just got back into things, I do hesistate for a moment, and in that split second I feel like such a fraud for what Im about to tell them...but its all about self preservation for one, and for two, I dont owe anyone transparency. it wont be long before its business as usual and my alternate story slips out like butter.
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