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    Dizzy Maybe you can help?

    Okay so as I sat around in an unhealthy relationship with the father of my kids I started to think about the possibility of becoming a stripper and I started realizing that it was really the only thing that made sense for quick money to save up and get a lease signed back in my home state. So I started working out to get toned stepping up my make up game from natural look to a bit more full faced I read some books at the library about sales and have been endlessly researching online. My freaking dilemma though is sooooo annoying, I don't have a job I'm not allowed to have a job according to him and this is why I'm leaving (it literally JUST got bad out of no where, we moved in together n he turned into someone else) but I know I can drive to the club and work a few hours while he's at work and I have a babysitter. He puts gas in my car and gives me a card to buy groceries but if I were to buy heels with his card I would probably be causing a whole mess of trouble. I know it's a very ugly situation, I'm trying to get out and once I am I'm going to work endlessly to help other domestic violence victims for the rest of my life. Anyways I'm sorry I ramble, lately I am unconnected with myself and can't articulate things properly. I was wondering if there was a site I could buy used shoes on maybe so it wouldn't be yandy.com or something on the bank statement? Any soul sister out there willing to help a desperate mama out with some shoes till she can make enough money to pay you back. And if nothing and your reading this post all the way to the end just send some strength and love my way ladies. I'll always carry nothing but respect for each and every one of you 💝

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    A couple of ideas:

    1. you can buy dancer shoes on Amazon.com and the bank statement will only say that you bought something from amazon, not specifically what the item was (as long as you use your own amazon account). If he asks what you bought, you could buy something else too and say that the cost of the other item was as expensive as the total amount was.

    2. you can use his card to get cash back at the grocery store, and then buy the shoes with cash. You might have to think up a reasonable explanation for why you needed cash if he asks though (i'm not sure if it shows up on a bank statement or just gives the total of groceries+cash on the bank statement). Perhaps you wanted to buy some fresh fruit at a fruit stand that was cash only?

    3. you can buy dancer shoes at a sex shop and also buy something like a vibrator and then come home with the vibrator (throw away the receipt) and say that it was an expensive vibrator that cost the full amount of how much will be on the bank statement and say you wanted to surprise him with a treat or whatever.

    I'm proud of you for recognizing this relationship is unhealthy. He is obviously trying to isolate and control you. Good luck and when you start making your money make sure you put it in a secret bank account that he doesn't know about.
    Do your future self a favor and work hard now.

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    You can also buy a Visa gift card and then use it to buy shoes online. I like snaz75.com

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    Thank you ladies I didn't think about these options. I'm gonna go out this weekend and buy some shoes. Fingers crossed I can get away with this and leave his sorry ass. ��

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    Do you have a pair of civilian boots or sexy shoes you could use for your first few shifts before you can afford to buy dancer shoes with your own cash? I danced in civilian shoes for an embarrassingly long amount of time when I started working in a dive (I was so naive!).

    Many dressing rooms will even have a lost and found pile of shoes you can pick through, too..

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    I wish you all the luck in the world!
    I've found some cute shoes @ Goodwill, for 5.00, like Charlie says they're 'civvie' shoes but just to get started w/
    & yea some clubs will have shoes/ outfits


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    Geez, what a controlling A-hole...

    Like the others have said. You can take cash out on the credit card, or wear civvie shoes your first couple of shifts. Do you live in a city where you'd have to pay for an entertainers permit? You'd have to come up with that as well.

    Can you take out a line of credit at a bank? Or open ypur own account under your own name?

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    What size shoe do you wear? Someone at work is giving away free shoes. Maybe I can help you out.

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    Ok if its your first night just wear sexy high heels! Doesn't have to be stripper shoes. I didn't buy my first pair of stripper shoes until a couple of nights in. Some dancers I work with now wear civilian shoes for whatever reason (usually foot problems).

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