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    Currently I'm almost 6 months pregnant. My ex has been asking me since we split if I trust him to take care of our daughter without going to court for child support which makes me suspicious right off the bat. He has two kids with his ex wife but I don't think he pays her child support that's court ordered. He's also living with her currently.
    I would have been fine if we came to an agreement outside the system but I really don't think he intends to help fincnacilly now. I've mentioned helping with the crib and change table I want several times and he completely ignores me each time. He hasn't asked once about his daughter since we split and doesn't seem interested one bit. I think the only way I'm getting help from this man is court.
    I'm anxious because I don't know what all info they need from me and how I will be affected. I don't dance at the moment just cam which he doesn't know about although he does know I was dancing. He just knows I have a day job. So my questions are....

    1) when can I file for child support...as soon as the baby is born?
    2) will he find out that I cam if I have to report that?
    3) if I go back to dance after the baby is born I don't want to report it because I'm afraid of all the repercussions like custody, etc. but also worried that if I just report the camming money that could effect my custody since it's not nearly as much as my dancing income and prob even less if I'm caming only part time again.


    i have more concerns but if anyone can address these I'd appreciate it very much! Thanks
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    Quote Originally Posted by Danni View Post
    Currently I'm almost 6 months pregnant. My ex has been asking me since we split if I trust him to take care of our daughter without going to court for child support which makes me suspicious right off the bat. He has two kids with his ex wife but I don't think he pays her child support that's court ordered. He's also living with her currently.
    I would have been fine if we came to an agreement outside the system but I really don't think he intends to help fincnacilly now. I've mentioned helping with the crib and change table I want several times and he completely ignores me each time. He hasn't asked once about his daughter since we split and doesn't seem interested one bit. I think the only way I'm getting help from this man is court.
    I'm anxious because I don't know what all info they need from me and how I will be affected. I don't dance at the moment just cam which he doesn't know about although he does know I was dancing. He just knows I have a day job. So my questions are....

    1) when can I file for child support...as soon as the baby is born?
    2) will he find out that I cam if I have to report that?
    3) if I go back to dance after the baby is born I don't want to report it because I'm afraid of all the repercussions like custody, etc. but also worried that if I just report the camming money that could effect my custody since it's not nearly as much as my dancing income and prob even less if I'm caming only part time again.


    i have more concerns but if anyone can address these I'd appreciate it very much! Thanks
    ^ I don't mean to be an asshole when I say this but why on earth would you have wanted to have a child with a man like that? If you had already known how he was a deadbeat to his other kids? And he's living with his other child's mom? Girl I dunnno........... I really hope you get this sorted out <3
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    Default Re: Questions about child support

    ^^^um it's kind of too late to be asking that kind of question. She's already pregnant not like she can go back and redo.

    And ALWAYS get agreement in writing. Dudes lie through their teeth to preserve their own self interests and well it's not about their interests anymore the kid is the main priority.

    And no he sounds untrustworthy. If he hasn't helped pay for your prenatal doctor visits and won't pay for this crib he is setting the tone that he's going to be tight walleted and needs to be forced to come up off that money.

    Don't ask. Tell his ass like "hey Bob, I ordered the crib and changing table so will you be available tues or Thur to pay for it and have it delivered here. Oh and since I'm pregnant, white glove delivery is extra $50 just so you know"

    Thursday come and he ain't payed for the crib.....

    Get ya lawyer ready so you don't get screwed over. Don't be afraid, your child needs you to be strong. This guy is banking on you to be passive and scary so he can get away with being a cheapskate. A good lawyer can answer your questions.

    *also try mediation first if you want to minimize the negative affects of battling in court
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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    ^ I don't mean to be an asshole when I say this but why on earth would you have wanted to have a child with a man like that? If you had already known how he was a deadbeat to his other kids? And he's living with his other child's mom? Girl I dunnno........... I really hope you get this sorted out <3
    I didn't say he was a deadbeat dad first of all. He is living with them so he doesn't pay child support via court order, just takes care of them.

    Secondly, it wasn't a planned pregnancy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    ^^^um it's kind of too late to be asking that kind of question. She's already pregnant not like she can go back and redo.

    And ALWAYS get agreement in writing. Dudes lie through their teeth to preserve their own self interests and well it's not about their interests anymore the kid is the main priority.

    And no he sounds untrustworthy. If he hasn't helped pay for your prenatal doctor visits and won't pay for this crib he is setting the tone that he's going to be tight walleted and needs to be forced to come up off that money.

    Don't ask. Tell his ass like "hey Bob, I ordered the crib and changing table so will you be available tues or Thur to pay for it and have it delivered here. Oh and since I'm pregnant, white glove delivery is extra $50 just so you know"

    Thursday come and he ain't payed for the crib.....

    Get ya lawyer ready so you don't get screwed over. Don't be afraid, your child needs you to be strong. This guy is banking on you to be passive and scary so he can get away with being a cheapskate. A good lawyer can answer your questions.

    *also try mediation first if you want to minimize the negative affects of battling in court
    Thanks for the advice. I was hoping to use mediation before doing the court thing. Hopefully a lawyer won't be too expensive though. I just cringe thinking about all this.
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    You can only make so much selling dances, but when you really get into a guys head and heart, you get into his wallet.

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