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    So I met this hot guy on FB...really sweet person. Told me all of these things that seemed too good to be true. I told him I wanted a CASUAL relationship but he said he really likes me, wants to try dating, he even influenced me to delete my POF profile (I was looking for a booty call) and he said all the right things, we even joked around about living together and getting a new cat, I would say things like "My pussy wants you" and he wold reply "I hope more than you pussy wants me..." he said "Let's date and see how things go.." and because he was so sweet and hot, I say OK fine lets try this...We meet up ONCE, had a few drinks and went home.

    The next morning, I spoke to a mutual friend on FB of ours who I am not close to at all, I was interested in her personal training and I told her we met up and she WENT OFF. She told me how much of a liar he is, told me he lied about a furniture company he said he owned, lied about being her diet coach, that he is a player, POS etc etc etc....at first I believed her because HE DID seem WAY too good to be true. Her and I laughed about it and hung up the phone. I never confronted him about it just shrugged it off because I barely knew him anyway- it wasn't a loss and worth drama.

    Not long after, he texts me asking why is this mutual friend of ours blowing up his phone. He then sends me screen shots of the texts she sent him cursing him out and insulting him. I told him "You know what? I don't want the drama, lets just keep whatever is going on between us, do not tell anyone, I don't care if you are a player, I don't know who to believe... as long as you give me penis, we are golden" Totally dismissing the idea of us dating because at this point I believe her. But him and I had such an amazing time, great conversations, we connected so well....so it didn't stop me from talking to him. Plus I am no saint myself, I have baggage too and he was EXACTLY what I was looking for in a booty call.

    So for like TWO FREAKIN DAYS this drama has been going on..she's sending me screen shots, he's sending me screen shots, she is SO ANGRY. Then she told me "I would feel uncomfortable if you two hooked up" that's when I realized SHE IS JEALOUS. I still think he lied about a few things but SHE IS JEALOUS. They never dated, they never even had sex..So I cut her off because she WOULD NOT STOP talking about it and causing way too much stress. I also cut her off because she is known for her anger and causing drama. She even fought one of my best friends over CHICKEN on a JAMAICA TRIP. smh

    And now the guy isn't answering me. We had plans to have like a sex and movie night and I'd ask him if he is still coming and he ignored it. We then start talking about a few things, we joked around about him being here when my ex gets his stuff, we talked about anal sex, we made plans for a party...so I asked him again if he is coming over maybe he missed it the first time he asked- ignored it. So I'm confused because he is showing interest and then suddenly not.

    I delete his number. Then the personal trainer girl blew up my phone again, we got into it...the conversation was so funny that I sent him screen shots via FB (because I deleted his number)..he replied to it. So I'm like OK he isn't totally ignoring me. Then I asked him THE THIRD TIME - want to come over? I see that he read the message BUT IGNORES IT. So I tell him "I asked you 3 times and you ignored it guess you dont want to anymore...its cool tho babe no harm." And thought that was the end of us and he wasn't interested.

    But he is liking my stuff on social media. I truly don't get it....

    My theory is that the drama pushed him away and the fact that this girl aired all of his dirty laundry and he doesn't want to face me because of it....or maybe he feels rejected because I told him I only wanted sex from him when he asked for more? Or both? Because when we first started talking he said things like I was out of his league- self conscious things. He is kinda shy and reserved. Or did he simply lose interest? I want him back and want to start all over because things were going good and I see him as a friend at least....should I leave it alone or tell him I want him back?

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals from Hell (A whole story)

    For damn sure DONT tell him you still want him. It sounds like it was a game from the start. It also sounds like you're leaving something out of the story.

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    Are they both playing you...?

    Maybe I'm paranoid but this sounds like a set up....

    edit to add- or you scared him off...

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    That is the whole story I swear! This is why everything is so confusing. They never dated, he wanted more than a hook up from me even though when we first met I said I wanted casual...and he went from 100 to 0 real quick.....as far as scaring him off, I think the drama did scare him off..whether she was telling the truth or not, she is just crazy and took things too far.... But I did not confront him about anything all I said was I don't care about any of it, as long as we keep things between us.

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    Maybe he knows something about her that you don't...maybe she's a serial killer lol...

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    It's just so confusing, I do not get him at all. Even after the drama, we joked about him coming over while my ex came over and saying I have a new boyfriend. Even after the drama, we talked about attending a party. But when I ask him over- that's when he ignores me. And he is all over my social media?

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    Your so called "friend" is a cockblocker. Always trust your gut instincts, if she's jealous then she IS. I would cut both of them off to save stress. All you wanted was a booty call. The guy acted like you wanted a serious relationship with him. What guy would avoid sex when he knows he's getting FREE sex? There's definitely something fishy going on.

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    you said you didn't want to get in the middle of any drama....but you continued to. You told them both you didn't want to talk about it, but then continued to talk about it to both of them....sending him txts of your conversation with her.....perpetuating the drama that you said you didn't want. The whole thing sounds immature.

    As for him...cut him off, lose the number. If he wanted to have sex with you, you wouldn't have to ask him twice, much less three times. And don't respond to any messages from him, and tell your friend that you aren't talking about him anymore..period. Drama over....moving on.



    (......unless you don't really want the drama to be over)

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    My guess is he's trying to extort you financially & being careful about when he springs the move on you.

    Guys can gold dig too....

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    Why so much drama just to get some dick? There are so many other men out there searching for chicks who are genuinely interested in getting the D and nothing else. I don't understand putting so much time into something that's not giving you what you want? If you truly and honestly only want someone to break you off then ignore this one and find someone else. This sounds too messy for a casual hookup.

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    Idk. You spun this a couple of times like you were just looking for a booty call, but everything else you posted about him and the connection says otherwise. You are willing to rationalize away every clear warning sign and let him in your bed anyway, even going as far as to chase after him 3 times.

    Maybe you're just very lonely, maybe you just don't think you're worth more, maybe its some combination of the two or something else altogether. Only you know the answer to this. But whatever is leading you to chase after an all too obvious operator, I hope he continues to blow you off, because IMHO dealing with this guy any further would probably not end well for you.

    In any event, good luck.

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    I'm just hoping these two don't get your home address & steal your furniture.

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    OK...it's not worth it. He is over, not worth the drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhatGirlDynomite!!! View Post
    Why so much drama just to get some dick? There are so many other men out there searching for chicks who are genuinely interested in getting the D and nothing else.

    I would never have imagined this would be such a problem.

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    Pokey!
    That's cause you're a man, hon!
    .OP, sorry but I really didn't read ur post, my eyes kinda glazed over when I saw FB, which usually spell s out B.S. right off the bat..
    However, take care & stay safe


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    Ok first of all, no one is desperate and lonely, believe me. I've been looking for the perfect casual fling for a long time and thought he was a good match. I interviewed and tested plenty of guys if I were that desperate I would of gotten laid a couple of times by now. He was the first in a really long time I was that attracted to. I didn't "chase" him, he came to ME AND started talking about anal sex so I invited him.over for it.

    Secondly, like I said before me and this girl had BUSINESS together, the personal training that's why we kept talking but every other word was about him and we got into it.

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    But like most of you said, it's not worth it.. I am just amazed how strange this all got.

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    Wow, that sounds like a lot of drama just for a booty call. If all I was wanting was nsa sex from a guy, he better be able to give me the dick when I need it. I don't want to hear about his day, his feelings, his relatives, friends, hobbies, or even about his pets. Any unnecessary drama bullshit from a booty call and I'm done, like that song by Kesha "Booty Call". Whatever you choose to do, good luck.

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    Ok, so referring to ur post a couple posts above, NO need to get defensive, do whatever you want, if you don't want to hear it, then don't post it..
    No one's attacking you @ all people are just trying to help
    Sorry if you don't like what you hear, Sheesh​


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Ok, so referring to ur post a couple posts above, NO need to get defensive, do whatever you want, if you don't want to hear it, then don't post it..
    No one's attacking you @ all people are just trying to help
    Sorry if you don't like what you hear, Sheesh​
    Babe! I was just sayin lol no one is desperate, I am not angry I promise

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    Ok, good..
    Just saying I believe a few ppl on here were a bit concerned for you is all..not saying you dont know what's up, but a lot of women get raped, robbed, etc as you know. & yea women can be jealous & cause crap who knows
    Glad you're ok & safe, & if that's what you want to find, I know you'll be careful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Ok, good..
    Just saying I believe a few ppl on here were a bit concerned for you is all..not saying you dont know what's up, but a lot of women get raped, robbed, etc as you know. & yea women can be jealous & cause crap who knows
    Glad you're ok & safe, & if that's what you want to find, I know you'll be careful.
    Thanks.
    Yeah yall really are paranoid lmfao...its the way to go tho in this industry. Thank you

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    I also don't understand the hot and cold. I read this forum sometimes to try and understand it, but I am as lost as ever.
    Some worst case scenarios: he is all up on your social media to make some other chick jealous.
    Best case scenario: he is immature as fuck and also has some hang ups about sex.
    Either way, you are an attractive woman, who took a chance on a man, in whatever context, and it didn't work out.
    There is no possible way to know what he is thinking and so you took the only sane route, which is "fuck him, my focus is on me"
    Sometimes I think these hot and cold guys just wanna get in our heads. Don't let them.

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    I totally give up on the dude...I never in my life ran into a situation so fucking stupid. I mean, he could of easily gotten laid since day one, why make things complicated?? I mean damn....I dont get some people!!!

    I spoke to another dude about it and he says its a power and control ego thing. Cuz the dude is beyond sexy and probably gets off on playing games. This guys I confided in told me once he realized I was unable to play with or control, he backed off. How pathetic...he could of at least fucked me.

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