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    Default Stigma behind female customers?

    As a female customer the first few times I went to a strip club I thought that you had to be a VIP member to get lapdances because I was never approached or offered one. I was confused about how strip clubs worked.

    I am confused why women dont get approached. Especially when with a group of guys. Approaching beautiful women who can gracefully climb a pole in 7 inch stilettos is intimidating to say the least. of the women I know who go to strip clubs we value your time $$ I bring $5's

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    Because a lot of women come into tbe clubs and...

    *give us dirty looks or resting bitch face
    *grope us during dances *shudder*
    * are loud and annoying
    *try to give lap dances to their friends (um, we strippers need to pay house fees/annual dues /permits to do that)

    The way to be approached:

    *please don't be overly loud and obnoxious.
    *please DO NOT molest the dancers or grope them
    *smile, tip them, tell them they were great up there and you'd like a dance when she has a chance.
    *don't give lap dances to your friends.
    * don't touch during dances. Be sweet and complimentary.

    Then word will get out that you're respectful and cool, and you'll get approached.


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    CricketB I've gone to the club with a number of "cool" civvies that I wasn't dating. Many of them sit and smile and then want to leave early. But some ... I'll never forget this GF of a friend of mine who asked me to take her. She's a nurse, and a bit nerdy. When she got in there (this was in a fully nude club in Ft Lauderdale) and saw the women, she was stunned, which I thought was funny.

    I got her some dances and right away the dancer could tell we weren't an item, I don't know how. She said, I'll do half for you, and half for her. I of course was my relaxed self, and enjoyed it. My friend though, when the dancer let her touch her leg, she got this look on her face like she had found god. We had been there 10 minutes and she pestered me to take her to the VIP. I was like, seriously? We just got here

    So we go in the back, and it just had a curtain and a round bench type thing, small room. I sat there, not sure what to expect, and the split second the dancer got her outfit off this woman starts grabbing, pawing and kissing the dancer! I told her, hold your horses, chill out, take it slow, nothing worked. She starts sucking her breasts with a look of ecstasy on her face. Then, and keep in mind we have been in the room 15 minutes, she starts offering 1k for OTC! The dancer was very nice about it, and told her "I can't do that hun, sorry" etc. but she kept asking.

    I cut it short though if I remember correctly it was still like $800, and we had the following conversation:

    "Why won't she do it?"
    "Because she's a dancer not an escort!"
    "Then let's get an escort!"
    "Wha... Ok it's someone's bedtime"

    She was drunk obviously but I didn't show my face in there for a year. They're married now I hope they visit a couples escort. Bottom line, 20% of women IMHE are similar.
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    ^^ It is this behavior that makes me run from females. If any woman started groping me and sucking my nipples, I'd fucking clock her.

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    ^^^I probably wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't witnessed it multiple times. The worst thing was the dancer was trying to be really nice about it, and so was I. I should have yanked her out of there instantly but I was too shocked.
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    aren't you a dancer? seems like it from your other posts? if you're a dancer you should know how to be cool and get other dancers attention when you visit clubs as a customer.

    but either way if you're a female, you're just gonna have to be more assertive if you want dances/attention. i go to clubs as a customer all the time and i don't expect dancers to approach me cause honestly, i wouldn't approach me either. even if i'm with my bf we mostly are avoided because like everyone said.. women in the club are usually the worst and if they do spend, its never that much. they always seem to think they're much better customers than they actually are (like.. 5's are nice of course, i appreciate all tips, but if its busy i'm looking for the dude with 20's or 100's to take me to VIP). speaking of, it's probably a good idea to go during a slower time. on a mellow weekday shift i'm much more inclined to try my luck with any women in the club. friday night i wouldn't bother cause there are so many men there and i have a much better success rate with men so why waste my time on a female when there's only like a 10 percent chance she's cool.

    anyways sorry to rant just pick who you like and wait til she's on stage, tip her generously and ask her to come over. or just go up to her while she's on the floor. often times once you buy drinks for/have dances from one girl, more will come by.

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    Because genuine customers who are female are so rare. For every woman who comes into the club to tip the dancers and have a good time there's at least 10 who sit at a table with their friends, run their mouths about how the girls on stage "aren't even that hot" and how "I could do that" blah blah and hit on the male custies for free drinks. Then act like they are a big fucking deal when one shows them attention. No shit, sweetheart. You're available pussy, while the dancers have to be paid for their attention and do less in a dance than you're giving away for free in front of everyone.

    If you're interested in dances you should just do the same thing we tell male custies who want a particular girl. Tip her well on stage and tell her you'd like a dance from her after. You could also tell one of the staff that you'd like a girl/girls for dances. Because so many women are a waste of time dancers tend to not approach them, but once you've indicated that you're looking to spend money, that should change quickly.

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    So I just found out Pure Platinum in Ft Lauderdale is now in legal trouble over being a nude club - something about a court case? Anyone know the latest? /threadjack
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    Default Re: Stigma behind female customers?

    The only woman customers I have ever paid attention to came up to my stage, tipped me without expecting half a lesbian porn scene, and told me they wanted a dance.

    Basically don't come in and act like a stripper unless you're wearing heels and paying house.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Default Re: Stigma behind female customers?

    Most female "customers" (for lack of a better word, since most female "customers" don't spend money) can't leave their ego at the door and they think they're in competition with the dancers. Or they're desperate to appease their boyfriends by being the "cool, chill, non-jealous" girlfriend and they end up shooting us death glares all night.

    Or the ones who do end up getting dances are super gropey and/or end up pushing for OTC action. In my entire career, I can count on one hand the number of good female customers I've encountered.

    I ignore female customers unless they're with men. Even so, it has to be a slow night for me to bother with couples. Now, if a couple approaches me and it's clear they want to spend money on me, my attitude takes a total 360.

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    I’m sorry but I generally you don’t approach couples. Usually the girl just seems to be very cold and/or jealous. I just chalk it up for it not been for me. Every now and again when a girl is clearly open and nice, our offer a dance other than that I just look for single man saves me an energy.My screen is fucked up and I am using the microphone and I refuse to fix any errors LMFAO
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    In my experience, single/lone women are usually not interested in buying dances. They might tip a dollar or two but that's it. Some of them can get just as handsy as men on top of it and don't seem to think that they have to tip or compensate for our time. I've had one chick offer to eat me out and try to get me to go to the bathroom with her. As far as couples go the women tend to be jealous and get angry if I approach them like I'm trying to steal away her man. I don't care for cattiness.

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    They either dont want dances and are just there with friends and guys and having more of a night club experience and just want to look, not get a dance, or they think they can make out with me and touch me all over and do all kinds of things that male customers can't do. I don't know why so many of the women think that's okay. I don't approach women or couple unless I have to. They're one of my "last resorts"

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    Quote Originally Posted by WendiStarr View Post
    As far as couples go the women tend to be jealous and get angry if I approach them like I'm trying to steal away her man. I don't care for cattiness.
    Exactly.

    I had a guy stop me the other night and ask why no girls were approaching them. He was sitting with his wife and another couple. I bullshitted that we don't like to step on any lady customers proverbial toes...

    The true answer was, because your wife has a piss-sour look on her face and is refusing to make eye contact with me even now I'm standing right here, and it's Saturday night, so we have a lot of other customers to choose from who aren't a couple with one angry partner. Also, not one of you has indicated any desire to be approached... you could, oh I don't know, tip the stage? Smile at us when we walk past? C'mon.
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    They're not as generous as men and they control their partner's money(unless she's a former stripper with a rich fiance/husband).

    Usually come in with a skirt/dress and no panties. Then sit with legs wide open. I don't want to see, feel, or smell your vertical smile. Ew.

    Some even get jealous of their man and make the dancer feel uncomfortable...why the fuck go in there then???!


    No thanks.

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    For shits and giggles I was reading some Google reviews about some of the local strip clubs and some of the most critical reviews were from women who were "local guides." (local guides, lol)

    The reviews from the women were basically like "These dancers are too fat/aren't pretty enough to be doing this" or "The dancers are just your average women"


    Or
    "They didn't put on a good stage show. I came here to see some amazing pole tricks I was soooo unimpressed."

    Bitch, this ain't Cirque de Solei! I'm not here to perform dangerous tricks for your measly few dollar bills and amusement.

    That's why there is a stigma against female customers. They are attention-seeking, rude, annoying and have this idea that you must be a perfect 10, porn-star hot girl hanging upside down from the ceiling and then want to engage in a lesbian fantasy with them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    For shits and giggles I was reading some Google reviews about some of the local strip clubs and some of the most critical reviews were from women who were "local guides." (local guides, lol)

    The reviews from the women were basically like "These dancers are too fat/aren't pretty enough to be doing this" or "The dancers are just your average women"


    Or
    "They didn't put on a good stage show. I came here to see some amazing pole tricks I was soooo unimpressed."

    Bitch, this ain't Cirque de Solei! I'm not here to perform dangerous tricks for your measly few dollar bills and amusement.

    That's why there is a stigma against female customers. They are attention-seeking, rude, annoying and have this idea that you must be a perfect 10, porn-star hot girl hanging upside down from the ceiling and then want to engage in a lesbian fantasy with them.
    That's my best friend in a nut shell. It's why I no longer go to clubs with her. She ruins the mood by complaining about how the dancers (in Kansas) don't match up to the dancers she's used to in LA. I mean, the girls here are absolutely gorgeous if you ask me. Nothing wrong with any of them. But she spends the entire time complaining, and gets mad when I watch the stage. C'mon man, don't ruin it for me.. So now, she just doesn't tag along.

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    ^^I've been there - worse is when they DO find the dancers attractive, and think they have a free pass because woman.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post

    Usually come in with a skirt/dress and no panties. Then sit with legs wide open. I don't want to see, feel, or smell your vertical smile. Ew.


    No thanks.



    Omg! I don't think I've ever heard that term before....

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    For shits and giggles I was reading some Google reviews about some of the local strip clubs and some of the most critical reviews were from women who were "local guides." (local guides, lol)

    The reviews from the women were basically like "These dancers are too fat/aren't pretty enough to be doing this" or "The dancers are just your average women"


    Or
    "They didn't put on a good stage show. I came here to see some amazing pole tricks I was soooo unimpressed."

    Bitch, this ain't Cirque de Solei! I'm not here to perform dangerous tricks for your measly few dollar bills and amusement.

    That's why there is a stigma against female customers. They are attention-seeking, rude, annoying and have this idea that you must be a perfect 10, porn-star hot girl hanging upside down from the ceiling and then want to engage in a lesbian fantasy with them.
    Idkw these women get these ideas from... movies/media? But fkn a, go visit a damn Burlesque show then.

    It's called a "gentleman's" club for a reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    For shits and giggles I was reading some Google reviews about some of the local strip clubs and some of the most critical reviews were from women who were "local guides." (local guides, lol)

    The reviews from the women were basically like "These dancers are too fat/aren't pretty enough to be doing this" or "The dancers are just your average women"


    Or
    "They didn't put on a good stage show. I came here to see some amazing pole tricks I was soooo unimpressed."

    Bitch, this ain't Cirque de Solei! I'm not here to perform dangerous tricks for your measly few dollar bills and amusement.

    That's why there is a stigma against female customers. They are attention-seeking, rude, annoying and have this idea that you must be a perfect 10, porn-star hot girl hanging upside down from the ceiling and then want to engage in a lesbian fantasy with them.
    I've noticed the female customers tend to be hundred times picker than one would think the men would ever be. Guys don't mind the little "imperfections" like cellulite, a few extra or few less pounds, different breast sizes, some sag, a bit of belly, etc. But it's the girls who tear apart the dancer's looks and expect every stripper to look like Miranda Kerr or Jenna Jameson. Funny, how the pickiest female customers aren't exactly model like and perfect either.

    It took me finally working as a dancer to understand the female customer stigma. Queer women who are at strip clubs to spend and enjoy the entertainment are rare!

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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    For shits and giggles I was reading some Google reviews about some of the local strip clubs and some of the most critical reviews were from women who were "local guides." (local guides, lol)

    The reviews from the women were basically like "These dancers are too fat/aren't pretty enough to be doing this" or "The dancers are just your average women"


    Or
    "They didn't put on a good stage show. I came here to see some amazing pole tricks I was soooo unimpressed."

    Bitch, this ain't Cirque de Solei! I'm not here to perform dangerous tricks for your measly few dollar bills and amusement.

    That's why there is a stigma against female customers. They are attention-seeking, rude, annoying and have this idea that you must be a perfect 10, porn-star hot girl hanging upside down from the ceiling and then want to engage in a lesbian fantasy with them.
    OMG this reminded me of something too good not to post here.


    My home club had a female "friend of the owner" who would talk shit about all of us while she fucked the owner for free and probably did his friends too.

    She managed to get free breast implant surgery...but never got into dancing.

    Last I heard she got dumped by her fiance, is fatter than me now and sold her expensive wedding gown because she gave up on holding a dude down. Shit or get off the pot ho!! lol

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    As a customer I actually don't normally enjoy female customers in the club because so often they are disruptive. Last time I was in a club with female customers they were obnoxious to say the least and one took her top off which was . . . . HORRIBLE! Those moments are burned in my mind and I need brain bleach desperately. She was not attractive and her breasts frankly looked like partially inflated dachshunds balloon animals that had been in the sun too long. I rarely have any issues with any breasts ever but these were nightmarish.
    Just my $.02.

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    Someone here said that the woman of the couple controls the money. This is very true and you should remember that. Trust me when I tell you that when my wife and I are in a club we are looking to spend money. If we are sitting at the stage we are tipping and we are tipping well. Much better than the 55 year old PL that will only give you a single. We are there to get a few private dances and then decide which girl to take to VIP. Yes I have seen most of the things that are mentioned here but on a night when the club is full of guys that are just looking and not paying for their entertainment maybe you should walk over to that couple that has a stack of cash on the table in front of them. They are the ones that are going to keep you from going home broke.

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