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    Yes, you read that right. I am ashamed of myself because I only made 25 dollars night.And to make matters worse it's my 1st night working as a new dancer at this particular club. I ran out of there with my tail between my legs.Mainly because other dancers made bank and I didn't.But I am happy for them because it was very slow

    Welp, back to my old club I go. At least there I made a shit ton of money.

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    Default Re: Had my 1st bad night as a dancer, and I feel ashamed

    Happens everywhere. I've made $1000 one night and the next week make not even half. It happens,don't get discouraged

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    Default Re: Had my 1st bad night as a dancer, and I feel ashamed

    Don't be ashamed. I had 3 nights where I made nothing once. 0. Nothing. Luckily it never happened again but I was damn near ready to quit dancing forever. Bad nights happen.

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    No!!! Don't take a bad night personally! I am a 12 year veteran and not long ago I had a 19 dollar day. Yesterday I had a 300 dollar day. Sometimes I'll have a 1000 dollar day. It's not always a reflection of *you*, sometimes it depends on who is in the club and how much they are spending. You can have 100 cheap assholes in a room and make 58 dollars the whole night, or there can be 3 people in the club, all of whom spend 200, giving you a 600 dollar night. It depends on the crowd.

    It was your first night at a new club. You probably had first night jitters. And it was slow!! The dancers already there have the advantage because they already know people in the club, which customers spend and how much, etc. Nobody is really paying attention to how much you make. They're too busy focusing on their own money. Give it another few chances. We've ALL had bad nights. Write it off and start fresh. Today is a new day. Go in believing you'll make money and you will.


    If you did better at your old club, then stick with that, but don't write off new club entirely.

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    If you're going to let one bad night affect you this much then stripping isn't for you. Get a regular 9-5.
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    Default Re: Had my 1st bad night as a dancer, and I feel ashamed

    thanks to everyone who replied with encouragement.I needed it.Maybe if some new clothes and come in on a weekday, maybe I will have better luck

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    Default Re: Had my 1st bad night as a dancer, and I feel ashamed

    I wouldn't write the club off either. Give it a few shifts to see how it is.

    Negative nights once in a while happen in this business.

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    It usually takes me a few shifts to really get 'into it' at a new club. The first night or two you're just learning how everything works there, how much are VIPs, the layout of the club, getting used to the stage. So it can be hard to focus solely on the money and be at your best hustle-wise. Work a couple more shifts there and I'm sure you'll start making more.

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    why did you go to a new club if you made great money at the old club?

    but it could have been first night jitters and that you were intimidated by the new atmosphere which showed and thus impacted how you looked to customers.

    confidence is EVERYTHING in this job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crystalize View Post
    why did you go to a new club if you made great money at the old club?

    but it could have been first night jitters and that you were intimidated by the new atmosphere which showed and thus impacted how you looked to customers.

    confidence is EVERYTHING in this job.
    My old club had a new change in managet that I did not like,and things wee pretty slow there I so figured why not try working at a new club. Plus, I thought maybe a little change of scenery would have been good for me. But, Oh LORDLY I got more than i bargained for when I said i wanted a change in scenery. But Know i sit back and replay everything that happened that night I took a step back and evaluated dome things.

    1.) Each club is different. How i made money at my old club won't work for this club.
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    2.) The clientele is completely different from my old club, so I have to approached them differently. That's if I go back. Which i might will while still working at my original club

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    Yea. Don't let it, or any negativity, get you down!
    You can always give it another shot, could've been an off night for you, & it's a brand new place.
    Good luck dear!


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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    If you're going to let one bad night affect you this much then stripping isn't for you. Get a regular 9-5.

    I BEYOND hate this rhetoric, I hear it all the time. (Now I see why Tumblr dancers hate stripperweb... Way to encourage another dancer. I'd expect better advice out of a seasoned girl.)

    I've been dancing for 2 1/2+ years and will still find myself in the dressing room having a 10-minute crying session over being negative $50 after 3 hours. It happens and never let someone invalidate your negative emotions. This job is mentally taxing and we're not all at the same level of health.

    Wipe off the tears, touch up makeup, put on a new outfit, and go back on the floor with a huge smile. Sometimes it results in $5/hour (better than negative...) other times $100/hour. I've also had clubs where I work next to $1,000 night girls and make $100. Other clubs I'm the $1k dancer and everyone else is struggling. Not everyone excels at every club, like others said. Clientele and whatnot differ.

    I have one club with a solid base of girls who have been there for 10-20 years and NEVER tried a new club. Sometimes it's best to stick with what you know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SammiMinasu View Post
    I BEYOND hate this rhetoric, I hear it all the time. (Now I see why Tumblr dancers hate stripperweb... Way to encourage another dancer. I'd expect better advice out of a seasoned girl.)

    I've been dancing for 2 1/2+ years and will still find myself in the dressing room having a 10-minute crying session over being negative $50 after 3 hours. It happens and never let someone invalidate your negative emotions. This job is mentally taxing and we're not all at the same level of health.

    Wipe off the tears, touch up makeup, put on a new outfit, and go back on the floor with a huge smile. Sometimes it results in $5/hour (better than negative...) other times $100/hour. I've also had clubs where I work next to $1,000 night girls and make $100. Other clubs I'm the $1k dancer and everyone else is struggling. Not everyone excels at every club, like others said. Clientele and whatnot differ.

    I have one club with a solid base of girls who have been there for 10-20 years and NEVER tried a new club. Sometimes it's best to stick with what you know.
    Thank You! What other stripper blogs do you know of that I can follow?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SammiMinasu View Post
    I BEYOND hate this rhetoric, I hear it all the time. (Now I see why Tumblr dancers hate stripperweb... Way to encourage another dancer. I'd expect better advice out of a seasoned girl.)

    I've been dancing for 2 1/2+ years and will still find myself in the dressing room having a 10-minute crying session over being negative $50 after 3 hours. It happens and never let someone invalidate your negative emotions. This job is mentally taxing and we're not all at the same level of health.

    Wipe off the tears, touch up makeup, put on a new outfit, and go back on the floor with a huge smile. Sometimes it results in $5/hour (better than negative...) other times $100/hour. I've also had clubs where I work next to $1,000 night girls and make $100. Other clubs I'm the $1k dancer and everyone else is struggling. Not everyone excels at every club, like others said. Clientele and whatnot differ.

    I have one club with a solid base of girls who have been there for 10-20 years and NEVER tried a new club. Sometimes it's best to stick with what you know.
    I'm not going to sugarcoat things to appease the Tumblrina generation of strippers that need everything spoon fed to them in their safe space. You're right about this industry being mentally draining. I haven't survived this long by tucking my tail between my legs after one bad night. This industry is survival of the fittest. You want my advice? Grow a pair put on your big girl panties and realize this industry is feast or famine. Have a game plan and don't expect anyone to hold your hand.
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    It was once said the leaders are not born they are created. success is going from failure to failure without ever losing enthusiasm. I think that was Churchill. I never do good when I travel. I do better at one club where I know the girls aren't batshit crazy and the management is respectful. Yes, I agree this job may not be a good fit. I have asbergers- high functioning autism- but at this moment this job is what helped me get away from my crazy ex and allows me to get ahead in life. I do think if there was other alternatives out there I would choose a better fit, but for now this job is the lesser of all evils.

    The industry is pretty slow right now everywhere. This job is not a dancing job, it's a sales job. That's where a lot of girls get mixed up.

    Oh and you can't turn a bad customer into a good customer. Meaning if he's a rude, time waster don't take it personally. Move on with grace to someone who is a good fit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I'm not going to sugarcoat things to appease the Tumblrina generation of strippers that need everything spoon fed to them in their safe space. You're right about this industry being mentally draining. I haven't survived this long by tucking my tail between my legs after one bad night. This industry is survival of the fittest. You want my advice? Grow a pair put on your big girl panties and realize this industry is feast or famine. Have a game plan and don't expect anyone to hold your hand.
    I was not expecting anyone to hold my hand,or spoon fed me. how you got that from me I have no idea. I was just ranting, and realizing steam, and I foolishly thought I could come here and vent among women that are like minded.But thanks for your input anyways.

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    At first I thought you were a newbie cause I wasn't paying attention but if you've been dancing for 2 years & do well at your main club then you must be doing something right. I wouldn't write off this new one just because of one bad shift. Plus I love having options because working at only one club for too long makes me get bored and can hurt my money.

    Also... Trying out a new club hoping you're going to bank and then walking out with $25 doesn't feel good.. and wouldn't feel good for anyone lol. That's why we have SW and can vent, realize it's not that serious, and go back the next night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy Love View Post
    I was not expecting anyone to hold my hand,or spoon fed me. how you got that from me I have no idea. I was just ranting, and realizing steam, and I foolishly thought I could come here and vent among women that are like minded.But thanks for your input anyways.
    She wasn't talking about you in particular. I don't mean to put words in anyone's mouth but I am going to assume she was talking about l how a lot of young girls are in general now. I think tempest is probably a little younger than me but at 16 or 17 I was basically living on my own. I worked, went to high school, had extra curricular activities and was getting my shit in gear for college. I started dancing at 20 and at 21 moved 1,300 miles from my family with my own money and the shit I could fit in my trunk. I had bought my own house started a business and finished school 7 1/2 years later. I was not some kind of whiz kid, it was normal when I was a teenager and in my early 20's which was pretty damn recent.

    Now, it's like girls that are 23 come on here asking shit like "how do I open a checking account"?, "How to I address an envelope"? , "I weigh 320 lbs, what club will hire me?", "my boyfriend what makes 4.67 an hour won't LET me strip and smokes weed all day, Should I stay with him or dance?", " Do I need to take my clothes off to audition at a nude club"?. "Can I stop get my Mom to stop checking my twitter? I am 22 and she says I am not old enough". Like, DUDE FIGURE IT THE FUCK OUT.

    I mean, we're all here to help and support each other and I don't mean to be an asshole but this job is not for everyone. You have to have a certain set of skills both personality wise, LOOKs wise and mentally. The particular member you are referring to making the post writes like that all the time. It is her personality.

    She was not attacking you personally, just expressing the frustration a lot of veteran dancers feel. It is funny because I remember when I was in my early 20's all the dancers that were mid 30 and up would complain about how all of us younger girls would never have been hired "back in the day" and how the money had gone down hill. So I guess it is cyclical...
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    I've worked at 2 clubs where it sucked my one and only shift, even though they were supposedly good clubs. Just keep on keeping on at clubs that serve you well.

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