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    Ok so....I never thought I would have an issue like this but... I had a call with a guy and I knew ahead that he wanted me to be more romantic and loving...but he also wanted to be told to suck a cock. This threw me way the hell off because I started the call slow talking more about massaging soft tender kisses and all of that....but he said I was going to fast still. I tried again from another approach and he still said I was going to fast (he only bought 10 mins). I just don't know what the hell he wanted because all he's giving me is be slow, sexy and romantic in 10 mins and make me suck a cock...like wtf??

    Anyway if I try to do a call with him again what are ways I can be more romantic with him because I guess I'm doing something wrong. To me it's hard to be romantic with someone you don't know. I'm used to dirty talking, being more aggressive and commanding with customers so I don't know how to make that work.

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    LOL Weird right! Happens to me all the time now. Its like a head fuck when guys want me to kiss them. They actually want to see me making "kissing" faces to the camera. I find that often its older clients (the ones who didnt grow up with endless internet porn) who want this sort of treatment. Many of these guys are just lonely and want to connect with someone human to human so just try talking to him. Mostly asking him questions about what he likes, where this would take place, what you would wear, how he would touch you etc. etc. etc.

    I love the rush I get when I get clients who want something totally in left field and I nail it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DeepThoughts View Post
    LOL Weird right! Happens to me all the time now. Its like a head fuck when guys want me to kiss them. They actually want to see me making "kissing" faces to the camera. I find that often its older clients (the ones who didnt grow up with endless internet porn) who want this sort of treatment. Many of these guys are just lonely and want to connect with someone human to human so just try talking to him. Mostly asking him questions about what he likes, where this would take place, what you would wear, how he would touch you etc. etc. etc.

    I love the rush I get when I get clients who want something totally in left field and I nail it!
    He called a couple more times so I must be doing something right? or he just likes spending money? lmao. I'm not sure if I nailed it but he's intrested still and said he'll call again. I was just honest after the first call and told him thats not usually my style and not what I'm used to. He told me a little more about what he liked and I did my best with it...he is an interesting person though.

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    I just want to say that the surplus of men that like dick are astronomical, LOL!
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    CocoaBunni,
    You can play by giving him the girlfriend experience or become a "romantic" domme. Usually, you get customers like this who want a "deeper" and more "intimate"bond. Often they want the roleplay to last a long time and you just draw it out to make it last a long time. Just play the dominant girlfriend with him and you both will be happy with the call

    Quote Originally Posted by CocoaBunni View Post
    Ok so....I never thought I would have an issue like this but... I had a call with a guy and I knew ahead that he wanted me to be more romantic and loving...but he also wanted to be told to suck a cock. This threw me way the hell off because I started the call slow talking more about massaging soft tender kisses and all of that....but he said I was going to fast still. I tried again from another approach and he still said I was going to fast (he only bought 10 mins). I just don't know what the hell he wanted because all he's giving me is be slow, sexy and romantic in 10 mins and make me suck a cock...like wtf??

    Anyway if I try to do a call with him again what are ways I can be more romantic with him because I guess I'm doing something wrong. To me it's hard to be romantic with someone you don't know. I'm used to dirty talking, being more aggressive and commanding with customers so I don't know how to make that work.
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    i get guys that tell me they love me baby and expect me to say it back. They think we're in a relationship. it's awkward. I have one that is convinced he's going to get with me and meet me irl and i never even hinted at the notion . creep!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    CocoaBunni,
    You can play by giving him the girlfriend experience or become a "romantic" domme. Usually, you get customers like this who want a "deeper" and more "intimate"bond. Often they want the roleplay to last a long time and you just draw it out to make it last a long time. Just play the dominant girlfriend with him and you both will be happy with the call
    I'll try this when he calls again I've just have never had someone ask for that. It's easy to be dirty but he made me question myself like ummm am I a romantic person?? lmao. Even though I guess I'm not that great at being romantic through my cam persona I think he really likes me still he's a very mushy kind of guy and thats just not me at all unless I have a real deep bond with you online and offline. Time to get in touch with my tender side I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Violethollywood View Post
    i get guys that tell me they love me baby and expect me to say it back. They think we're in a relationship. it's awkward. I have one that is convinced he's going to get with me and meet me irl and i never even hinted at the notion . creep!
    Yea I agree it is awkward to say because saying that to someone means alot to me. If I do say it to a cam customer I quickly move on to something else so we don't have to talk about that anymore lol

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    My trick is to pretend that they are someone I actually do feel attracted to/have romantic feelings for. Getting in that mindset and understanding that they want you to be nurturing and sweet helps me so much. I know plenty of dudes IRL who like cock now and then, so it's easy to slip into it at that point.
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    It seems like you figured this out already, as he's still calling you back (yay!) but I'll toss out my 2 cents anyway.

    Being a romantic accessible GFE type has accidentally become my *thing* (and it's so much more emotional labor than it's worth imo) and for me what sort of makes this type of private (or snapchat video call, which has pulled me off camming) is eye contact with the camera. Do not break it to make sure you look good! It makes this type of guy get all blushy, and sets the experience apart from most of the ladies who are still fixating on how hot they are instead of making it seems like they're looking ~deep into his soul~. Like thatgingercamgirl there's a lot of "method acting" that goes into it, convince yourself YOU want to go slow because you're nervous or really want to get to know him/ try this **new dirty thing** with him etc etc. I'm not sweet or mushy or romantic IRL, it's taking over my life right now though.

    I do something I think I learned from more socially adept teenagers when I was younger (so most of yall probably already know/do it), a sort of fake flirty blush eyelash bat situation, and I really only break eye contact with my lens to do it--like a look down, as authentic as you can muster it smile then bat your eyelashes back up at it. It gives the impression that I'm trying to hide what an AMAZING time i'm having, but they can see through it, they know I'm falling in love, I'm so deliciously transparent.. Worked great for sugar dads too.

    A few other things I've been taking note of since having my boyfriend in the room during some long calls, and his comments--Maybe it's obvious, but if they ask you DEFINITELY want kids. Like your whole life is totally leading up to the three kids you want to have with the right man. Doesn't matter what they're like, if you're domming them, whatever, they want to imagine you getting pregnant (even if they're the cuckold in the situation or whatever). I said I didn't a few times, to prove my BF wrong, but all those guys ended up dropping off the radar after a few calls.

    Also...ugh I can't believe I'm writing it but talk about your daddy or big brother/ uncle whatever. It's gross, but we all knew men were gross, yeah? Especially with my religious guys, this A. takes up a lot of time (recently had 4 hour no nudity call, I was making up camping trips like you wouldn't believe) B. makes them feel like you trust them C. highlights your family values which mean A LOT to more religious or older people.

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    You know, I never would get these types before 2015. Usually, these customers just want more intimacy with their cam or phone encounters with us. As long as he does believe that it is too real and start talking about being with you in real life. Then you should be fine. Usually, these romantic domination guys pay for a long session and it is cool. They do not like the strict domme and want to be encouraged by their dommes

    Quote Originally Posted by CocoaBunni View Post
    I'll try this when he calls again I've just have never had someone ask for that. It's easy to be dirty but he made me question myself like ummm am I a romantic person?? lmao. Even though I guess I'm not that great at being romantic through my cam persona I think he really likes me still he's a very mushy kind of guy and thats just not me at all unless I have a real deep bond with you online and offline. Time to get in touch with my tender side I guess.
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    Actually, you are getting guys who are used to the whole romantic hustle or you getting guys who believe that your relationships with them are real. They have been "spoiled" by cam models and other sex workers who pulled at their heart strings. These sex workers been telling them stuff like "Oh baby, you know that I love you." and "I want to marry you". I have heard of cases where sex workers actually planned weddings to customers and have them pay for the weddings. I am not sure if this is true but I have heard of cases. So, these customers get so used to their heart strings being pulled that they expect everyone to pull them. In addition, you will notice they are demanding more deeper and deeper emotional intimacy. Yes, it is creepy but it is because they have been spoiled. Another explanation is you are attracting guys who believe that your "relationships" are real and demand to meet you.Plus, there are cam models, phone sex operators, and texters who meet their customers. So, they are trying to figure out why you do not want to meet. lol

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    i get guys that tell me they love me baby and expect me to say it back. They think we're in a relationship. it's awkward. I have one that is convinced he's going to get with me and meet me irl and i never even hinted at the notion . creep!
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    Quote Originally Posted by DezMancy View Post
    It seems like you figured this out already, as he's still calling you back (yay!) but I'll toss out my 2 cents anyway.

    Being a romantic accessible GFE type has accidentally become my *thing* (and it's so much more emotional labor than it's worth imo) and for me what sort of makes this type of private (or snapchat video call, which has pulled me off camming) is eye contact with the camera. Do not break it to make sure you look good! It makes this type of guy get all blushy, and sets the experience apart from most of the ladies who are still fixating on how hot they are instead of making it seems like they're looking ~deep into his soul~. Like thatgingercamgirl there's a lot of "method acting" that goes into it, convince yourself YOU want to go slow because you're nervous or really want to get to know him/ try this **new dirty thing** with him etc etc. I'm not sweet or mushy or romantic IRL, it's taking over my life right now though.

    I do something I think I learned from more socially adept teenagers when I was younger (so most of yall probably already know/do it), a sort of fake flirty blush eyelash bat situation, and I really only break eye contact with my lens to do it--like a look down, as authentic as you can muster it smile then bat your eyelashes back up at it. It gives the impression that I'm trying to hide what an AMAZING time i'm having, but they can see through it, they know I'm falling in love, I'm so deliciously transparent.. Worked great for sugar dads too.

    A few other things I've been taking note of since having my boyfriend in the room during some long calls, and his comments--Maybe it's obvious, but if they ask you DEFINITELY want kids. Like your whole life is totally leading up to the three kids you want to have with the right man. Doesn't matter what they're like, if you're domming them, whatever, they want to imagine you getting pregnant (even if they're the cuckold in the situation or whatever). I said I didn't a few times, to prove my BF wrong, but all those guys ended up dropping off the radar after a few calls.

    Also...ugh I can't believe I'm writing it but talk about your daddy or big brother/ uncle whatever. It's gross, but we all knew men were gross, yeah? Especially with my religious guys, this A. takes up a lot of time (recently had 4 hour no nudity call, I was making up camping trips like you wouldn't believe) B. makes them feel like you trust them C. highlights your family values which mean A LOT to more religious or older people.
    This is good advice the only thing is this is a phone call I had with this guy. Phone calls where guys want something more than dirty talk is hard for me because I'm a visual learner. Cam is so much easier for me because I can see reactions to what I say or do like a lip bite, licking lips, moans/grunt..etc but over a phone call has always been a little harder for me. This guy doesn't communicate much on the call and rather sits back and just tells me if its not what he wanted or moans let me know its a go. He has my skype too so after the call he types to me. I maybe should have been a little more specific in my first post on how we were communicating. On cam I have it down pack and I feel like it's easier to make it feel like we have a deeper connection but on the phone it's not as easy for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    You know, I never would get these types before 2015. Usually, these customers just want more intimacy with their cam or phone encounters with us. As long as he does believe that it is too real and start talking about being with you in real life. Then you should be fine. Usually, these romantic domination guys pay for a long session and it is cool. They do not like the strict domme and want to be encouraged by their dommes
    Ohhh yea I knew he definitely wouldn't go for strict and demanding. I didn't even attempt that route after he said he wanted "loving" and "romantic" unless I just felt like wasting my time and his lmao. Phone has just always been a little more difficult for me since I'm a visual learner but I do like a challenge so I just keep trying with the phone guys . I have some easy ones (the dirty guys) to work with but this is my challenge and he made me really think about how I wanted to deliver rather than saying all the agressive dirty talk that comes naturally.

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    They want real life romance... great "turn over all your checks to me, then do the dishes, did you vacuum? did you pay the electric bill, a blow job, when hell freezes over" A man can not demand romance & a blow job at the same time. Definition of a romantic blow job is when that dick is wrapped with a diamond necklace.

    You can not meet the emotional needs of another when they have nothing but bad intentions for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    They want real life romance... great "turn over all your checks to me, then do the dishes, did you vacuum? did you pay the electric bill, a blow job, when hell freezes over" A man can not demand romance & a blow job at the same time. Definition of a romantic blow job is when that dick is wrapped with a diamond necklace.

    You can not meet the emotional needs of another when they have nothing but bad intentions for you.
    He wanted to be told to suck a dick in a romantic sense. My initial thought was how do I romance you into sucking dick? In my mind, there's just no way anyone could even do that for me but I tried it out because I do enjoy trying out something new and just seeing if I could make it work.

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    Dick being wrapped in a diamond necklace is great imagery, Sam38g That is awesome!


    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    They want real life romance... great "turn over all your checks to me, then do the dishes, did you vacuum? did you pay the electric bill, a blow job, when hell freezes over" A man can not demand romance & a blow job at the same time. Definition of a romantic blow job is when that dick is wrapped with a diamond necklace.

    You can not meet the emotional needs of another when they have nothing but bad intentions for you.
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