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    I was wondering, how many of you have good friends that you spend time with outside of work aswell, that are sexworkers? I sort of crave that but i find it impossible to reach. Most dancers in my country and all of them in my club are older than me and have different hobbies. Everyone gets along well at work and they're all super nice but i couldn't imagine spending time together outside, texting or anything like that. Vanilla friends are great and even though everyone knows im a sexworker, they usually just dont get it and i can't talk about a lot of stuff with them since they can't relate.

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    I decided a long time ago that it's best not to get close to other sex workers. I'll be friends with them online and meet them somewhere if they want but that's where i draw the line. I no longer consider any of them my "real" friends. If I were you I would adopt the same policy. You can find some "cool" ones to hangout with but don't get too close to them. Getting too close has led to disappointment in my experience.

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    I agree with fbsmgirl.

    Be really careful.

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    Default Re: Sex worker friends

    i just now realized that a similiar thread already exists, sorry for the double.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fbsmgirl View Post
    I decided a long time ago that it's best not to get close to other sex workers. I'll be friends with them online and meet them somewhere if they want but that's where i draw the line. I no longer consider any of them my "real" friends. If I were you I would adopt the same policy. You can find some "cool" ones to hangout with but don't get too close to them. Getting too close has led to disappointment in my experience.
    This right here^!
    Not only disappointment, but can f you up too. I seriously don't trust people, sorry.

    Edit: I also ('I guess'?) got to be somewhat friendly w/ppl on here, w/mixed results.
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    Default Re: Sex worker friends

    i dont know anyone in sexwork my age tbh

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    I don't think there's anything wrong with posting even if there is another thread - sometimes I need emotional support. I enjoy the stripper sorority at work, but off the clock I want away from the drama. I'm 30 something; I've been there, done that, I'm too old for it. I don't trust people, but even without the trust issues I don't need to mix business and pleasure. It's very tempting because we work together- proximity and time spent together often is a good recipe for a relationship. However if the relationship goes badly, and it often does, then my work place has become my personal hell- I'll pass.

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    Be careful,about making friends with ANY co worker honestly, but I've had some good stripper friends, cam girl friends, etc. I just can't relate to most vanilla women honestly and don't feel like hiding my job or paying for them when we go out and hearing their slut shaming bullshit etc. plus where else am I really going to be socializing or meeting anyone .I have too many responsibilities to go out and meet civy women.
    you just need to really vet them out..and be careful talking shit about other co workers etc. give it time and let it develop naturally and don't be foolish about it, but that goes for any friendship.
    just don't rush right in and become besties w just anyone

    thats the only real downside to sex work for me, it's quite isolating. It basically makes friendships with vanilla women obsolete and it's dangerous mixing work with personal life
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    Quote Originally Posted by xbrandyx View Post
    I was wondering, how many of you have good friends that you spend time with outside of work aswell, that are sexworkers?
    I do. Literally all of my friends are in this business one way or another and I wouldn't want it any other way, I feel like I hit the jackpot. I see tons of posts here on SW where girls discuss all of the annoying drama that their normal vanilla friends put them through so I don't think that avoiding friendships with strippers automatically = no drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Genoveve View Post
    I do. Literally all of my friends are in this business one way or another and I wouldn't want it any other way, I feel like I hit the jackpot. I see tons of posts here on SW where girls discuss all of the annoying drama that their normal vanilla friends put them through so I don't think that avoiding friendships with strippers automatically = no drama.
    THIS! TOTALLY AGREE.

    Many of my friends are current or former sex workers- we're not friends because of the industry, its just one thing among many we have in common. I find the women on here very smart and generous with advice but IMO the internet is a good place to go to find people advocating DON'T TRUST PEOPLE. Not just this forum, any forum, there is a reason people seek out community behind a glowing screen and sometimes it's because they've been burned and sometimes its because they simply aren't trusting.

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    No one said there is no drama with civvies. The reason why it's best to be cautious of sex worker "friends" is because they could easily out you/use things you've said to them in this world against you in the real world when you discontinue the friendship. Let's apply common sense here. At the end of the day human beings are still human beings but a lot of things that happen to us CAN be avoided when we choose our associates wisely.

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    Of all the clubs I've worked at over the years I've only had a handful of dancer friends. My best friends that are all back home aren't dancers and we've known each other since we were like 13. Dancing definitely can be isolating because I put off trying to meet new people since I'm avoiding the whole 'what do you do' question. I also drive a nice car so I think people give me a weird look when I say waitress lol.

    I like having both and don't really talk to any dancers I was friends with anymore. The girls I work with now are cool and we're friends 'at work' but alot of them have families. I would like at least one dancer friend out here but it's not a big deal. Honestly part of why I moved to a new city was so I would focus more on other things so as lonely as I get sometimes it's not a priority.

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    I would like to have friends in the industry. But I've heard that not all are going to be real with you and may even use it to their benefit if they can. So I'm pretty wary of the idea.

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    I'd like to have more friends in the industry..........I still talk to (not as much as before though due to my ridiculous schedule) one of the bbs on here and she's lovely. A beauty school friend of mine is also in the industry, but she moved to Kansas, and let me tell you it is SUCH a relief to have friends that I can talk to openly and honestly about work because it is very isolating at times. I guess YMMV, as in anything else, but so far I'm an advocate for it.

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    I've met dancers through doing their hair but wouldn't call them "friends". Although I'd like to have friends in the business. Would be a nice way to just have down to earth talks about the business and be able to learn from. I don't have many friends anyway because I was kept away from having a life while marriage. But would be nice to talk about the industry work with other girls.

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    I've always had sex worker friends. Currently I'm living with 3 girls in the business. One is my best friend and we both escort and dance and the other two just dance. We get a long great but we are all pretty respectful of each other and that's the biggest thing.

    I've always had a lot of friends in the business. Doesn't always work but I've had good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    Of all the clubs I've worked at over the years I've only had a handful of dancer friends. My best friends that are all back home aren't dancers and we've known each other since we were like 13. Dancing definitely can be isolating because I put off trying to meet new people since I'm avoiding the whole 'what do you do' question. I also drive a nice car so I think people give me a weird look when I say waitress lol.
    Regarding questions about nice cars & cash...why not say you used inheritance money from Grandma for the downpayment on a nice car?

    & There are serving/bartending jobs where the workers make as much if not more than many strippers. It depends where you work & how many hours you get.

    Just saying. Plenty of occupations HAVE to lie about work (Intel, law enforcement, etc.) There's nothing wrong with leaving work at work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    Regarding questions about nice cars & cash...why not say you used inheritance money from Grandma for the downpayment on a nice car?

    & There are serving/bartending jobs where the workers make as much if not more than many strippers. It depends where you work & how many hours you get.

    Just saying. Plenty of occupations HAVE to lie about work (Intel, law enforcement, etc.) There's nothing wrong with leaving work at work.
    Inheritance money is a good idea lol and yeah I think people assume I bartend at one of the nicer spots in my city. It just gets awkward when they start asking WHERE I work and then they're familiar with it and know people who work there and Im just like 'ahh get me out of this convo' lol. This happened to me the other day at the dog park I named some bar I 'worked at' to this guy and he's like 'oh I know that place!' Maybe I should say I'm a nanny for a rich family or something.

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