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    Dizzy Do You Ever Turn Down Money???

    I really only turn down money if the person giving me money tries to get me to degrade myself or the person has too many strings attached so I get confused when I give money away (with no strings attached and nothing degrading to them) and people on occasion turn it down.

    Just curious as to what are some other reasons people would turn down money

    Ive just accepted it as one of those things a percentage of people will turn down money and i wouldn't try to force the issue but it does make me wonder why.

    Have you turned down money and why?
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    This is assuming that the person offering money really had the money and was willing to pay? Yes, I do turn down money, particularly when the guy was being stupid. When I worked in the strip club I had a couple guys who came right out and said that they would give me $100, $200, $300, or x amount for sex. I have had a guy wave two 20 dollar bills at me and tell me that he would give that to me if I gave him a blowjob. Coming right out and offering money for sex or sexual acts is illegal and can cause people to be busted for prostitution. That's just not something that should be brought up at a strip club or ever, really. Not all strippers escort and I would think that the smart ones would know to be more discrete and keep escorting separate from the club. I've also had dumb cam customers and phone sex customers who've asked me,"How much money would it take for me to be able to have sex with you?" I've had a platonic cuddling client ask me if he paid me more would I be willing to have sex with him. I don't care if they offered me $500 or $1k. If they're going to ask a dumb question like that I will turn them down.

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    Default Re: Do You Ever Turn Down Money???

    That's very wise of you and that makes sense. I hate when dumb men make offers that can land a person in world of trouble.

    Maybe your first question was the answer? Do people accept money from others based on how wealthy they perceive them to be? Or do people (who may be wealthy) turn down money/money less than x amount?

    I don't think I'd accept money from a bag lady or an elderly person on social security but everyone else I'd receive money from.
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    Just did tonight, more or less. Very strange story
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    Just did tonight, more or less. Very strange story
    well!!!!!???

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    I have turned down dances (money) many times if the guy is smelly, obese (not always, but sometimes it's too much work physically to try to stay on their lap), and/or I know that they are a pervert or think they will be one. I have also declined a regular, on occasion, who is way too much psychological work too. There was a guy who was obviously cognitively disabled who used to frequent our club and I felt really badly when dancers would hustle him. In regular life, I always try to decline money from my family (not that they try to give me tons of money, but more like if they think I can't afford something).

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    Default Re: Do You Ever Turn Down Money???

    Plenty of times. Some men think they can get whatever they want. Don't think so.

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    Default Re: Do You Ever Turn Down Money???

    I'm assuming you more mean out of the club. Like when a family member or friend tried to offer you money. I typically decline money from anyone "trying to help me out", unless it's a gift (like in a card or for a holiday). Most people in my life who would offer me money as a "favor", want something else in exchange... friendship, trust, control, etc. If I'm not comfortable with the exchange (typically I'll offer friendship and trust for "free" or rather... if it's earned), than I'll refuse.

    One family member in particular keeps pushing me to accept monetary offers from them. In the past, I accepted monetary assistance from them for a medical procedure... they were a parental figure I thought I could trust and who would offer me the assistance regurdless, esp since I was living with them at the time and still barely an adult. Turns out, several years later, they used that as a reasoning to tell my extended family that I had used and tricked them into helping me with my medical bills. They wanted to be able to ostracize me from the entire family so the truth of why I left their care wouldn't come to light. I never did tell any of them about how that person was abusive and how it was my decision to leave, and how it was really hard for me to get out of there. Most of them have only heard the story about how I manipulated that person and was finally kicked out. It took me years to have any kind of decent and very distant relationship with that person, but will I EVER accept help or money from them again for ANYTHING? Absolutely not.

    Now this person had strings attached obviously. But, had I kept a policy in place to never accept help from anyone in the first place (without knowing what they wanted in exchange), I could have covered my back. Many people are like that and are afraid of being in dept to another person in that way, because many times what isn't an exchange of goods and currency, is an exchange of power. Unless I am completely confident in that person and how trustworthy they are... or I know what they want from me and am happy to give it... then I politely decline and store that memory in the bank to determine what this person's motivation is later on.
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    Default Re: Do You Ever Turn Down Money???

    Yes I turn down money from guys who are disrespectful, demanding, entitled and difficult. Anyone who acts like they are doing me a favor by buying a dance from me is not worth it! I also won't dance with a guy who seems rough or aggressive because I've had bad experiences dancing for guys like that. Any type of pushiness on his end or trying to take control is a big no no with me because I HAVE to be the one in control! Lol

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    All the time, because the money is just bullshit & what they want seems to always go way beyond my boundaries & crosses into them being predators. If they pay, then that is also a great defense in a court of law and to discredit you.

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    Default Re: Do You Ever Turn Down Money???

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    All the time, because the money is just bullshit & what they want seems to always go way beyond my boundaries & crosses into them being predators. If they pay, then that is also a great defense in a court of law and to discredit you.
    THIS ^^^^^^^

    I had a guy offer to pay off my debts in I let him assault me in ways that could have ended in permanent disfigurement or death. I declined.

    I'm greedy, but I'm not stupid.

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    If a guy is spending a lot of money and behaves more fucked up on alcohol than me where he can barely walk, despite his protests to continue, I will end the dances.

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    Yes, all the time. For instance, I'm not going to piss off the girl onstage by playing a genre she hates, when some of these guys insist they have to hear it next.

    And the other night this guy offered me 50$ to play a few riffs on his harmonica. Couldn't really do it in this club.
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    all the time

    makes sense to turn down cash if I can make more doing something else, or need the time more than I need the $$$$$

    cam-wise I turn down anything I'm not into or don't feel like doing at that moment, I couldn't do this work if I felt I ever needed to see a particular client

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    Yuppers, because all money isn't good money.

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    Yes, sometimes from well-spending regulars whose behavior I just couldn't take anymore. No amount of money is worth sabotaging your mental or physical health. The more experience I get as a sex worker, the more particular I get about what/who I will put up with.

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    Lol if I get a "bad vibe" form someone or like suddenly my intuition perks up and anxiety swells in my stomach regardless of how much money someone is offereing or their demeaned/behavior I'll literally walk away from money left for me or thrown on the ground and not return until that person is distracted with another girl or just fully left the club ....lol prolly stupid to overall income but has worked in keeping me safe so




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    Also I'll turn down champagne rooms/lap dances involving working with other girls in the club that I know get it more poppin than I do cuz I don't want to feel pressure to go past my boundaries....cuz it happened a few times and I just straight decided to stop working like that cuz I was getting hurt by it.




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