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    Default PLEASE HELP: New mom looking to go back to work

    Hey guys! I'm a first time mom of a 3 week old. I miss working and know that the minute I stop bleeding, I'm going back to work! I have a problem though. My boyfriend is tree climber and works from 6 am until the job is done. During summer, he comes home around 8 pm ish and in winter (right now) he's coming home around 5 ish unless it snows. When he comes home, he's exhausted. We've made a deal that I take complete care of baby when he wakes up at night so my boyfriend isn't tired for work the next day since he's the one taking care of all of my bills. At my club, night shift is from 7 pm until 3:30 am. I plan to work as much as I can but I will not miss Friday, Sat and Sun to the best of my ability. My baby will barely be one month old and my boyfriend is not willing to quit his job (it's extremely well payed for a 20 year old that doesn't take his clothes off for money, haha ). So basically my
    question is, is anyone else in this position? how do you other mommas balance your schedule and your family schedules without going insane? Did you hire a nanny? Please help

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    Default Re: PLEASE HELP: New mom looking to go back to work

    I'm not a new mom. I have a 7 year old but I can help because I've been there. I think that you should start off only a couple(2-3) nights a week at first. I know that you are anxious to get back to work but you don't want to overdo it. It sounds like you would have to hire a nanny. A baby that young needs lots of care. You and your boyfriend would be working opposite schedules from the sounds of it. Babies do not care if you are tired from work or not. If you have a relative who would be willing to babysit for you, even better. When I went back to work I did only 2 nights a week because having to take care of the baby myself(ex only went to work and nothing else), do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. was exhausting. Maybe you can be supermom though. Everybody is different.
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    Default Re: PLEASE HELP: New mom looking to go back to work

    I have an 8 week old and although I'm physically ready to work again, he's not ready to be without me, esp since he's breastfed. I'm also anxious to get back to work but don't rush it too much, your body hasn't healed yet and it's a really important time in your child's development and bonding etc.
    find a club that doesn't hav a strict schedule and ease SLOWLY back into it. The club will always be there
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    Default Re: PLEASE HELP: New mom looking to go back to work

    First of all, congrats on the baby.

    I'm the mother of a 15 year old.

    When he was a baby, I went back to work when he was 3 months old ( not by choice...I had to go back to work. I worked at a restaurant at the time). His father and I took turns working opposite schedules so that one of us would be home with him. Which was difficult because we only had so much time all together, and ultimately it didn't work out (for other reasons).

    You are VERY fortunate that he is taking care of your bills for you. I would not go back to work so soon, I know taking care of a newborn is tiring and you're probably craving time with adults, but your baby is going to be a baby only once, so I would enjoy this time now while you have it, while your man is taking care of bills. I would wait just a little longer before going back to work. Figure out a schedule that would work for you guys and the baby. Maybe just work 2-3 days to start. Just so you get a break and you can associate with adults. Enjoy this time you have with the baby. I didn't start dancing til my son was about 4 and dancing was a godsend bc I could schedule my work life around my son's needs. It served us well.

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