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    Mind Blowing going back after being in psych hospital

    I was planning on going back to work 2 weeks ago but I ended up being sectioned in a psych ward instead (I could see myself spiraling down though) Im out of hospital now and in debt again, Ive been out of work for 3 weeks and I plan to go back and audition at secrets once the break is over, but I feel like such a failure for being away from work for so long especially as Ive only been stripping for a short while, and Im scared of it being a disaster and it all crashing down around me

    I also just want to rant about the psych hospitals in the uk, in both the hospitals Ive been in the patients have been treated as if we are criminals. When I had breakdowns, (which were not violent) I was threatened with being forcibly injected and put in seclusion as a punishment, (although they didn't actually do it to me, they did do it to other patients) and watched as other patients were dragged across the floor by staff who just generally seemed to not care about us at all

    sorry I just had to get that out

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    Sorry you had to go through all that. Do you think the time in the psych ward helped? Is there any medication that helps you? Do you have a doctor to go to, that's familiar with your condition?

    I posted this in another thread, but I think it's relevant to what you posted.


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    That sucks.

    I find sometimes people/places operate like factories or machines or robots with no regard to the individual or what they may be going through. Some people are so overly desensitized to their jobs they lack compassion and treat humans as if they are just a number to them.

    Hope you're okay now.
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    Oh Bunnydoll, I want to give you a great big hug
    You've been through a lot and shouldn't feel like a failure.
    Cliched but true: if you broke your leg would you feel like a failure for going into a hospital?

    It must be difficult having to jump into work so soon after your hospital stay, especially with debt hanging over you. I wish you all the best. Is there no other way to manage your debt to give you some recovery time?

    I'm still recovering from my last psych hospitalization last year! Very unpleasant places in the UK it's true.

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    Secrets are not very strict with scheduling so that should suit you.

    Not sure what type or how much debt you have, but it might be worth getting in touch with the Citizens Advice Bureau or StepChange debt charity, to see if theres a way of taking some of the immediate pressure off by maybe putting debts or interest on hold and paying off over a different time period etc..they are very helpful.

    Also, if you did enter into a debt management plan, your illness would be taken into account as you would be considered a 'vulnerable person'.

    StepChange would explain all of this to you, but basically your creditors should not be able to harrass you for payments once they have had confirmation from StepChange that you have a management plan underway.
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    Default Re: going back after being in psych hospital

    ^^^ this.

    My mom suffered breakdowns in England and was admitted to a ward at different stages - however they were very nice and caring towards her - she never needed help financially thankfully but she was offered various solutions if she did and you should probably talk to a patient liaison or counsellor who can be a point of contact for you and help you through this.

    Mental health is a tough thing to beat, but you can get it under wraps so I really wish you a speedy recovery in all ways

    xo

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpvc View Post
    Oh Bunnydoll, I want to give you a great big hug
    You've been through a lot and shouldn't feel like a failure.
    Cliched but true: if you broke your leg would you feel like a failure for going into a hospital?

    It must be difficult having to jump into work so soon after your hospital stay, especially with debt hanging over you. I wish you all the best. Is there no other way to manage your debt to give you some recovery time?

    I'm still recovering from my last psych hospitalization last year! Very unpleasant places in the UK it's true.
    yes tbh Ive heard of a lot of people getting traumatized after leaving psych wards, imo they often do more harm than good. My debt is only small but I have my uni and phone bills to pay too. Ive been trying to get to work at my other 0-hour agency job but they told me that it was all booked up and i 'should have phoned earlier', i was in hospital 'earlier' and there was no connection for me to phone about work. My uni wont let me return to study yet because of their policies but Im trying to work at recovery so theyll let me back, then I can get back to stripping.

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    Is escorting too much brain damage? It's pretty simple to set yourself up on adult work.co.uk but I realize it's not for everyone

    xo

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    Are there not any benefits you can claim for now, the London club scene is tough and probably not what you need right now, or try one of the strip pubs they are less stressful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by chanzep View Post
    Are there not any benefits you can claim for now, the London club scene is tough and probably not what you need right now, or try one of the strip pubs they are less stressful.
    no i cant claim benefits, I didnt find it too stressful stripping in london but I think I need to aim lower than i was doing. I just miss the normality of work tbh it made me get out of bed and do something

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    Having a routine is kinda everything hun. Maybe try to structure your day ... breakfast, gym, set time to wake up etc?

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    Quote Originally Posted by persianprincess View Post
    Is escorting too much brain damage? It's pretty simple to set yourself up on adult work.co.uk but I realize it's not for everyone

    xo
    This crossed my mind too.

    I do both and personally, escorting probably suits me more than stripping does. I have mental health issues too and tend towards introversion.

    In ways I find one-on-one interaction with an escort client for a few hours with an agreed guaranteed profit preferable to long hours in the club environment with all the different people and politics it involves.

    Having said that, I only see a small number of clients I feel very comfortable with on a semi regular basis which is why it works for me. There are obviously pros and cons either way and it definitely wouldn't be a good idea to jump into escorting without a lot of consideration first.

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    Yeh jumping into it wouldn't be a good plan. I am similar to you in the sense, I love knowing that when a client books I am getting a guaranteed amount and not just winging it hoping/trying for a good night in the club - though stripping gets me out the house and into a more social space I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bunnydoll View Post
    I was planning on going back to work 2 weeks ago but I ended up being sectioned in a psych ward instead (I could see myself spiraling down though) Im out of hospital now and in debt again, Ive been out of work for 3 weeks and I plan to go back and audition at secrets once the break is over, but I feel like such a failure for being away from work for so long especially as Ive only been stripping for a short while, and Im scared of it being a disaster and it all crashing down around me

    I also just want to rant about the psych hospitals in the uk, in both the hospitals Ive been in the patients have been treated as if we are criminals. When I had breakdowns, (which were not violent) I was threatened with being forcibly injected and put in seclusion as a punishment, (although they didn't actually do it to me, they did do it to other patients) and watched as other patients were dragged across the floor by staff who just generally seemed to not care about us at all

    sorry I just had to get that out
    Wow that is crazy! I can't believe they would treat suffering human beings so badly. Unfortunately I'm not shocked. Ugh.

    I recently went through severe burnout. I felt guilty because I needed to work. I just have to remember if I don't take care of myself I'm not any good to anyone. I understand the frustration. For me, treating depression usually is not a chemical imbalance, it means I'm not taking care of myself. Biologically speaking feelings are DO CLUES. Depression-in my case-was a DO CLUE to take care of myself. I used the time to start attending some 12 step groups. Which it seems silly, but it's free therapy. It meets my needs. Yeah, I have to take what people say with a grain of salt, but right now it's better than not getting any help.

    In the U.S. it's not uncommon to offer 25% and settle medical debt. Do they not have affordable health care in the UK?

    By by taking care of yourself now, you will end up being further ahead. My advice is to not beat yourself up and just relax the best you can. Take it one day at a time and focus on making the next right choice.

    Is really logical to feel like a failure for getting help?

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    I just wanna say, I'm so sorry you're going thru this..
    I'm on Tumblr & psych2go.net has some helpful tips on self care if you'd ever want to check it out.
    Good luck.


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    Ok.... I hope what I am about to say isn't offensive and if the mods don't feel what I am saying is appropriate, please delete, but I feel this is very important for people dealing with mental illness/tough times:

    Avoid inpatient psychiatric care at all costs unless you are in immediate danger of suicide!!!! (like alone with a gun or pills or something.) Or if you have tons of money and can afford a nice facility. It sounds like from what you are saying the UK is similar to here in the US as in they DO treat you like you are a CRIMINAL. To this day I am dealing with trauma (I am in counselling) due to abuse in mental hospitals. The nurses and orderlies will yell at you, be impatient, rude, basically treat you like trash and a burden. The doctors would literally spend 3 minutes a day with me and wouldn't listen. I was misdiagnosed and put on hardcore antipsychotics when all i was was just suicidal, not crazy (I hate that word but you know what I mean). Also I found out later at this facility that there were people here who had committed violent crimes and were there on insanity pleas! So I was housed with potentially dangerous people. Oh, and males and females patients. were not separated so there was sexual harassment. So I went in not well, and came out more screwed up and now have to live with that trauma the rest of my life.

    I did not mean to threadjack and I am sure not all hospitals are like this and I know under funding is a major issue. All I am saying is, if you feel you need hospitalization, research where you are going and if uninsured (even with obamacare places don't want to take you) be VERY VERY wary. So I would use mental hospitals only as a last resort to protect you from immediate peril. I just want to warn others so your mental health conditions are not made worse from these awful places. If anyone wants to PM me in private about this, please do so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ifyouseekamy View Post
    Wow that is crazy! I can't believe they would treat suffering human beings so badly. Unfortunately I'm not shocked. Ugh.
    Yes, they do.

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    Dance, however: if you are on meds, don't go on and off them while dancing. I got fired once for doing that, and it makes you feel like the biggest fuck up on the planet. Seriously, either be on them, or don't.

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