Hey girls.
There was a thread about having agoraphobia. This is something similar i suppose. I am a sweet kind girl that tends to avoid bad situations so i'd rather please everyone around me so i don't encounter them. I simply don't know how to say NO to something/somebody that makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially if they are some some persons i care about. I tend to lock it in and get angry by myself when nobody watches and do it anyway.
One good example is one of my few girlfriends is getting married. She wants me to be her bridesmaid. I will do it because I love her, i have no problem with that. But she wants my boyfriend to be the best man evan tough he saw the groom only twice in his life (she finds it easier because we are a couple). So the best man has to do all this personal stuff for the groom in my countries traditons. Like the bachelor party. I feel bad for putting my boyfriend trough this because i am simply afraid to say NO to my girlfriend (or don't know how to say NO in a way that won't upset her).
Anyway, that is just an example of me not beeing able to say NO.
Is this thing weird? Or do you encounter it yourself aswell sometimes? How do you make yourself say it ? I feel like such a freaking weirdo, i think it's just anxiety & i do stuff that don't make me happy because i can't say no.




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