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    Default Advice on This Flirting Scenario

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    Default Re: Advice on This Flirting Scenario

    I've had guys do that to me, and yeah, it's gross. I'd just continue saying how you really feel, but in a non-threatening way. Like "I feel sorry for the girl you did [gross sexual act] to. That poor girl!" or "You're twisted," etc. I'd assume he's had people respond that way to him in the past, and he's probably used to it. Maybe let him say a couple of things, then respond, and change the subject.

    It sounds like he either has no game, or this is some kind of weird pick-up artist trick like negging. He could be priming you to think of him as sexually competent. lulz

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    Default Re: Advice on This Flirting Scenario

    Idk.

    Quickly change the subject. Or say something like "hey Bob I enjoy talking to you and for the most part you have stimulating conversation however I'm not feeling your locker room topics regarding these other women but I'd much rather get to know more about you. Tell me more about that time you (insert male ego boosting accomplishment here)....."
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    He's playing games. No need to respond. Politely excuse yourself and move on... unless you're still interested

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    Default Re: Advice on This Flirting Scenario

    I also will say if the theory is that he's playing games, it sounds eerily similar to the n*rciss%t.

    When they talk explicitly about other women to you it means he's getting comfortable around you and he could be trying to gauge your reaction. Your reaction could be anything from jealousy to arousal and maybe he wants to see what you are going to do.
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    Default Re: Advice on This Flirting Scenario

    I'm going to be blunt here and say that if he was truly interested in you, he wouldn't be talking about other women in a sexual way to you. That is just really crude. Unless, of course, he is trying to make you jealous, which would be really petty and immature of him. Or, maybe he wants a threesome? Seems a really shitty and unclassy way of going about it though.

    I would just give him a look next time he pulls that shit. Like, "ummmm ok." And stop flirting with him. Unless, of course, you don't really care and just want to have your fun with him. That behavior would turn me off though. That's just me.
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    Guys this is an advanced neg i.e. Reverse friend zone. If you stay "nice" or "hip" you're vulnerable. It also is a way to, so to speak, whistle past the graveyard. "I'm not intimidated by you, hot girl X, see? I just locker room talked you and talked about other women. Yeah, I disrespected you, I'm a bad ass".

    The 1990s advice everyone is now operating on goes:

    1. Everyone is intimidated by hot women, so they're lonely. Show them you're not intimidated, and they're yours.
    2. Be a real man and DON'T try to impress her (read Richard Feynman's bio for explanation) never buy her anything, never pay, then she won't put you in the beta space.

    Maybe that shit did work in the 90s but now, most women know basic PUA defense.

    If you like the guy tell him you're going to wash your ears out with soap, or tell him, does anyone believe any of those stories, or am I the only one that is forced to sit through them? 2nd time he does it tell him "stop. Seriously. You've genuinely offended me".

    If you don't really like him use the line above first. When he apologizes say, "no need to apologize, just please don't do it again".
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    Try to change the topic or flat out say you're uncomfortable with it. I don't think your flirting was as obvious to him as it was to you though lol. Some people (myself included) have to be told point blank that a person is interested in them.

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    This is something I would have done, oh, about 10 or 11 years ago as a teen lmao. When I liked a guy, I would show up with hickies on my neck or act super "slutty" and classless cause I wanted to come off as "cool,experienced, and confident in my sexuality" when really I'm sure it was a HUGE turn off. I was an inexperienced innocent socially awkward little girl so I wanted to do the I'm-not-that-innocent routine because I WAS that innocent and I was self conscious about it. He's immature ..kinda like a 4 year old who does potty talk
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