Hello! (if this needs to be in hustle hut or other, please move)
So I have been dancing for a few years off and on now. I acknowledge that I am a bit burned out and jaded, and am returning after a several months break to try again, but I need help.
WHAT do you all do when a guy or group of 5 comes in, sits ONE row away from the tip rail so they don't "have" to tip, are obviously watching the show, and girl after girl goes up on stage, doing amazing shit and looking great... and they tip NOTHING or maybe $2 total for the entire group every 15 min or so. Generally these are slow dives where if THEY don't pay something, NO ONE is making any money. At all. Except the bartender of course.
I get LIVID. I get SO ANGRY and I feel taken advantage of and stolen from. I feel like it is un-just. When money is good, I can let it roll off, but this is motherfucking Portland, and it has been shit lately... at least for me. So this is REALLY getting under my skin to the point that it ruins my day, I often leave early/walk out, and ruminate about it for weeks.
Lately a few times I have gone up to people and said something along the lines of "Hi! How's it going? Have you ever been to a strip club before? Did you forget to go get some tipping dollars? You know you are supposed to be tipping if you are watching the show, right? Sitting here watching without tipping is basically like stealing. Do you like to work for free? Because I don't."
The above is said with a smile and I am trying to stay calm but I start getting so FUCKING angry, and I feel like my voice starts to shake, and then I am shaky and pissed the rest of the evening. Occasionally people will tip at least the next girl on stage. Many just leave, which I am totally ok with. Once or twice the guy starts tipping but mostly it seems like they are 100% aware of what they are doing and do not fucking care and know they will likely get away with it. The sense of entitlement these customers have make me want to rip their fucking throats out.
Am I supposed to just let this role off?? Is the bartender/DJ/whoever not responsible for making sure people aren't fucking STEALING from us?? I put a lot of heart into my show, but lately I feel like just standing there and staring at the patrons with my arms crossed, like wtF are you looking at? I know it's not a good look or a good hustleI know it's a huge turn off. But when I am not being PAID SHIT to be nice or attractive, I can't keep up the good attitude for long. I try to just tune them out and dance for myself, get my free workout, whatever... but often I cannot shake it off anymore.
Help? Advice? Am I too far gone and need to hang up the heels?
This is not an issue of unattractive dancers, crappy stage presence etc. We all have our off days, but I have pole game, great body, etc and so do many of the other dancers getting shafted.
Considering driving to Bend, Salem, or other states at this point to see if it's just a Portland thing....
Thanks in advance



I know it's a huge turn off. But when I am not being PAID SHIT to be nice or attractive, I can't keep up the good attitude for long. I try to just tune them out and dance for myself, get my free workout, whatever... but often I cannot shake it off anymore.
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