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    I'm trying to invest in a career as a personal trainer or nurse. One thing I'm worried about with personal training is that it's too physical, competitive, and no benefits and it's a physical job. Anyways, I don't want to invest in nursing school if my past as a dancer will be an issue? I filed taxes on dancing and I've done it for a long time so hiding it would be a challenge. I don't want to waste anytime, but I could get my personal training certificate and CNA certificate and try both on. At my age, I just don't feel like can afford to make a bad decision. Are you honest about your job history? Have you had problems getting a vanilla job?
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    I'm looking into personal training also. Maybe gets certs in other things, such as being a group fitness instructor, get a cert in body modifications (for those doing bikini/fitness competitions), nutrition, or other things? That might make you stand out more. I'm looking as NESTA (google them). As for nursing, I don't know how it is where you live, but certain states are always more in need of nurses and CNAs than others, so you could move if you had to? I would try being a CNA first and see how you like it. My mom was a nurse and I was turned off by the long hours and how sick my brother and I were all the time, but depending on what kind of setting you work it, it may be something you truly enjoy (like private home care for example).
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    There are a lot of girls here looking into vanilla careers after dancing. I remember someone talking about nursing school, and saying as long as you didn't work with children, it should be fine. Personally, I had a decent vanilla job (and may go back to it), and I was able to hide my stripping/camming past. I wouldn't be honest about your job history, it's no one's business, and the vanilla world can be extremely judgmental.

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    Your dancing career should not have any impact on going into nursing. I went to nursing school after dancing, have been a nurse for 7 years, fucking hate it, and now dance again on the side so that I don't have to work as a nurse as often so far it has only happened twice that someone recognized me from vanilla job, but it was not an issue. They were like, "you look familiar... are you in the medical field?" but how can they judge when they are there, too? I suppose if your nurse manager came in that would be another story perhaps. But if you work in a big hospital, you are fairly anonymous. No one will recognize you with no makeup, wearing scrubs, hair in a scrubby ponytail, dark circles under your eyes glasses... um you get the picture.

    The only thing that would be a potential issue is if you have anything illegal on your record. Nursing jobs do background checks for arrests etc. If you are thinking about nursing school, allnurses.com is a site kind of like here; tons of ideas and support.

    Go for it if you want it! Nursing is very stable, and in demand, but you will work your ASS OFF and it can be soul-crushing. PM me if you want.

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    Also if you go for nursing, go for your BACHELORS, not just an associate's. The market is flooded with new nurses, and many hospitals are hiring nurses with bachelors ONLY. Plus you will be making more $$. They say RN stands for Rich Nurse and LPN stand for Low Payed Nurse just keep that in mind...

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    Quote Originally Posted by seashell View Post
    There are a lot of girls here looking into vanilla careers after dancing. I remember someone talking about nursing school, and saying as long as you didn't work with children, it should be fine. Personally, I had a decent vanilla job (and may go back to it), and I was able to hide my stripping/camming past. I wouldn't be honest about your job history, it's no one's business, and the vanilla world can be extremely judgmental.
    I was a preschool teacher before I danced-a good one. Crazy how people freak out about sex work and kids. Do people remember how babies are made?
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    Most things don't come up unless you bring it up. So keep it as don't ask Don't tell until you have to deal with it .

    I know for me I didn't want to leave sex work and go into a job so I went with building an online business, for me it was so much easier because I don't have to explain anything to anyone about my past history unless I want to, and for me that will come in a book I Am writing about my life.

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    You can still be a nurse despite having been a dancer. I have an ex who put himself through nursing school while working as a stripper and is now working as a Registered Nurse. I was working as a cna when I first started webcamming years ago. Heck, there have been porn stars and escorts who have gone on to become lawyers, teachers, and owners of businesses. Don't let that stop you if that's what you want to do.
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    Side note- there is sooo much Internet porn out there that IMO you can shut down a nosy weirdo by insisting they must have their "mind in the gutter" mistaking you for some random chick they saw somewhere online (say it more politely but you catch my drift.) Just make that person think they are completely wrong & you don't even understand what they are talking about....
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    I'm a massage therapist at a spa located in a gym, the personal trainers (as does any staff) there DO get health benefits, 401K and paid sick days if they are full time. As for me, dancing is the only other job I've had in over 10 years. When I applied for my first massage job, I told them I had been a self employed artist (since that's what it said on my taxes) and nobody questioned me further. They really only cared about my experience with massage. When I got my current job they didn't even ask what I did previous to massage. If I were you, I would go for it! Helping people feel better and achieve their goals is so rewarding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WendiStarr View Post
    You can still be a nurse despite having been a dancer. I have an ex who put himself through nursing school while working as a stripper and is now working as a Registered Nurse. I was working as a cna when I first started webcamming years ago. Heck, there have been porn stars and escorts who have gone on to become lawyers, teachers, and owners of businesses. Don't let that stop you if that's what you want to do.
    So what do you say? I have been a stripper for 7 years so I feel like I'll have to honest about it. I guess im just wanting anecdotal story of how to tell my future employer. Hum

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    You can absolutely still be a nurse after dancing. If there's one thing I've learned over the years, nursing is absolutely FILLED with ex-adult entertainers. It's probably not talked about except in places like this, but I think it's way more common than anyone realizes.

    If you have a resume gap, you can find ways to talk about it. Volunteer work; say you traveled a lot; I babysat a lot for friends (for free) but I pretended on my resume that it was a paid job; that you lived off of school loans while focusing on studying; you can even just say that you had a boyfriend/parents take care of you for awhile/while you were in school. The grand majority of my female friends have multi-year resume gaps from just being lazy and having their men take care of them. Not that you're lazy, but it's not like it's uncommon to say that you didn't have to work for awhile. Just some options.
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    Re. the personal trainer aspect: YMMV, but I researched the state I want to move to, and many of those gyms offer gooood benefits, including medical, dental, and PTO etc. Better than what I expected.

    Also, many are pushing for national certs, so look at American Council on Exercise, at least for the PT portion. (Nutrition etc, you can do cheaper at NESTA or another certifying place). Just thought I would share what I found, and I hope you are pursuing your dreams!
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    Thank you, I'll be praying about this. It's really stressful to think about people judging me for working in the sex industry. It's crazy that so many places want a degree that cost tens of thousands for a shitty job. One of my dancer friends got a 4 year degree and is having a hard time finding a good job. At 30 something I just don't want to stress about retiring and working at Hardee's. I look good for my age, but I want financial peace. I don't think it matters who you are now n days. I was reading a book called white trash and how people that come from lower class backgrounds are seen as disposable is the current economic climate. That how I feel right now. I'm getting my ACE and my CNA. Both those are better than nothing. I'm just wondering if I should go to nursing school so I have some education to fall back on. I've seen so many people take many different paths. It just seems financial peace and upward mobility isn't what it use to be. I have a degree in early childhood education, but I'm pretty sure with this job it would NEVER fly not to mention the pay is awful with no benefits. I know I'm doing better Just sitting on the couch doing, but it so stressful to think about. I just try to take it one day at a time!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adrienne7 View Post
    Your dancing career should not have any impact on going into nursing. I went to nursing school after dancing, have been a nurse for 7 years, fucking hate it, and now dance again on the side so that I don't have to work as a nurse as often so far it has only happened twice that someone recognized me from vanilla job, but it was not an issue. They were like, "you look familiar... are you in the medical field?" but how can they judge when they are there, too? I suppose if your nurse manager came in that would be another story perhaps. But if you work in a big hospital, you are fairly anonymous. No one will recognize you with no makeup, wearing scrubs, hair in a scrubby ponytail, dark circles under your eyes glasses... um you get the picture.

    The only thing that would be a potential issue is if you have anything illegal on your record. Nursing jobs do background checks for arrests etc. If you are thinking about nursing school, allnurses.com is a site kind of like here; tons of ideas and support.

    Go for it if you want it! Nursing is very stable, and in demand, but you will work your ASS OFF and it can be soul-crushing. PM me if you want.

    Man I totally feel this. I stopped adult work, worked my ass off to get a masters in healthcare and man the job is stable but is such a grind. I work so hard everyday and after taxes, loan payments and rent I'm thinking...this is it???? This is what I get after killing myself for this degree?? I'm not gonna lie I'm a tad bitter. I wanna look into side work as a domme just don't wanna advertise my pics on sites and don't wanna engage in illegal activity in a dungeon and possibly lose my license. Don't know what to do.
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    Ditto to what what has been said already. Also a nurse. Never disclosed that to employers, but also never filed taxes as a dancer. I don't think the background check gets that detailed, like someone mentioned it is a through criminal background check (take your fingerprints and stuff) but I don't believe they get into your previous employment hx. Unless you give it to them.
    Also second that nursing is a hard, often soul crushing job. But, I also think there is a reason there are so many ex adult industry women in nursing. The skill set (at least in terms of dealing with difficult human beings) is eerily similar in a lot of ways

    ETA- definitely agree with getting your bachelors if you end up going that route. There is such a push in hospitals nowadays to have BSN's that they are forcing really, really good old nurses to go back to school, while they are working. Which I personally don't know if I could handle.

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    ^ Yeah, having dancer licenses is not as scary as I thought. I've had a couple background checks and my " sexually oriented business licenses " didn't even appear. They were just looking for criminal history which working as an entertainer isn't !
    ( just one case anyway but I always feared this stuff and never have had an issue )

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    Dancing on resume...Fluffed up can read
    Sales representative, consultant or customer service. T in the grand scheme of things dancing is commission based sales job. We just sell a different product then most. Because you are self employed, you do not have to provide references aside from yourself. However, a club could show up on a background check. Most clubs business names are completely different from their dba. The last club I worked at actual business name was Vegas Valley food and beverage. I used this several different ways on resumes depending on the job I was going for.
    My future plan entails still being self employed. I am working towards this goal but am comfortable camming for a good 5-7 more years into my mid 40s. Hell if I am still making good money then may as well cam as a side hustle. Camming has longevity in terms of the adult industry. I want to build a portfolio and get into copy writing, specifically sales copy for adult websites and businesses. I finally found this after years of soul searching...A job where I can continue to be self employed, do not technically need a college education, etc. It will take time but I have plenty of that.
    The fact that you are working toward this is a great thing. Don't let your past interfere with your present. We all wonder how dancing and baking can effect the long term but in this day and age it really does not unless children are involved. I know so many dancers who are studying nursing or are currently working as one. Good for you and keep on keeping on

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