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    Newbie here but not new really new to the whole gentleman club thing.

    Like this forum cause you get the respective from the dancer... So the other day I was at the club and I spent a good amount of money and time on this dancer. It was fun which was my intentions. I have no intentions to see her OTC because I'm married and she was definitely acknowledging that (had my wedding ring on).

    Anyway, she was giving me some real high mileage dancing a lot different from what she was giving the other customers. She was doing all this because she side I was very attractive and that she would "fuck" me but she respects my marriage lol. As we're sitting there she grabs my phone and puts her contact information in there. I don't pay it any mind cause I told her in so many words,that when I come in town, I'll come to show her some love. So she says for me to text her whenever I'm a be in town and she can make arrangements to perform at the club. I'm like cool that will work.

    Fast forward 3 weeks and I text her (Tuesday)that I will be in town Thursday. She responds back and says she will be there. When I get there she's not there lol. It's not that big of a deal but man she missed out. I was about to give her half of my fanduel winnings (thank you Lebron) lol

    So my question is how do dancers view customers/custies/etc... Texting them? I made it clear (or at least I hope) that all I want to be is a customer. I know I may be a dime-a-dozen to her but damn guaranteed money is guaranteed money... I mean does letting a dancer know you're coming to the club mean anything? Or do y'all get 50'of those texts a day?

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    It depends how much you were spending if it means enough for her to work a day she was planning not to. Also depends how much work you are. Like, I have customers I would NOT make a special trip for because they either don't spend enough or are mentally exhausting.. I have one I will always come in for because he pays me to sit in my street clothes at the bar.

    For real though, I wouldn't take it personal. A lot of us truthfully do rather abuse the fact that we have no real schedule & if you've seen the Scumbag Brain meme, that's about the shape of it sometimes.
    Here's my stream of thought in this scenario as a stripper:
    Tuesday: "Oh sweet. I can just take his money, then kick back the next 3 hours, walk out with guaranteed $xxx"
    Thursday: *friend invites me out/catches a cold/just doesn't feel like working* "Eh, I'll work tomorrow... it's Friday... I'll make what he was gonna give me and then actually work the rest of the night."

    Also, you are guaranteeing us that hour VIP or whatever, but it doesn't mean we will make anything the next 4 hours we have to be there, so it's easy for us to just say "fuck it" because we are usually pretty sure we will sell at LEAST whatever you were promising us the next day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    It depends how much you were spending if it means enough for her to work a day she was planning not to. Also depends how much work you are. Like, I have customers I would NOT make a special trip for because they either don't spend enough or are mentally exhausting.. I have one I will always come in for because he pays me to sit in my street clothes at the bar.

    For real though, I wouldn't take it personal. A lot of us truthfully do rather abuse the fact that we have no real schedule & if you've seen the Scumbag Brain meme, that's about the shape of it sometimes.
    Here's my stream of thought in this scenario as a stripper:
    Tuesday: "Oh sweet. I can just take his money, then kick back the next 3 hours, walk out with guaranteed $xxx"
    Thursday: *friend invites me out/catches a cold/just doesn't feel like working* "Eh, I'll work tomorrow... it's Friday... I'll make what he was gonna give me and then actually work the rest of the night."

    Also, you are guaranteeing us that hour VIP or whatever, but it doesn't mean we will make anything the next 4 hours we have to be there, so it's easy for us to just say "fuck it" because we are usually pretty sure we will sell at LEAST whatever you were promising us the next day.
    Thanks for the reply and that makes sense. I've only seen her twice so Im not a "regular". I told her that I would text to know her work schedule and if mine and hers match then Ill come see her. Which that's what she suggested in regard to her putting her contact info in my phone.

    I didnt want her to thing a change or make a special trip to see me. It was more of a "hey Im in town. You working tonight?" type of thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    Newbie here but not new really new to the whole gentleman club thing.

    Like this forum cause you get the respective from the dancer... So the other day I was at the club and I spent a good amount of money and time on this dancer. It was fun which was my intentions. I have no intentions to see her OTC because I'm married and she was definitely acknowledging that (had my wedding ring on).

    Anyway, she was giving me some real high mileage dancing a lot different from what she was giving the other customers. She was doing all this because she side I was very attractive and that she would "fuck" me but she respects my marriage lol. As we're sitting there she grabs my phone and puts her contact information in there. I don't pay it any mind cause I told her in so many words,that when I come in town, I'll come to show her some love. So she says for me to text her whenever I'm a be in town and she can make arrangements to perform at the club. I'm like cool that will work.

    Fast forward 3 weeks and I text her (Tuesday)that I will be in town Thursday. She responds back and says she will be there. When I get there she's not there lol. It's not that big of a deal but man she missed out. I was about to give her half of my fanduel winnings (thank you Lebron) lol

    So my question is how do dancers view customers/custies/etc... Texting them? I made it clear (or at least I hope) that all I want to be is a customer. I know I may be a dime-a-dozen to her but damn guaranteed money is guaranteed money... I mean does letting a dancer know you're coming to the club mean anything? Or do y'all get 50'of those texts a day?
    Yeah she may have thought you were bullshiting. She may have thought if she invests time spent commuting and doing hair/nails/makeup/wardrobe/etc, money (dancers have to pay a stage fee - which is sometimes required before starting a shift as well as other fees including costs to commute to the club), and energy into showing up for a shift on her off day that you either wouldn't show up or spend so little it wouldn't be worth it. Either that or she just has poor work ethic.
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    I always try to make it in for things like that but if something comes up.. then something comes up.

    Can't tell you how many times I got that text and the guy either didn't show up or didn't spend hardly any money even though he did the last time.

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    Guy here. I'll give you my perspective, even though you asked for a dancers' perspective. I've had several dancers give me their cell phone numbers so I could call them next time I wanted to come to the club. The first time this happened, I was very flattered. She was an older dancer and said she would LOVE to see me again and we should hang out. It sounded like she wanted to go out on a date with me. The second time I got a dancer's number, she was a young nervous newbie dancer. She said I was her very first custie, and, I had made her feel very comfortable. We laughed a lot. She made a whole big deal about giving me her number. We even came up with code language for texting, so I would not get in trouble with my girlfriend. But, by the sixth time I got a dancer's number, I realized this was just a normal part of the dancer-custie relationship. It is like getting the number of an attractive accountant or sales lady. It only means they want your business.

    My advice to you would be: (1) don't take it personally, and (2) you should text her on the day you are going to the club to confirm that she will be there. A lot can happen in two days. You can't expect her to text you back with change of plans. She may have a lot of custies texting her everyday and is not going to remember who texted her two days ago.
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    Default Re: Texting a stripper

    Like you said, you're not quite "regular" yet, like she knows for certain that you will be in. I would say that about 90% of the time a customer said he'd come in and see me on a certain day, he never showed up. I never went in specifically to see someone, I just had a very regular schedule, but still. I just came to expect that to not be true. Maybe that's the case, or maybe she just got busy, or maybe she was there, already in VIP with someone else all night who came in before you. Who knows? If you really become a good, reliable regular, she might start making special efforts to come in when you text her. But until then, I wouldn't take it personally.
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    Another customer perspective....I have a lot of dancers want to provide info for texting....but I typically don't bother unless it is somewhere I am a regular....and even then, I don't get to hung up on a specific dancer working...except for two ladies I see have seen often on my visits to Vegas over last few years. One at Rhino and one at CH3, as I usually spend more heavily when on Vegas trips (about 4-5 times a year) they have never failed to,show up and be ready for some fun times for me/revenue generation for themselves. I usually text them though far enough ahead so they know my travel schedule to Vegas.. almost like having Vegas wives......

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Guy here. I'll give you my perspective, even though you asked for a dancers' perspective. I've had several dancers give me their cell phone numbers so I could call them next time I wanted to come to the club. The first time this happened, I was very flattered. She was an older dancer and said she would LOVE to see me again and we should hang out. It sounded like she wanted to go out on a date with me. The second time I got a dancer's number, she was a young nervous newbie dancer. She said I was her very first custie, and, I had made her feel very comfortable. We laughed a lot. She made a whole big deal about giving me her number. We even came up with code language for texting, so I would not get in trouble with my girlfriend. But, by the sixth time I got a dancer's number, I realized this was just a normal part of the dancer-custie relationship. It is like getting the number of an attractive accountant or sales lady. It only means they want your business.

    My advice to you would be: (1) don't take it personally, and (2) you should text her on the day you are going to the club to confirm that she will be there. A lot can happen in two days. You can't expect her to text you back with change of plans. She may have a lot of custies texting her everyday and is not going to remember who texted her two days ago.
    Yea thats true in regard to texting her the day of instead of a couple of days in advance. Ill try that next week when Im in Atlanta working.

    Kind of on the same topic but while I was in the club (same one) last week I met another dancer in where we exchanged contact info. Pretty much for the same reasons of me letting her know when Im in town. If I let dancer #2 know that Im in town and she says shes working a particular day but dancer #1 (the one from the original post) is there as well how does that play out? Lol... I would think they wouldnt really care as long as they are making money. But if its a slow night and not that much money circulating, could it be a potential problem? Especially since they both know Im willing to spend all my money on them.

    Like I said I just want to be a good customer. No drama mess or craziness Lol. So I dont know how often two dancers will have the same "regular" on a particular night and if there is some type of dancer code/etiquette or something.

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    Have fun and avoid drama - buy lap dances from both of them. Invite them both to sit with you and buy them both drinks. You can ask them to both dance for you at the same time, or, you can take turns with them.

    Another option - bring a friend with you.

    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    If I let dancer #2 know that Im in town and she says shes working a particular day but dancer #1 (the one from the original post) is there as well how does that play out? Lol... I would think they wouldnt really care as long as they are making money. But if its a slow night and not that much money circulating, could it be a potential problem? Especially since they both know Im willing to spend all my money on them.
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    I don't save customers numbers so if you were going to make me come in for a basic dance or something cheap why waste my gas money and time. I only come in on my set days and not my days off unless it's worth it. It's probably best to mention the length of time you'd like to spend with the girl in the text if you really like her.

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    I always show up for my appointments however the guys tend to flake a LOT therefore I don't go in on a day I was not going to work unless I KNOW for a fact this guy is not going to flake. However if she texted you and said she would be there and then didn't show up, then that isn't a good look and I would absolutely move on with another dancer that is more reliable.

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    Strippers are really unreliable and often lazy even they could make guaranteed money.

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    Get started with that stuff and she'll start texting you like clockwork every time it's the least bit slow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Get started with that stuff and she'll start texting you like clockwork every time it's the least bit slow.
    Yea I know. I guess its good that I live 2hrs away and only come there when I have to work in that city and if Im bored lol

    But to her credit she seems pretty good about following up on texts. I took one of the dancer's on here advice and texted her on the day that Im coming in. She responded and showed up & even came to get me while I sitting at the bar waiting for her to come out. That was one time but hey it worked lol

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    When I worked at a Club (as a Bouncer), I always reccomended to the newbies to get a 2nd cell phone and use it to build a client base that you can text guys and let cust know that you are working. There are flakes on both sides. But the 1st thing that I would recommend to a guy is text a picture to the girl so she remembers what you look like. also text something about how much you spent or will be spending tonight. Ie: That was the best $300 or $400, or $1000 dollars that I have ever spent...or I have $700 to spend tonight whatever your number is. By sending a photo it helps put a face to your text. By mentioning an amount it helps her decide if it is worth it to come in. Some were charged a higher percentage when they come in on days that they are not scheduled. SO get that shit lined up.

    In my experience 90% of the women lived far from the club and it was usually a long drive to get there so sometimes you need to plan these things out. Just a side note... We had girls that lived in Calabasas, Big Bear, San Diego, Riverside or Bakersfield and they would drive all the way to North Hollywood. Those are some serious commutes to come for $100.

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    Im kinda curious... why dont you just find you a nice sweet woman off of Backpage or seeking arrangements that you can text... Ive found the women on BP or SA are so much more willing to talk and engage and meet for dates and such? I Like to play the law of averages. And the averages are you will have much more success with a Sugar baby than you will have with a Stripper.

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