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    https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016...tell-my-child/

    If you wanna get a little hit in the feels today as far as sex work and dignity and all that....

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    I absolutely loved this! One of the best things I've read online in a long time. Beautifully written and made me feel better about being a stripper. It's really sweet and yeah, I got a little misty. Thank you for posting this.
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    Awww this was so sweet...

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    Quote Originally Posted by HallelujahHopkins View Post
    https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016...tell-my-child/

    If you wanna get a little hit in the feels today as far as sex work and dignity and all that....
    I can appreciate it, but I don't agree. I've accepted that one day I will have to explain my decision to be a stripper to my child/dren but I hope I have raised them to be understanding, loving, and accepting. I won't try to convince my child that me being a stripper is OK, showing them where I work or my work shoes or letting them see me naked. This is my personal opinion, and I am entitled to it.

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    Many thanks for posting because it was such a good lecture, not at all one of the many other garbage insights wrote by people without experience or not very knowledgeable in this area. Not a dancer here, but still a sex worker and I am very proud of that.
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    I will never understand what you ladies endure by choosing these lines of work. I also believe that any woman who takes extraordinary steps to provide for her child should be proud of herself and who she is, period. And if stripping/cam/escorting is how she does it then so be it.

    My issue is with her sucking her young child into her journey of self-affirmation. There are some concepts that children just aren't capable of properly processing and some knowledge that can be a tremendous burden for a young mind. Frankly I think that it is utterly selfish of the author to saddle this child with all of this stuff, which will likely create a lot of conflicts in the her head and force her to grapple with adult issues far before she should need to. It is not a young child's job to make a parent feel better about his or her choices or to serve as a parent's confessional. Instead it's the parent's job to protect the child from things that she is not ready to cope with. I don't know enough about this author's relationship with her daughter to automatically slap the "emotional incest" label on the relationship, but it sure smells like it's veering in that direction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    I will never understand what you ladies endure by choosing these lines of work. I also believe that any woman who takes extraordinary steps to provide for her child should be proud of herself and who she is, period. And if stripping/cam/escorting is how she does it then so be it.

    My issue is with her sucking her young child into her journey of self-affirmation. There are some concepts that children just aren't capable of properly processing and some knowledge that can be a tremendous burden for a young mind. Frankly I think that it is utterly selfish of the author to saddle this child with all of this stuff, which will likely create a lot of conflicts in the her head and force her to grapple with adult issues far before she should need to. It is not a young child's job to make a parent feel better about his or her choices or to serve as a parent's confessional. Instead it's the parent's job to protect the child from things that she is not ready to cope with. I don't know enough about this author's relationship with her daughter to automatically slap the "emotional incest" label on the relationship, but it sure smells like it's veering in that direction.
    You get it. This letter was all sorts of creepy to me.
    What I'll tell my child? Nothing. Why? I owe her no explanation.
    I owe no one an explanation. The fact that some of these sex workers feel the need
    to justify this to their children is just...dumb. I mean if you want to fuck up your child sure by all means.

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    I wrote sometime a while back that if my daughter chose to be a stripper of her own free will, I'd support her, but that I'd always make sure she has enough money so she doesn't have to make that choice. That's still true. But now that she's 12, almost 13, and I see what is going on in school and I am remembering what happened when I was in school, I don't know. I have put off for the moment, telling her anything about my former line of work. So far, she's satisfied with knowing a little about what I do now. One day, I suppose we'll have to talk, but not now.

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    I didn't read that as her ACTUALLY telling all that to her child AT THIS PONT (4 years old) she said that's what she will tell her.
    And no you shouldn't have to justify yourself or explain it but your kid is going to have a lot of questions because of, well, reality. Ignoring it dos nothing but leave them getting their info and ideas of sex work from society and let's them know you're ashamed.
    Some of it I was iffy with (but those parts had nothing to do w sex work) but as an actual mom and a sex worker I like this. If you're neither you won't understand. My oldest son has known about my work for a long time and we have talked about it briefly. I told him I dance for people and entertain them and talk to them for money and it was "oh, ok" and that was about it. No shame
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    You should see all the feminists frothing at the mouth over this.
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    She's a great writer so I will look forward to reading more of her stuff. I found her website here http://stripperwriter.com/elle-rompe...sex-worker.htm The original article posted up top was clearly written as an exercise for herself. And that's okay because that's what writers do. I think the way she's embracing her work and using her skill set to increase her income is fantastic, but I do wonder if she'll someday regret using her daughters photographs on her website and social media.

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    The most awkwardest thing was when a girl at my club brought her 4 yr old girl to the club. Seeing us change clothes in the dressing room, bare everything. Made a bunch of us uncomfortable. That child also caught a glimpse of lapdancing going on. Just, no no no.

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    ^dude that's illegal af!! Makes me nervous when ppl do that, I won't even bring my infant in when I'm picking up a check or schedule after hours.
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    ^dude that's illegal af!! Makes me nervous when ppl do that, I won't even bring my infant in when I'm picking up a check or schedule after hours.
    It was so weird and inappropriate. :-/

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    My son, when he was older, actually called me out on being a dancer. I did not want to tell him until he was way older, if at all. He could tell by my reaction to his question that I was. He could tell I was flustered, so he said to me, "Mom, don't worry. You're doing it for the right reasons. " I was floored by his non judgemental attitude. I explained to him that there was nothing bad about my job, but it is a job for ADULTS, so I don't want to talk about it, seeing that he was a kid. Then I had to explain how people may judge me in a negative way if they found out, so maybe it would be best if we just told people about my other job (screenwriter/actress) because I'd hate for the judgemental attitude of others to affect his social life. He got it. And it was never an issue since then, nor has he suffered as a result. I told him that I like my job and because of it, I get to stay home with him, which I usually hard for single moms to do. But if he ever wanted me to quit, I would. He respected me for telling him the truth and my dancing hasn't been an issue. It's just mom's job. I am really lucky to have a son like this. He is happy and emotionally well adjusted and if he ever expressed suffering as a result of me dancing, I would quit in a heartbeat.

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